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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!
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neverwas
Bluelighter
BopGirl...can i join instead of CM???... 
CM YAY for meeting people at infected!!! ((((hugs))))
well im enjoying my single life. i rang my dad to day and got the ur 22 y rnt u ready to settle yet...i also found out my friend got married last week in tasmania...my other old friend got engaged to some french guy called Franseco and my 18yr old hermit cousin is getting married in Nov...*sighs*...i think im goin to die single...it depresses me when i sit here and look at all my old firends who r now engaged ready to settle and shit...*but they do live in tasmania*...*shrugs*...oh well...come what may :D
*rolls a ke gin and sits in corner and drinks with 1234 and moebro* cheers boys :D
CM YAY for meeting people at infected!!! ((((hugs))))
well im enjoying my single life. i rang my dad to day and got the ur 22 y rnt u ready to settle yet...i also found out my friend got married last week in tasmania...my other old friend got engaged to some french guy called Franseco and my 18yr old hermit cousin is getting married in Nov...*sighs*...i think im goin to die single...it depresses me when i sit here and look at all my old firends who r now engaged ready to settle and shit...*but they do live in tasmania*...*shrugs*...oh well...come what may :D
*rolls a ke gin and sits in corner and drinks with 1234 and moebro* cheers boys :D
neverwas
Bluelighter
BopGirl...can i join instead of CM???...
CM YAY for meeting people at infected!!! ((((hugs))))
well im enjoying my single life. i rang my dad to day and got the ur 22 y rnt u ready to settle yet...i also found out my friend got married last week in tasmania...my other old friend got engaged to some french guy called Franseco and my 18yr old hermit cousin is getting married in Nov...*sighs*...i think im goin to die single...it depresses me when i sit here and look at all my old firends who r now engaged ready to settle and shit...*but they do live in tasmania*...*shrugs*...oh well...come what may :D
*rolls a keg in and sits in corner and drinks with 1234 and moebro* cheers boys :D
moe:somehow i am always drawn back to this thread...u just cant seem to escape it 8) *cuddles you in the corner...its ok hun*
CM YAY for meeting people at infected!!! ((((hugs))))
well im enjoying my single life. i rang my dad to day and got the ur 22 y rnt u ready to settle yet...i also found out my friend got married last week in tasmania...my other old friend got engaged to some french guy called Franseco and my 18yr old hermit cousin is getting married in Nov...*sighs*...i think im goin to die single...it depresses me when i sit here and look at all my old firends who r now engaged ready to settle and shit...*but they do live in tasmania*...*shrugs*...oh well...come what may :D
*rolls a keg in and sits in corner and drinks with 1234 and moebro* cheers boys :D
moe:somehow i am always drawn back to this thread...u just cant seem to escape it 8) *cuddles you in the corner...its ok hun*
onetwothreefour
Bluelight Crew
^^^ sweeet :D
in regards to actually promoting *discussion* in this thread, i was wondering how people feel about this issue - when you first meet someone, and are thinking of them as a romantic interest, how different do you act? as in, of course you're going to flirt, but do you pay extra special attention to *that annoying trait* that you have, and just hope they don't notice, or maybe you become one of those clingy 'yes people' who just agrees with everything the other person says?
myself, i really don't think i change that much, and it may be one of my problems. i think perhaps, when everyone else is off showing off and flirting, i just act like my boring, annoying, unusual self, and thus never get any interest. 'tis my own fault then
in regards to actually promoting *discussion* in this thread, i was wondering how people feel about this issue - when you first meet someone, and are thinking of them as a romantic interest, how different do you act? as in, of course you're going to flirt, but do you pay extra special attention to *that annoying trait* that you have, and just hope they don't notice, or maybe you become one of those clingy 'yes people' who just agrees with everything the other person says?
myself, i really don't think i change that much, and it may be one of my problems. i think perhaps, when everyone else is off showing off and flirting, i just act like my boring, annoying, unusual self, and thus never get any interest. 'tis my own fault then
doofqueen
Bluelighter
i'm always who i am...silly and ditsy...sociale and i think alot of fun cos im full of energy and bubbles
It doesnt matter if i like someone or not...i'm still going to act the same but maybe just be an even bigger flirt
It doesnt matter if i like someone or not...i'm still going to act the same but maybe just be an even bigger flirt
onetwothreefour said:
I dont think I look attractive normally, so being drunk (which is what i am, most of the time I go out) isn't gonna make me look any better.
Change when I meet new people? If I want to make a new friend, whats the point in being different?? Eventually they're gonna see my 'normal' self and be disappointed, so, when out, I'm as shy and retired as I am around already-friends. Unless im meth-ed up or something along those lines... They should market a confidence-boosting drug
meh.
Cosmic Mist
Bluelighter
when i met people that i thought of possibily being more than friends with, i go out of my way not to impress them. This may sound silly, but it means that i know the eventual person i find *sighs and smiles happily* will want me for who i am, and not who they thought i was.
