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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!
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Dante
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deeCee: Hell, there's nothing wrong about having a permanent spot in this thread... You get street cred 
Well, at least I think I've got cred...
Anywho, I'm deciding that I'm not allowed to be so nice to people anymore... basically, I get to the point where it's no challenge for anyone I'm interested in to actually get into a relationship. I've got to stop being so nice.
Cause (to use an overused cheeseball quote) nice guys finish last...
Well, at least I think I've got cred...
Anywho, I'm deciding that I'm not allowed to be so nice to people anymore... basically, I get to the point where it's no challenge for anyone I'm interested in to actually get into a relationship. I've got to stop being so nice.
Cause (to use an overused cheeseball quote) nice guys finish last...
Russ
Bluelighter
I definetly need to get out of this thread.
I have recently had a major motorbike accident, and am only getting back to normal life again. (People may of noticed that I have not been around, but most likely not)
Anyway, I really need to pick up as I still have a broken right hand, and I can't do anything for myself, if you know what I mean.
So, I am going out tonight (not clubbing, still to sore), and will be cashing in on the sympathy vote. (Once girls spot my cast)
(Oh yeah, if you are at Hospital and they offer you the Happy gas, go for it. This was my first time with Nitro, and FARK ME!!!! I was sucking on that baby for over an hour)
[ 26 April 2002: Message edited by: Russ ]
I have recently had a major motorbike accident, and am only getting back to normal life again. (People may of noticed that I have not been around, but most likely not)
Anyway, I really need to pick up as I still have a broken right hand, and I can't do anything for myself, if you know what I mean.
So, I am going out tonight (not clubbing, still to sore), and will be cashing in on the sympathy vote. (Once girls spot my cast)
(Oh yeah, if you are at Hospital and they offer you the Happy gas, go for it. This was my first time with Nitro, and FARK ME!!!! I was sucking on that baby for over an hour)
[ 26 April 2002: Message edited by: Russ ]
Boppychick
Bluelighter
Didn't we establish in the other thread that not all 'nice guys' finish last? The only people that finish last are those who think they finish last. Just because someone doesn't have a bf or gf, does't mean they are coming last, infact being single is lots of fun and can by some people by considered some of the best times of your lives. You have all the rest of your life to be committed to one person once you get married. So, make use of this time all you guys are single coz later on when you are in a relationship you might just want to get out again. Thiks does not apply in my situation though. Happily unsingle... back to couples thread now, bye 
All i can say is make the most of it wihlst it lasts and you will appreciate being single later... being single for longer also sometimes helps people to have better committed relationships when they actually do get into one because they appreciate it more... oh shit, i was going wasn't i???
All i can say is make the most of it wihlst it lasts and you will appreciate being single later... being single for longer also sometimes helps people to have better committed relationships when they actually do get into one because they appreciate it more... oh shit, i was going wasn't i???
miss apple
Bluelighter
Originally posted by up all night:
I don't know....I think if I knew what I wanted and actively looked for those qualities I might overlook someone who might be what I need rather then just what I want.
That's more where I'm coming from.
I keep saying to myself that I'm looking for someone but what is 'looking' for someone? All I do is go out with my friends and make sure I say yes to as many invites to dinner and drinks etc as possible cause you never know when someone will appear. But I don't go and chat people up. Ever
I don't really have any specifics about the type of person I want to go out with (well...I guess I have guildelines) cause I don't want to rule anyone out. I'm still pretty picky though...does that make sense? Hmmm maybe not.
I guess I just think I'm going to know the person when I meet them.
But Tars....I've tried to avoid thinking about the 'perfect' person. Your post bothered me a little...just cause I'm so afraid that the person that I like (if I ever meet them) is going to be so hung up on his idea of his 'perfect' girlfriend that I'm never going to meet his standards. Everyone talks about wanting girls who are happy, confident, intelligent, great sense of humour, slim, attractive etc etc etc. And the reality is that I don't really live up to all this!! Anyone who lists their perfect partner I just shy away from cause I have plenty of negative aspects to my personality that I'm not terribly proud of. And trying to live up to someone's idea of a perfect girlfriend is just too much pressure to deal with.
