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fb1: You have met the right person, she just lives in melbourne and werks near me ;) U know who :P she's mentioned u a few times :)
 
Hey Dante, that sounds very similar to my Yr11 relationship. Rather short, not much happened, crappy ending.
"I think we should break up"
"Do you want to talk about it?"
"Hhhmmm, nah."
They must have put something in the drinking water there. :P
 
Why is there such a desire to hook up and be in a relationship? Being single is fantastic. You can wake up to a beautiful person one morning and a sexy, hot person the next. You can huggle the best person for hugs one day, and snog the best snogger the next. You can grow and make yourself stronger, without depending on anyone else at all. You can call your friends when you need a hand and you know they will always be there, because there is no break up. You can do what you want when you want where you want without wondering what someone else thinks, or wants. You can be part of everyone's lives, and not icsolate yourself around one in particular. You dont cause barriers - so people can talk to you better. And you can make closer friends easier because you dont expose your feelings to only one.
You dont get jealous ex's, you dont get people chasing after your partner, you dont get jealous of your partner. All you get to do is have pure fun. AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
OKAY OKAY, I KNOW I AM WITH SOMEONE
and it does take a while to trust someone enough to get close to you - because of how fuct relationships are when they end ... but I'm getting there and *deep breath* I AM going for the ride of a relationship...
WISH ME LUCK *scared look*
 
Originally posted by MoW^WoW:
Why is there such a desire to hook up and be in a relationship?
hehehe... genetics? yeah. society? hmm, prolly a factor. all your friends are in one? maybe. The whole parents/family factor? that too... nesting? not me, but others I'm sure have those feelings.
But there's also that element of choice, and it's just so damn nice to have someone you can always be yourself with, can always let your barriers down with, are guaranteed to wake up with them next to you on a saturday morning (rather than some dodgy looking bloke who's name you can't remember, not that it's ever happened to me of course! ;) ). That whole intimacy thing is really nice :) . You choose to have that. Cuddles with someone you love are just sooo goooood... nothing can match that feeling of safety and security.
Don't want much do we!
Plus, you always have someone to go to the movies with. Highly underated feature of relationships. ;)
Cups :)
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Well, damnit looks like its time for me to join this crew also. Just finished a very drawn out break up last night. Worst thing was she was the person who introduced me to clubbing and now I have no one to go out with... So if anyone in sydney feels like befriending a wounded dog....
 
OMG
As if you cant be yourself in front of your friends. Cuddle up to a good friend. Maybe even have a casual romantic intimate night. You can get a sense of security and safety from a friend which lasts FOREVER. A friend forever is sooo much better than a short lived relationship.
When you think back on memories of times with friends, you dont have to get all teary eyed because you know they are still there for you. With an ex, you cry over not having the same sense of feeling in your life, and get down about losing someone who meant so much to you.
Genetics? Nesting? Yeh, but looking for someone to settle with and "nest" is enough to scare a lot of people away... and how do you know if you have made the right decision when you think you have found someone to nest with? The feeling of security and "love" can occur with many people over time, so how can you be certain your with the right one?
 
tarsy - that depends on the person. If its blown out of proportion and people start saying "I love you - i have loved you for so long" then it will ruin the friendship, but if both people are mutual about the event then it shouldnt change a thing. Just a bit of fun.
 
Hey, I was just postulating some theories :) and I certainly don't want to nest myself! I was just exploring why people feel the need to get into relationships. I love a hug off a good friend and enjoy an intimacy with some friends that will never be touched by a partner.
But a partner is different than a friend. There is nothing wrong with wanting that sort of closeness, it's healthy. Particularly if you remain close with your friends too, which a lot of couples don't.
Also I'm actually friends with most of my ex's, so I haven't lost their friendship through breaking up. I really make an effort to do if it's a clean break up. Of course it takes a while, but I actually get along with most of them better now! One's getting married in August and I am really looking forward to going to the wedding :) .
I agree with you Tarsy, casual intimate fun with friends more often than not develops issues later... of course this depends on both yourself and the friend! For me personally it's not good, but it may be fine for others. Each to their own :)
But yeah Mow^Wow, I've experienced that feeling of 'do I trust myself this time?' when I get into a new relationship re: the whole is he the one for me thing. I'm just an optimist ;) . I guess the answer is maybe you can't know, maybe it's about faith. Some couples know, some don't. OUr generation is going to be particularly fucked up on this one after our parents experiences! :)
[ 21 April 2002: Message edited by: 2 of Cups ]
 
Aw 2 of cups u just wrote the best post :)
Yeh I am still friends with all my ex's too.. and love them to death. I get so cynical about relationships - but you've pointed out things I already knew, except reading it makes things a lot more clearer. And yeah, sleeping with friends can stuff things up, but as I said, not always.
*hugs 2 of Cups*
Better to experience it and have fun, other than not experience it at all??
EEK i think i have made the singles thread quieter, maybe I should have posted in "Sex, Love and Relationships"
;)
*jumps up and down*
 
aw shucks thanks :) *hugs Mow^Wow back*
Gawd, it is sickening though, I shouldn't be this damn positive about how it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all, I just broke up with someone 2 weeks ago! Maybe I'm growing up... or maybe you just build up a tolerance to breaking up the more times you do it ;)
 
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