Of course, that meant being single for almost two years before finding the right person, and then meeting him almost by accident, but hey, there's a method to my madness...
Of course, that meant being single for almost two years before finding the right person, and then meeting him almost by accident, but hey, there's a method to my madness...
yeah its strange now I treat everyone the same now. Kinda weird cause then they dont know whether im interested or not but the bonus is i can send people text messages saying yeah had a great night would love to c u again soon without feeling like its a statement like hey u had nice tits can i fuck them... if u catch my drift..
And CM i must have struck out big time hehehe... u impressive doll
And CM i must have struck out big time hehehe... u impressive doll
neverwas
Bluelighter
onetwothreefour said:
in regards to actually promoting *discussion* in this thread, i was wondering how people feel about this issue - when you first meet someone, and are thinking of them as a romantic interest, how different do you act? as in, of course you're going to flirt, but do you pay extra special attention to *that annoying trait* that you have, and just hope they don't notice, or maybe you become one of those clingy 'yes people' who just agrees with everything the other person says?
myself, i really don't think i change that much, and it may be one of my problems. i think perhaps, when everyone else is off showing off and flirting, i just act like my boring, annoying, unusual self, and thus never get any interest. 'tis my own fault then
i dont change to much either. pretty much what u see is what u get. i do tend to focus more on the little details though. picking at faults mainly to stop myself from being interested or even thinking im worth being taken interest in *shrugs* i try to make faults to make myself think in a negative way.
i tend to be a type of person that will step back and let others take an interest first. i always think others have better chances than i o. so why should i bother
im very scared of rejection and getting hurt by the simple words...nah im not interested...*i think i went off on a totally diff tangen there*
i wont change to suit anyone...im happy being me. the messed up individual that people either love or hate. one day who knows...maybe i will find someone i dont need to b different with. someone who wont make me mask the true me.
does anyone else feel they wear a 'mask' someitmes to b someone they r not in an attempt to b happy or even semi happy when it comes to relationships and looking for them?
*sits in corner with 1234 and moe and drinks beer all night and day*
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mmmmm
beer
who? huh?
mask?
last night? whu?
meh
My voice tends to be monotone... it sucks
so hard to express emotions sometimes, and if you can call that a mask, so be it. I hide my emotions by not revealing any interest/awe
beer
who? huh?
mask?
last night? whu?
meh
My voice tends to be monotone... it sucks
so hard to express emotions sometimes, and if you can call that a mask, so be it. I hide my emotions by not revealing any interest/awe
onetwothreefour said:
If I'm just after a root, no problem. I walk up and start talking like a cocky bastard.
If I want to be friends, then I'll come across friendly, neutral and interested; pretty much myself.
If I really, really, really like someone. You'll usually find me on the other side of the room.
![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
Raz
Bluelighter
Ummm....I'm hopeless at picking up. If it's just for sex, then I have to be drunk before I get it anyways, and then I'm usually so paranoid that I'm misinterpreting that it's still a miracle if anything ever gets done....8)
And if it's anything more than just sex? Well then it really goes out the window...see, here's a few funny things about me:
1ST: If someone's interested in me OBVIOUSLY (like telling me how cute I am etc etc) that TOTALLY turns me off because straight away it says "STALKER POTENTIAL".
2ND: If I have sex with someone before I make friends with him, then it makes it really hard for me to have sex with him in future. It's like, "we're friends now, we can't fuck."
I dunno, call it crazy emotional happenings, call it insecurity, call it whatever....but it's there....
--Raz--
And if it's anything more than just sex? Well then it really goes out the window...see, here's a few funny things about me:
1ST: If someone's interested in me OBVIOUSLY (like telling me how cute I am etc etc) that TOTALLY turns me off because straight away it says "STALKER POTENTIAL".
2ND: If I have sex with someone before I make friends with him, then it makes it really hard for me to have sex with him in future. It's like, "we're friends now, we can't fuck."
I dunno, call it crazy emotional happenings, call it insecurity, call it whatever....but it's there....
--Raz--
miss apple
Bluelighter
This is a good topic. Because the way I act when I meet someone I like frustrates the hell out of me. I have no idea if it ever affects what the other person thinks about me, but I know it drives me crazy.
When I really like someone, I act completely differently to how I normally do. When I'm on a first date or something, I either talk far too much and never let them get a word in because that's what i do when i'm nervous, or I close up and don't say a thing because I'm so scared that I'll say something wrong that they will be turned off....or because I'm scared that I'll babble too much!
Then I get all insecure about my own failings, things which I'm comfortable with when I'm around my friends, but things I don't want a prospective partner to see just yet. So I start saying stupid things trying to explain my actions and justifying them so they don't think the worst of me.
Basically I lose my confidence...and when that is probably what people are attracted to in the first place it becomes a bit of an issue.
