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[SoCalShordie]

Still wondering how often you go to cheesecake factory @SoCalShordie

This is a serious question believe it or not lol

Not often enough, unfortunately lmao. I don’t get out much now that I’m a suburban housewife and mother. Would love to go to Cheesecake Factory right now lol.

 

[someguyontheinternet]

Not often enough, unfortunately lmao. I don’t get out much now that I’m a suburban housewife and mother. Would love to go to Cheesecake Factory right now lol.

I ask because in two of your stories you ran into famous people at the cheesecake factory. Out of the times you did go, how many of those times do you think you ran into famous people?

 

[pharaoh]

Don't you people get it yet? The "Cheese Factory" is code for Charlie Sheen's basement in Malibu.

Read between the lines people...

 

[paltatomate]

I've never met or talked to a porn star (not that I'm aware of) but I met a lot of sex workers of any kind, from from prostitutes working the streets and party strippers up to a highly paid dominatrix with her own entourage. Their stories of how they got into the business are very different.

In case this hasn't been asked yet:
How did your career get started?

 

[SoCalShordie]

I ask because in two of your stories you ran into famous people at the cheesecake factory. Out of the times you did go, how many of those times do you think you ran into famous people?

Oh haha yeah I went a bunch back in the day. I’ve met like 4 famous people in chance encounters at the Cheesecake Factory @ Westfield Topanga

 

[SoCalShordie]

I've never met or talked to a porn star (not that I'm aware of) but I met a lot of sex workers of any kind, from from prostitutes working the streets and party strippers up to a highly paid dominatrix with her own entourage. Their stories of how they got into the business are very different.

In case this hasn't been asked yet:
How did your career get started?

Surprisingly it hasn’t been asked yet. Thanks for the good question. To keep it a stack, I got into porn bc I was a 19 y/o stripper dating a (pretty successful) pill dealer and when he got popped and business slowed down, I wasn’t happy with anything less than the lavish lifestyle I had been living. Out of my own selfish desire for more, I did porn.

 

[SoCalShordie]

That's quite a story. Thanks for sharing. You seem like you're in a good place now. Do you still use any substances?

Would you also care to share what was the worst thing about working in porn was? No worries if not.

Obviously you're into your hiphop. Do you ever listen to any UK hiphop? There's a lot of talent here too.

I’m definitely in a good place now, thank you. I’m currently pregnant with my second baby, and mama to a 1 y/o so I’m clean & sober all the way.

The worst thing about working in porn..hm idk honestly I had a great ride. No pun intended lol. Can’t say the same for a lot of these girls, sadly, but I personally didn’t have any terrible experiences.

 

[pharaoh]

I’m definitely in a good place now, thank you. I’m currently pregnant with my second baby, and mama to a 1 y/o so I’m clean & sober all the way.

The worst thing about working in porn..hm idk honestly I had a great ride. No pun intended lol. Can’t say the same for a lot of these girls, sadly, but I personally didn’t have any terrible experiences.

Congrats on the second bambino.

It's good that you got out but it seems that there is a bit of a crisis at the moment, 4 or so performers this year have died and one is in a critical state after an OD. I saw some of the big names speaking about it, Sasha Gray being the one I remember as she was the one in the meme pictures. But she had a pretty bad time of it.

For her it was about losing touch with her family and all that. Do you get on with your family? Did you have contact with them during your time working in that industry and how did they feel? It seems that there are differing stories, between people being supportive and then performers being shunned. But also there are people who felt like they were being exploited by their families or at least some members duento their success. Are you able to talk about your relationship with your family? Sorry if it's been asked.

Also did you ever meet Corey Feldman? I know you spoke of the other Corey who died tragically. But Feldman was very open and critical about Hollyweird some years back and was supposedly making a documentary, dunno if he ever did. There's one out on Netflix about porn hub too and some scandals about that which I'm gonna watch - have you seen it?

BTW I hope the pill dealer wasn't that bald English twat who has the true crime podcast lol. You might know who I mean as he got a lot of clout talking about the epstein stuff but he supposedly ran a big "ecstasy ring" as he puts it, bringing in ecstasy pills and based in Arizona, did quite a bit of time in the states although he's a right bellend and changes his story a lot.

 

[BlossomsBlooming]

You know what, I thought I was super into chicks for a while there but turns out it was only a phase during my early 20’s lol

I really gave it a good effort in my 20’s as well, just didn’t stick sadly. Love the smell and taste of fresh pussy forever tho! And only watch female porn. Fluidity is good too.

 

[BlossomsBlooming]

So, always wanted to make a thread where ya’ll can ask me for advice about sex and/or relationships. Being that I was stripper/adult film star/escort for A-list celebs for several years. I know a lotta thangs, been around the block a time or two lol. Maybe I’ll be able to help somebody get laid or get their bae to fall back in love with them. Or you could ask me about the adult industry and/or celebs & what they’re really like lol. Hopefully this catches on. Shoot them questions!

