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SoCalShordie

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So, always wanted to make a thread where ya’ll can ask me for advice about sex and/or relationships. Being that I was stripper/adult film star/escort for A-list celebs for several years. I know a lotta thangs, been around the block a time or two lol. Maybe I’ll be able to help somebody get laid or get their bae to fall back in love with them. Or you could ask me about the adult industry and/or celebs & what they’re really like lol. Hopefully this catches on. Shoot them questions!
 
Do you think becoming a parent changes your outlook and perception of the world in general? Sorry I just couldn't resist asking a serious question. But seriously do you think because of your past ( not being judgemental you, just from what I have read, might have been a bit wild when younger, no offense I was no angel), will that will make you a stricter or a more lenient parent? Aka you can't fool me, I was a kid once too: ( including teenage bs, I don't know about you, but I know all or most of the bs tricks, no kids that I know of, but still)? Or will you give them some space, and/or will you let them earn later curfews and stuff like privileges, based on their behavior and level of maturity?
 
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Have you had any issues with dating when they know your past?
 
Who's houses do y'all use to bang?

Also, how often are rich people making amateur and posting them without consent? Or hiding for blackmail or whatever?

Is the actual paying actors the most expensive part or are there other expenses?
 
I wanna reiterate the question above but focus more on the question of blackmail. Is it as big a thing in showbiz, politics, the corporate world and other high stakes sectors as I have heard? We all know a bit about the Epstein/Maxwell operation, Roy Cohn (who "got the dirt" on J. Edgar Hoover and others), Jimmy Savile in the UK as well as the Kray Twins and many other gangsters (all over the world from what I've heard and read. I spoke to an ex London Met vice detective who told me that organised crime was heavily involved in procurement for high profile people and subsequent blackmail). In your experience or through the grapevine, were there many high stakes people being blackmailed due to certain proclivities or is that notion overexaggerated? Are there any high profile people who would "surprise" us in terms of what they are into (such as well known pastors and televangelists getting pegged and eating shit for example)? Do you think that there is more "deviancy" amongst the higher strata of the socioeconomic order?

I have many questions and I'm sure that you are going to be bombarded. I also don't want to make any assumptions about what acts you may have performed or who you may have been with etc so I hope it didn't come across that way - I mean no disrespect at all and I appreciate you giving your time to answer people's questions.

Is it true about the actor who played Creed I's famous opponent enjoying laying under glass tables and watching women shit on them (joke question - came from an old book written by two high class Hollyweird escorts)? Are many of the Hollyweird types that people assume are gay, gay? I wouldn't want to name names due to libel and all that but there are some who have always had "rumours", such as Kevin Spacey by which ofc the truth turned out to be even worse.

One final Q: is hard drug use common within these circles beyond cocaine and prescription drugs which everyone knows a bit about? Many heroin addicts? Crack smokers? Meth heads? Is Charlie Sheen the end of that scale or are there many Charlie Sheens who haven't been exposed in that way?

Thanks for doing this thread! Should be a great read.
 
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Never tell your kids anything that can use against you, they will and you will regret it and kids talk and parents find out. Best to never tell anything they can, use against you. Or anything that don't want other parents or teachers or even the principal of your kids school to know. Also the neighbors.
They will look at you different and everyone will know, things you would rather keep to yourself. Kids have big mouths and people gossip. People know whatever about me, but I have learned it is best to keep certain things to yourself, it will only come back haunt you. I would keep quiet, unless they find out, then down play it, or regret it
 
Never tell your kids anything that can use against you, they will and you will regret it and kids talk and parents find out. Best to never tell anything they can, use against you. Or anything that don't want other parents or teachers or even the principal of your kids school to know. Also the neighbors.
They will look at you different and everyone will know, things you would rather keep to yourself. Kids have big mouths and people gossip. People know whatever about me, but I have learned it is best to keep certain things to yourself, it will only come back haunt you. I would keep quiet, unless they find out, then down play it, or regret it
She’s a pornstar u muppet. There’s no keeping it secret.
 
Do you think becoming a parent changes your outlook and perception of the world in general? Sorry I just couldn't resist asking a serious question. But seriously do you think because of your past ( not being judgemental you, just from what I have read, might have been a bit wild when younger, no offense I was no angel), will that will make you a stricter or a more lenient parent? Aka you can't fool me, I was a kid once too: ( including teenage bs, I don't know about you, but I know all or most of the bs tricks, no kids that I know of, but still)? Or will you give them some space, and/or will you let them earn later curfews and stuff like privileges, based on their behavior and level of maturity?
That’s a great question. Because of my past and how I turned out (until recently changing my ways) I plan on always keeping an open line of communication with my kids. I’ll make sure she won’t be afraid to come to me about something like needing to get picked up from a party bc she’s too drunk. As long as she comes to ME about it, there won’t be punishments. Just lessons learned that we will talk about together. My mom tried to be too strict with me because she got pregnant at 15 and she wanted to make sure the same didn’t happen to me. So she was always on my ass lol. Because of that, I think that’s why I went buck wild as soon as I turned 18 and started stripping etc. I was never allowed to go to high school parties or go on dates with boys my age. I’m gonna make sure to give my daughter a lot of freedom as long as she’s responsible and checks in with me, always answers her phone, comes home when she says she will be home etc. I definitely feel like I would be a lot more lax with a son than with my daughter lol. But you can’t be too strict bc then they’ll start wildin’ out on you and being a hoe in the streets lol. And we don’t want that 🤣
 
Have you had any issues with dating when they know your past?
I did with one of my exes. My babydaddy is pretty cool about it, it’s in my past for a reason and he doesn’t trip on it.
 