I guess my ideal man is just someone who loves me for me...someone I can say anything around and do anything around. Someone who can put up with my not-so-nice-bits occasionally but still love me anyway.
This post is long enough already but I do have to say I'm finding age is becoming a bit of a factor in me not finding anyone. I'm looking for >28 year olds (preferrably over 30) but most people in that age group, if they're nice and attractive and not afraid of long term relationships, are already taken. Seriously. The number of guys I've met out and thought they were lovely only to find out they are living with their girlfriend is astounding. But I guess I can't do anything about it. I'll just have to wait for a 30 year old who's been avoiding commitment all their life but when they meet me just have this urge to stay with me for a long time
[ 26 April 2002: Message edited by: miss apple ]
Tarsarlan
Bluelighter
Dante: How is not being nice going to challenge people?
And regardless, you can be nice and still present a challenge (if that's what you want, personally when I next meet someone I'm interested in, the less of a challenge they are as far as forming a relationship goes the better, I hate relationship games... Honesty, tact, and being straight-forward are important to me, games are not...)
Someone with a challenging out look on life is another story however... Not someone whom it is a challenge to get along with, but someone who enjoys the challenges life presents you with and is more than happy to solve them with you (and allows you to help solve theirs) ...Challenge is good, but only where necessary...
Apples: Don't let my post bother you, I'm sure I'm not at all a representative of most guy's opinion on relationships... Just look at all the people roaming places like Chapel st of a weekend (I'm sure Sydney has its equivalent, that place where all the greasy, sleezy guys hang out and drive around in their hotted up cars, trying to impress each other and the equally disgraceful girls (and going about impressing them and trying to pick up in all the wrong ways)). And aside from the lowest common denominator, I'd think most guys have much more vague ideas of what they want than I do...
Also, I can assure you those two girls whom I mentioned above also thought they had a few too many faults... In my eyes they didn't, or at least those faults were, as I said, inconsequential... In other words, you might think that you're not good enough for a particular person, but they may think that you are...
Besides, if someone did hold the same views as I do, and they met someone like yourself who has some reservations about someone who knows exactly what they want, that person would be more than likely to let you know if they were interested... I know I certainly would, if I meet someone who even comes close to what I want, I will let her know...
I have had some reservations about mentioning my thoughts on this topic, but none of this would stop someone from wanting to be my friend, infact it would probably assure people that I don't want anything more than friendship from them and so make it easier for me to approach them... And that would be enough for me to get to know them well enough to decide if I'm interested, and then convince them that I truly am interested... It may make it harder in the long run, but well, I can deal with it, I'm way past the stage of being sorry for myself 'cos I'm single...
And finally, my idea of the perfect girl has changed over the years... Someone interested enough could make some more changes with a little effort... There's a challenge for someone out there, wherever she may be...
[ 26 April 2002: Message edited by: Tarsarlan ]
And regardless, you can be nice and still present a challenge (if that's what you want, personally when I next meet someone I'm interested in, the less of a challenge they are as far as forming a relationship goes the better, I hate relationship games... Honesty, tact, and being straight-forward are important to me, games are not...)
Someone with a challenging out look on life is another story however... Not someone whom it is a challenge to get along with, but someone who enjoys the challenges life presents you with and is more than happy to solve them with you (and allows you to help solve theirs) ...Challenge is good, but only where necessary...
Apples: Don't let my post bother you, I'm sure I'm not at all a representative of most guy's opinion on relationships... Just look at all the people roaming places like Chapel st of a weekend (I'm sure Sydney has its equivalent, that place where all the greasy, sleezy guys hang out and drive around in their hotted up cars, trying to impress each other and the equally disgraceful girls (and going about impressing them and trying to pick up in all the wrong ways)). And aside from the lowest common denominator, I'd think most guys have much more vague ideas of what they want than I do...
Also, I can assure you those two girls whom I mentioned above also thought they had a few too many faults... In my eyes they didn't, or at least those faults were, as I said, inconsequential... In other words, you might think that you're not good enough for a particular person, but they may think that you are...