Erased my brainless relationship pity party comment as I am much better and didn’t even read the entirely if your point here, forgive me for being a crybaby but big respect now that I’m present mentally. I have been compelled and plan to send my favorite gal Nadia Foxx in Canada I believe-a thank you card and some cash if I ever have any to spare. Seriously always grateful for getting me there.

 

[Soso78]

Erased my brainless relationship pity party comment as I am much better and didn’t even read the entirely if your point here, forgive me for being a crybaby but big respect now that I’m present mentally. I have been compelled and plan to send my favorite gal Nadia Foxx in Canada I believe-a thank you card and some cash if I ever have any to spare. Seriously always grateful for getting me there.

Why u sending a card?

 

[BlossomsBlooming]

Have always found it better to be honest with my kids tbh. Not always in full detail admittedly, but if you lie to them and they find out (they will trust me, damn kids know fkin everything) then there's your trust gone.

Probably no reason to give young kids chapter and verse, but you get my drift

edit - apols for slight thread derailment

@SoCalShordie - at what age did you begin to consider sex work as a viable option? EDIT - you've already answered

btw my sex-worker friends back in the late 80's were both brought up very strictly, and I've seen a similar response multiple times in different circumstances

Same. My kids were always educated truthfully, openly, and know almost everything about me if not everything. And they over share to my ears sometimes. lol The way I see it, it’s my job to educate them on how to do this complex thing called life and am always their soft place to fall. They have told me they are the luckiest kids they know, because of my natural truthfulness and openness. Communication doesn’t cause wild behavior or “give them ideas” it’s the opposite actually. Knowledge is power and the truth will set you free. I also didn’t hover whatsoever, parenting from a little space, allowing them to find their own way in and out and through the stuff. But was always there ready for anything. They had freedom to do things other parents would have lost their minds about. With freedom comes responsibility, if you fuck this up then I get involved and in your business. My youngest is almost on his way. Single mom too. Mission nearly complete. Identity crisis ready and waiting. Any way, I talk to much even online.

 

[BlossomsBlooming]

Why u sending a card?

A thank you card! Seriously! I always send a cosmic thank you, but she has provided many a great service to myself and with my lover. I’m grateful.

 

[deficiT]

Lol I always planned on having an “exit plan” but never actually planned one. Thought I would be young and hot and poppin forever apparently and that my drug addiction would never take over my life and I would be ballin’ forever.

As long as you got “staying power” you can make a career out of it. At least in the 2010’s when I was in. I was always told my my agent and directors that I can have a real career in this bc I have staying power. But, heroin addiction.

The highlight of my career woulda been in like 2013 when I was the #1 searched actress on the internet, making 6 figures annually, had a dope ass crib in Calabasas with a pool and a view, drove a Benz AND a Maserati, got signed by the best agency in the biz who only takes A-Listers, got my first “star showcase” (a movie made all about me) that won awards, on top of several other AVN awards I was nominated for that year. I got to present awards too, at AVN that year. i wasn’t doing lil internet scenes anymore, i was starring in top dollar productions with real acting and storylines and I felt like a real actress. I was making MOVES. thought I had my demons and my addiction under control. I was on a high, got a real taste of fame. Got to really and truly live THAT LIFE. But I really lost myself too. I grew up in poverty, I really came from nothing. I forgot who I was and started acting like some spoiled Beverly Hills brat. I was cocky. But I was brought back down to earth real mf quick when shit hit the fan and I became homeless. And I’m grateful for it.

Skills? I definitely possess real acting chops. I loved that part of it and was good at it. I’m very very perceptive and good at reading people since I’ve been around every class of human there is. My resilience is my favorite skill forged during that time.

Thanks for the questions, those were some real good ones.

Have you ever considered pursuing a career in traditional acting, or music? Cause your raps definitely slap, and yeah I'm sure acting comes natural. I believe that would definitely be a possibility for you. Now that you're settled down, are you wary to even get in those circles again?

And this is kind of a more selfish question, sorry if I sound like a chud, but uh, I actually have done acting myself (horror movies, theater when I was younger) and have a shit load of music material and talent, but have only been able to release a demo in a band I was in, and my single that I released on YouTube and streaming platforms. Or course they didn't really go anywhere because I just don't have any kind of.promotional access, a manager, and my life circumstances. Also a shit lot of the social media promotion stuff is scams and bots and bs.

You're probably the most "famous" person I actually know (online anyway)... So I was wondering if you still had any contacts in those fields and could hook a brotha up Everyone thats heard my music generally has a good response to it, I just don't know how to go about actually getting it out there in these days social media era. Not like I can just email a label, most of them don't even allow submissions.

I was also just wondering if you had any advice for me on making any progress on that? It's frustrating when you have no money or connections but you have a lot of stuff you could be doing.

 

[BlossomsBlooming]

Welcome to Shordie Storytime, hip-hop edition. Let’s get it.