Never tell your kids anything that can use against you, they will and you will regret it and kids talk and parents find out. Best to never tell anything they can, use against you. Or anything that don't want other parents or teachers or even the principal of your kids school to know. Also the neighbors.
They will look at you different and everyone will know, things you would rather keep to yourself. Kids have big mouths and people gossip. People know whatever about me, but I have learned it is best to keep certain things to yourself, it will only come back haunt you. I would keep quiet, unless they find out, then down play it, or regret it
Have always found it better to be honest with my kids tbh. Not always in full detail admittedly, but if you lie to them and they find out (they will trust me, damn kids know fkin everything) then there's your trust gone.

Probably no reason to give young kids chapter and verse, but you get my drift

edit - apols for slight thread derailment

@SoCalShordie - at what age did you begin to consider sex work as a viable option? EDIT - you've already answered

btw my sex-worker friends back in the late 80's were both brought up very strictly, and I've seen a similar response multiple times in different circumstances
 
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Who's houses do y'all use to bang?

Also, how often are rich people making amateur and posting them without consent? Or hiding for blackmail or whatever?

Is the actual paying actors the most expensive part or are there other expenses?
Wealthy people rent out their houses to use as movie sets, both mainstream and adult movies. 90% of it is in the LA area, specifically the west end of the San Fernando Valley. Think Calabasas, Encino, Woodland Hills. The other 10% is shot in Miami. The homeowners dip out for the day and return when filming is over.

I’m not really understanding your second question sorry lol, could u rephrase it?

Renting location is probably one of the most expensive parts, I would say. So let’s get into actors and how we are paid. Starting pay for new male talent is about $300 per scene. While starting for a brand new female in the biz doing a typical boy/girl scene is about $800-$900 per. For a popular and in-demand female performer, it gets higher. I was in the biz from 2010 to 2015. In about 2012 is when I hit my peak and started earning $1500 per scene for a typical boy/girl. $800 for a girl/girl. $3000 for anal, which I only did once lol. And keep in mind, a girl always gets paid big bucks to do her “firsts.” First boy/girl, first anal, first gang bang etc. I did girl/girl for like the first 6 months to build up a lil demand for my first boy/girl and got $2200 for my first scene.

Keep in mind, I haven’t shot anything since 2016. I’ve heard things are much different now and porn is no longer lucrative since the birth of onlyfans.
 
Are a lot of those scenes never making it to mainstream porn sites? And a "scene" is a full video? @SoCalShordie
 
That's not true @Jnowhere . APF I've know when I was here several years ago too. Pretty rational guy IMO.

Also remember this isn't the lounge so not sure if personal attacks fly. Sort of depends on the severity and the specific subforum rules and subforum moderators.
 
Are a lot of those scenes never making it to mainstream porn sites? And a "scene" is a full video? @SoCalShordie
What do u consider mainstream porn sites? Like Brazzers or like Pornhub? Bc Pornhub for example is just a limewire of porn if you will lol. Every scene shot gets put up in whatever movie or whatever internet site it’s being shot for. And yes when I say one scene, that’s one 20-30 min video for either a website or one scene in a dvd.
 
I wanna reiterate the question above but focus more on the question of blackmail. Is it as big a thing in showbiz, politics, the corporate world and other high stakes sectors as I have heard? We all know a bit about the Epstein/Maxwell operation, Roy Cohn (who "got the dirt" on J. Edgar Hoover and others), Jimmy Savile in the UK as well as the Kray Twins and many other gangsters (all over the world from what I've heard and read. I spoke to an ex London Met vice detective who told me that organised crime was heavily involved in procurement for high profile people and subsequent blackmail). In your experience or through the grapevine, were there many high stakes people being blackmailed due to certain proclivities or is that notion overexaggerated? Are there any high profile people who would "surprise" us in terms of what they are into (such as well known pastors and televangelists getting pegged and eating shit for example)? Do you think that there is more "deviancy" amongst the higher strata of the socioeconomic order?

I have many questions and I'm sure that you are going to be bombarded. I also don't want to make any assumptions about what acts you may have performed or who you may have been with etc so I hope it didn't come across that way - I mean no disrespect at all and I appreciate you giving your time to answer people's questions.

Is it true about the actor who played Creed I's famous opponent enjoying laying under glass tables and watching women shit on them (joke question - came from an old book written by two high class Hollyweird escorts)? Are many of the Hollyweird types that people assume are gay, gay? I wouldn't want to name names due to libel and all that but there are some who have always had "rumours", such as Kevin Spacey by which ofc the truth turned out to be even worse.

One final Q: is hard drug use common within these circles beyond cocaine and prescription drugs which everyone knows a bit about? Many heroin addicts? Crack smokers? Meth heads? Is Charlie Sheen the end of that scale or are there many Charlie Sheens who haven't been exposed in that way?

Thanks for doing this thread! Should be a great read.
Unfortunately I don’t know anything about blackmail. But there are definitely some very high profile people into some real crazy shit lol. When I would escort a lil bit (if the price was high enough) some of my clients were including but not limited to: David Geffen, Marc Haimes, David Blaine, and yes, even Charlie Sheen lol. He was my bread & butter for a while there. Gave me 30,000 dollars the first night I hung out with him. I really got to live the high life right there. Will never forget it. Definitely was an experience lol. Even got to see him smoke crack. Was gifted a chinchilla coat, LV bags, and a brand new Benz fresh off the lot. Sadly, all my goods were sold cheap for drugs except the Benz which I pushed off Mulholland Highway and watched it explode.
 
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