Besides, if someone did hold the same views as I do, and they met someone like yourself who has some reservations about someone who knows exactly what they want, that person would be more than likely to let you know if they were interested... I know I certainly would, if I meet someone who even comes close to what I want, I will let her know...
I have had some reservations about mentioning my thoughts on this topic, but none of this would stop someone from wanting to be my friend, infact it would probably assure people that I don't want anything more than friendship from them and so make it easier for me to approach them... And that would be enough for me to get to know them well enough to decide if I'm interested, and then convince them that I truly am interested... It may make it harder in the long run, but well, I can deal with it, I'm way past the stage of being sorry for myself 'cos I'm single...
And finally, my idea of the perfect girl has changed over the years... Someone interested enough could make some more changes with a little effort... There's a challenge for someone out there, wherever she may be...
[ 26 April 2002: Message edited by: Tarsarlan ]
miss apple
Bluelighter
I had a dream last night that I had just met a boy...and it was really lovely to have someone to hug and snuggle up to. Then I woke up.
sigh
sigh
miss apple
Bluelighter
lucky you.
shouldn't you be in the couples thread?
shouldn't you be in the couples thread?
gelly
Bluelighter
I hear you GLOBAL, getting to know that situation pretty well man, ah well... what can u do!
up all night
Bluelight Crew
Pleonastic
Bluelighter
LOL - to all the couples in this thread - think back to when you were single and how much you hated people saying "it'll happen soon" and "just stop looking and suddenly you'll find someone"...
Sucked didn't it...
Sucked didn't it...
Fetish Jester
Bluelighter
Well, that was great.... 
*looks at watch*
I was not single for 2 months.
At least it ended pretty good.
"Look, I think we should just go back to being friends."
"Man, you beat me to it."
So, back again to whining about how I need somebody to hug.
*looks at watch*
I was not single for 2 months.
At least it ended pretty good.
"Look, I think we should just go back to being friends."
"Man, you beat me to it."
So, back again to whining about how I need somebody to hug.
Kandeman
Bluelighter
Well after nearly 4 years being single, I can now depart !! *Waves*
ChEmIcaL_NiGhT
Bluelighter
and with that..
*chem also departs from the singles thread*
Now where is there G/f of mine
*chem also departs from the singles thread*
Now where is there G/f of mine
2 of Cups
Bluelighter
Agree with you Pleo; although common sense tells us that the couples who say these things may be right, that doesn't mean we have to like it
And I feel your pain Miss Apple and up all night, dreams are the best when you're having them, but waking up is a bitch (specially when it's monday after a 4 day weekend... )
And I feel your pain Miss Apple and up all night, dreams are the best when you're having them, but waking up is a bitch (specially when it's monday after a 4 day weekend...
)(knows he should be in the couples thread, but...)
Don't fuck around when opportunity knocks. All those wonderful sayings about the right person will come along fail to mention you might miss it easily if you don't reach well outside your comfort zone.
Little things like the fact that a woman lives in a different country are no real obstacle if it's the right person
Don't fuck around when opportunity knocks. All those wonderful sayings about the right person will come along fail to mention you might miss it easily if you don't reach well outside your comfort zone.
Little things like the fact that a woman lives in a different country are no real obstacle if it's the right person
2 of Cups
Bluelighter
Originally posted by heath:
Little things like the fact that a woman lives in a different country are no real obstacle if it's the right person
Can you PLEASE tell this to my ex? *sad grin*
Sorry, having a bad day for this one. One minute he's sending me confusing sms about how he doesn't know where he wants to be geographically speaking (cos he's currently in another state and soon to be going back to his home country), and saying how much he misses me and how I am his perfect woman, and the next he's pulling the colder shoulder (although still friendly).
I need a hug, I'm in hug withdrawal! *ARGH*
miss apple
Bluelighter
Originally posted by bisKi_b:
miss apple - i know.. but i thought i'd drop by and say a few encouraging lines...
***runs back to the couples thread***
without trying to be rude...please spare us the smug little 'it'll happen soon' comments. Instead of making me feel better they just make me want to commit violent acts against you. thanks.