All that said, it's been so long since I've met someone I really like, since I got those butterflies before seeing them, that I don't know how I'd act now (I guess butterflies before chatting to someone online doesn't count?). I'd like to think I'd be a little more reserved and not quite so immature and girly....a little bit more aware of the way I'm acting and what I'm saying instead of babbling rubbish. I'd also like to think that I'd feel a lot more comfortable with them and therefore less inclined to try and hide parts of me I didn't like.
But that's all speculation at the moment really.
sometimes the internet really does suck
When I really like someone, I act completely differently to how I normally do. When I'm on a first date or something, I either talk far too much and never let them get a word in because that's what i do when i'm nervous, or I close up and don't say a thing because I'm so scared that I'll say something wrong that they will be turned off....or because I'm scared that I'll babble too much!
Then I get all insecure about my own failings, things which I'm comfortable with when I'm around my friends, but things I don't want a prospective partner to see just yet. So I start saying stupid things trying to explain my actions and justifying them so they don't think the worst of me.
Basically I lose my confidence...and when that is probably what people are attracted to in the first place it becomes a bit of an issue.
All that said, it's been so long since I've met someone I really like, since I got those butterflies before seeing them, that I don't know how I'd act now (I guess butterflies before chatting to someone online doesn't count?). I'd like to think I'd be a little more reserved and not quite so immature and girly....a little bit more aware of the way I'm acting and what I'm saying instead of babbling rubbish. I'd also like to think that I'd feel a lot more comfortable with them and therefore less inclined to try and hide parts of me I didn't like.
But that's all speculation at the moment really.
sometimes the internet really does suck
doofqueen
Bluelighter
i flirt WAY oo much and i think i come across as intimidating or something and they get scared away *cries*
my problem is that i will in the middle of conversation and a good song will come on, and i will run out to the dancefloor.
or i will get their number, sometimes they tell me to take their number, and ill enter the number then press the [red] hang up button on the phone by mistake.
i couldnt be more fucking stupid.
miss apple - i think that your "insecurity as you call it, is cute. i would be attracted to that. nothing worse than someone who is inable to "confide" fears in someone. which i think is my prob also.
or i will get their number, sometimes they tell me to take their number, and ill enter the number then press the [red] hang up button on the phone by mistake.
i couldnt be more fucking stupid.
miss apple - i think that your "insecurity as you call it, is cute. i would be attracted to that. nothing worse than someone who is inable to "confide" fears in someone. which i think is my prob also.
I do that too papermate! Your not alone, a couple of times now i have thought i had someones number .. then realised that stupid me pressed the red button too, and the number never got stored!
Of course you never actually realise this till the next day .. when it is tooooo late
Of course you never actually realise this till the next day .. when it is tooooo late
Dante
Bluelight Crew
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I'm pretty sure that I give anyone that seems to show any interest in me the cold shoulder... I dunno why either. I'm trying to stop, but I don't seem to.
I think a lot of it has to do with caring about what the people around me are going to think if I make a decision, and what's gonna happen... if I think it's all gonna turn to shit then I simply don't bother doing anything...
damnit, how does one get out of such a cycle as this? *sigh*
I think a lot of it has to do with caring about what the people around me are going to think if I make a decision, and what's gonna happen... if I think it's all gonna turn to shit then I simply don't bother doing anything...
damnit, how does one get out of such a cycle as this? *sigh*
Dante that made me think of a good reason why I might be...
I think im afraid of change, everything seems so normal that Im afraid that by adding a new dimension to my life, it will spin into complete chaos... I suppose for me it comes down to a number of factors.
Whenever I express interest in a girl around my folks whenever they ask me, they are like where does she live, then its what does she do for a living.... oh really that.... u can find someone better... Its a really bad chip that i now have on my shoulder... She must fill my parents critera its so gay... but they have like this heavy influence on me... every move i make with these people is career orientated so therefore even my relationships must be... probably why ive always kept my relationships from them secret... just like my brother did.
I feel kinda like my friends have to like the girl as well... or else why would i wanna be with someone who hated my friends or vice versa.
For me there is too much criteria its like an audit... i get out a clip board and tick through things that are constant with standards and have great difficulty making decisions when there are differences.
I think im afraid of change, everything seems so normal that Im afraid that by adding a new dimension to my life, it will spin into complete chaos... I suppose for me it comes down to a number of factors.
Whenever I express interest in a girl around my folks whenever they ask me, they are like where does she live, then its what does she do for a living.... oh really that.... u can find someone better... Its a really bad chip that i now have on my shoulder... She must fill my parents critera its so gay... but they have like this heavy influence on me... every move i make with these people is career orientated so therefore even my relationships must be... probably why ive always kept my relationships from them secret... just like my brother did.
I feel kinda like my friends have to like the girl as well... or else why would i wanna be with someone who hated my friends or vice versa.
For me there is too much criteria its like an audit... i get out a clip board and tick through things that are constant with standards and have great difficulty making decisions when there are differences.
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