Tyga: he performed as the musical act for AVN Awards in Vegas in like 2013 I think. I was on stage dancing and got to be on actual tv. Popped up randomly to my suite at the Hard Rock with another porn girl I knew, to after-party. He wanted to fuck me and I told him I don’t fuck for free and that I wouldn’t ask him to perform his trade for free either so he should understand. He told me “bitch, you should pay ME” and then I notified him that the top floor suite we were in is actually MINE and to kindly get the fuck on. Lol. He ended up hooking up with some transgender performer that night and didn’t know she was trans until it was too late.

Ray J: met him randomly at the Cheesecake Factory, and he told me he was a fan. Tried to finesse him but he’s pretty much broke.

Mack 10: met him at a chicken joint in calabasas. He was really tryin hard for my number but I declined. My mom told me I should’ve gotten his number so that she could’ve gone in my place to hang out with him and just pretend she’s me

Octane: one of the guys who did that song “teach me how to jerk”.. played one of those dance games on the Xbox or whatever and I beat him dancing the moves to his own song, according to the game lol

Suge Knight & Kat Williams: they showed up at a party for a sex toy company I was a spokesmodel for. This is when I started getting into harder drugs and I was super turnt and being loud in the club talking about “he killed Tupac how the fuck are u guys gonna be all cool with him?!” I was super embarrassed the next morning for wildin’ out like Tupac was my real life homie and I personally witnessed Suge kill him he came to the club with Kat Williams in tow and they both seemed hella cracked out and were taking weird ass pictures together in the Photo Booth.

Yes Woman this is fantastic and Suge has always been a rat fuck OlI always figured he was behind the whole damn thing. He had a vibe that was palpable through the TV! Tragic end to genius thought and ability of both Tupac and Biggie. And the magical time of such extraordinary hip hop in my opinion. Suge, nothing but nasty.

 

[Soso78]

Same. My kids were always educated truthfully, openly, and know almost everything about me if not everything. And they over share to my ears sometimes. lol The way I see it, it’s my job to educate them on how to do this complex thing called life and am always their soft place to fall. They have told me they are the luckiest kids they know, because of my natural truthfulness and openness. Communication doesn’t cause wild behavior or “give them ideas” it’s the opposite actually. Knowledge is power and the truth will set you free. I also didn’t hover whatsoever, parenting from a little space, allowing them to find their own way in and out and through the stuff. But was always there ready for anything. They had freedom to do things other parents would have lost their minds about. With freedom comes responsibility, if you fuck this up then I get involved and in your business. My youngest is almost on his way. Single mom too. Mission nearly complete. Identity crisis ready and waiting. Any way, I talk to much even online.

Have u been in the porn industry?

 

[BlossomsBlooming]

Yes Woman this is fantastic and Suge has always been a rat fuck OlI always figured he was behind the whole damn thing. He had a vibe that was palpable through the TV! Tragic end to genius thought and ability of both Tupac and Biggie. And the magical time of such extraordinary hip hop in my opinion. Suge, nothing but nasty.

Well done keeping yourself safe and healthy and making your way, with a good ending to boot. Sex work is hard as fuck at times in more than one way I would imagine. Hustling if you’re not feeling the mood etc, exhausting, drugs and alcohol as motivation I would have died no doubt. Reckless young woman I was, and would not have been a success story I’m sure. I cocktailed /tended bar at a club (full nude! Yay!) in my early twenties for a couple years. I remember thinking I was going to find the best hookup for dope, and was looking forward to it. Psssht. I was by far the biggest user and abuser there! We would get some strung out travelers, but otherwise it was just a tame nudie bar with good music and happy customers.

 

[BlossomsBlooming]

Have u been in the porn industry?

Nope. Bartender/waitress at a strip club for a couple years. But am a fan, and have rooted for all sex workers in general. Sometimes you fucking hate every single person in the room, but bills still need paid, so hats off and much respect. All jobs have their shit sandwiches, but not having such personal contact with some rude ass bad breath shitty tipping asshats that some men just are. You know? And that’s just regarding dancing, obvs. I suppose maybe cast can have control over their coworkers? Or does it depend on managers/success? I cant tag our guest panelist because my phone is almost non functional.

 

[Soso78]

Nope. Bartender/waitress at a strip club for a couple years. But am a fan, and have rooted for all sex workers in general. Sometimes you fucking hate every single person in the room, but bills still need paid, so hats off and much respect. All jobs have their shit sandwiches, but not having such personal contact with some rude ass bad breath shitty tipping asshats that some men just are. You know?

I bet u got some sleazy shit put on u

 

[BlossomsBlooming]

I bet u got some sleazy shit put on u

My favorite part was cleaning the men’s bathroom after a long day of drunks and my riggs waiting for me at home. So choice as you can imagine. We had excellent security guys ready to jump to the rescue, so I felt safe always. It’s just those dickheads out there that ruin your mood etc. I did readily let a sexy old regular feel my boobies when he came in with a big smile on my face and all the attention he needed, because he was a very excellent tipper. And very respectful just old and lonely.