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About the soulmate thingy...
I think the best thing I've been able to take from my breakup was the fact that, yes, there are (wo)men out there that I can actually be compatible with, up to the level of letting them 100% into every aspect of my (somewhat erratic and disturbing) life, which in my view is a "soulmate".
I can get very picky, but right now all I want is someone of moderate to substantial intelligence with an appreciation of the good things in life that I can chill with. Oh, and lots of sex.
 
Stopping in the middle of a big party party weekend just to say that I think we are more than compatiable with many different people we meet in our lives. It also depends on the individual though, for example someone who is flexible and has a wider range of interests is more likely to be compatiable with more 'types' of people.
We shouldn't get too hung up on the notion of there being just 'one' for each of us, because I tend to believe life is a bit more forgiving than to simply just give us one chance at happiness. For now, while you're still young, I say, haha.. LOVE THE ONE YOUR WITH!!! lol... or whoever should be sitting next to you when you're peaking. lol..
"...And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course."
- Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
That's my attitude on things, just let it happen. In the meantime, kick back and enjoy yourselves. Not very deep I know, but I think the simplest answers are sometimes the best.
I don't plan to get into a relationship until I meet someone who really makes my world flip upside down. There are enough mediocre things in this life, don't let love be one of them. Hold out, respect yourself and save your deepest feelings for someone who deserves it.
Hope everyone has a great Monday/Cup Eve night in Melb, and ROCK THE TOWN!!! :D
[ 04 November 2002: Message edited by: hoptis ]
 
*Cosmic Mist*:
I'm only cynical because I haven't had someone like you in my life... *flutter eyelids*
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SERENITY NOW!
 
^^^ Awww Shucks! *Blushes* Well maybe you should change your surroundings then - come to sydney! lol :)
And my dear Mr Jester, you don't want much do you? I think your description of what you are looking for is what half the people on this board are looking for... or maybe i speak only for myself, who knows? All i can say is that if there is someone out there that meets all those criteria, they're MINE! ;)
Hoptis: Someone once said to me: Don't settle for the one you can live with, wait for the one you cannot live without. I think you should do youthful things while you are young and can enjoy them, but you shouldn't sell your self short in the process by wasting your time in a pointless relationship. Well that is my spin on things... :)
[ 04 November 2002: Message edited by: *Cosmic Mist* ]
 
One person? That's a romantic concept but I think it's really, really unrealistic. I think there are many people we could 'connect' with throughout our lives but timing and circumstance may mean we never get to follow it through.
Once you start to wonder whether your s/o is 'the one' then you're over-analysing. Hold on to the person who makes you smile today and tomorrow will sort itself out.
 
Originally posted by Queen Beat:
Once you start to wonder whether your s/o is 'the one' then you're over-analysing. Hold on to the person who makes you smile today and tomorrow will sort itself out.
couldn't agree with you more.
too tired to type much about this but i will say this. imo over-analysing is a very dangerous thing to do and can quickly spin things totally out of preportion...especially if you don't realise you're doing it or if you let yourself get carried away and don't get off that spiral.
 
To Queen Beat, my bestest friend in the whole wide world....
was that advice directed at me by any chance?? :)
 
I think the two of you are over-analysing my post. It was completely random. No real purpose. No real point. No real person it was directed at.
I promise. ;)
 
I was gonna write something constructive but I am too sad to do anything like that :( Damn it, I thought id never let someone else break me :(
 
well i am glad my little questions got a good response, some interesting replies!
i am thinking that there is just too many potential partners out there for there to be just one perfect person, i mean in the end, you will end up with a perfect person, but they are only perfect for a certain time, people change and so do feelings, so i guess there is "perfect" people out there for you, but it is just who is perfect for you at that certain point in your life.
personally i cant fathom spending the rest of my life with just one person at this point in time, but i guess that all changes when you get those giddy feelings of love, and you give yourself completely to the other person, because then nothing else in the world really matters does it?
hmmmm deep hehhehe
Boppychick: dont worry hun, you will feel better soon, because i will come cheer you up!
 
i wasn't over-analysing anything... i just liked what you said....maybe i didn't get my point across very well cus i was quite tired when i replied. so it seems it's you who's over analysing :D :P
 
I know it's horribly selfish, but I can't give up partying for her. I know it's horrible, but I LOVE music, and I can't just stop going to vlubs/parties because that's what she wants. And unfortunetely should wouldn't let me do that, even though it's what she wants. So maybe i'm selfish, but I am NOT going to give up something I love so much that will be around long after i'm over her..
/me goes back to angry loner land
 
Good on ya hardicus. I wouldn't give it up for her either. Anyone that asks you to give up something that you love for them doesn't love the real you anyways.
To answer the question I was going to before:
I dont think there is just one person for each of us. Just many pontential people. Well I hope so anyways :) If there wqas only one for each of us hardly any of us would find that one. Hey maybe thats why the divorce rate is so high hey!
 
I think there are many people *simular* to what is "perfect" for us... which makes the road in life a lil bumpy.. Just got to find the *one* quickly... otherwise the bumps get bigger.
But hey, I'm a big believe in fate and karma, you know it's going to work out in the end... *gulp*
I hope.. ;)
 
Hey Hardicus, i'm listening to this song at the moment, and it's kind of (although not really) talking about a similar situation to yours...
Generally speaking, just go with the flow i say! If it feels good, then do it - it's better to regret something you did, than to spend the rest of your life wondering what would have happened if you didn't... :)
*speads some merriment and smiles*
 
I don't think there is anyone out there for me. I used to get quite upset about that. But now I don't care since I have fun in life anyway.
 
I'm not sure of my status at the moment...
things are happening..... and they may be with someone off bluelight... :)
erch... stuff so confusing!!!!
[ 05 November 2002: Message edited by: star_beats ]
 
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