Ask an Escort- by XtcgrlATL

[Jamshyd]

It is very interesting how many people seem to be unaware that brothels and prostitution have been, historically, a most important stabilizing institution in almost all human societies. I do not have numbers, but I will give an educated guess (as a sociologist) that prostitution actually brings down the stats for rape and other acts of violence. There is a reason why such institutions have historically been especially active in times of war.

You only make a fool of yourself talking down to an escort on a drug website, since we are all equally stigmatized by boring people.

xtcgrlatl, I really appreciate you sharing all this with us. I have found it most eye-opening - plus your writing is well-crafted and fun to read .

It does seem like the failure to understand your clientèle can be at least partially influenced by being gay, since I, too, have a hard time relating to someone who is willing to pay money for sex, but appreciate your explanation.

I do have a few of questions for you, but I've only read up until page 9 so this may have been asked before:

- You've already mentioned a couple of funny experiences. Do you have any more funny stories that you can share?

- What is your spiritual background/outlook on life, and how does that influence/is influenced by your job?

- What kind of guys do you enjoy working for? And what kind do you personally like?

Thanks!

 

[BeenArrested4Pot]

Have you ever turned away a client with suspicions that he may have been carrying an STD?

I just don't understand how you can perform oral sex to hundreds of men who 'usually' did not wear a condom during the act and still not have a single STD... I would bite the bullet and get a check-up. Good luck.

 

[fozzy nutz]

how do you look at your client's? do you look down at them for seeing you, are apathetic towards them or it just depends on what type of person they are...

if your seeing more then one client in a day what type of hygiene steps do you do in between apointments?

unfortunatly I will call that sourcing....only cause we all know about Craig'slist ;-) PS

 

[fatallyflawed]

Once again I suggest waiting till you're 45, pudgy, bald, married for the past 10 years and have no private free time except on your lunch break and tell me how much game you've got working the bars that aren't open for the half hour you have before you need to get back to work and call your wife. At that point I hope you have a happy marriage, like fat girls(or bi/gay guys of a similar age and physical stature), or have a deep wallet because that's all the game you're likely to have.

striking a nerve I take it?

So lets see here,I should pay for sex because I let my body go to waste, or I dont have enough balls to divorce a wife if I wasnt satisfied with her (cause if I am trying to sneak in this 30 minute at the bar quickie as you speak of during lunch then there are some serious marriage issues there)

No I still think not. I think if you are that physically unfit to get a girl then you should be taking care of your body.

If your wife isnt taking care of you in that way, then you as a couple should figure out a way to spice it up, not pay for sex.

Pretty much the way that you have explained yourself is you are no different than the weight lose programs, or the other corporate campaigns out there that take advantage of people for their lack of self confidence (the pudgy part of statement) or their lack to actually face a real life issue (lack of sex with their wives)

 

[Cane2theLeft]

I don't remember this being asked, so I apologize if it has been discussed, but would you prefer it if all of this was legal? Do you think there would be more competition and your work would be less profitable?

Just to throw in my fifth of a dime here, although I would prefer that you got tested for the sake of all parties involved (especially indirectly), I agree that because this is a black market both parties consent to the risks involved knowingly. I don't think you are seeing any guys with IQ's below 75, so everyone knows the risks and chooses to behave as they do.

So lets see here,I should pay for sex because I let my body go to waste, or I dont have enough balls to divorce a wife if I wasnt satisfied with her (cause if I am trying to sneak in this 30 minute at the bar quickie as you speak of during lunch then there are some serious marriage issues there)

I don't think you SHOULD do anything but I think you SHOULD have the ability to choose your path... whether that be the bald and fat/sexless-marriage/life-consuming-job/lunchtime-paid-quickie path, picking up bar slobs that only look good after 2 pitchers (a third if there is karaoke involved) or whatever other path you so desire to get sexually satiated.

 

[foxydoe]

Interesting thread, thanks for the insights xtcgrl.

My only question is if it lonely living the secrative life you have to live. To me that is one of the biggest drawbacks.


I agree with Cane, pullstring is being very judgemental. Not everyone is the perfect specimen of humanity like you pullstring. But I do see your point to some degree also...

 

[xtcgrlatl]

It is very interesting how many people seem to be unaware that brothels and prostitution have been, historically, a most important stabilizing institution in almost all human societies. I do not have numbers, but I will give an educated guess (as a sociologist) that prostitution actually brings down the stats for rape and other acts of violence. There is a reason why such institutions have historically been especially active in times of war.

See? I'm a public service. A genuine humanitarian.

- You've already mentioned a couple of funny experiences. Do you have any more funny stories that you can share?

Most of the stories are only funny in hind sight. It's just encounters with weird people that spring fetishes and various weirdness on you out of no-where. and you're like "uhr....this is not what I signed up for" while some guy who's actually good looking and athletic is under you coo'ing "give daddy your poo poo". Or the guy who has like some kind of nerve disorder and warns you as he's getting naked that he's wearing a diaper so don't be shocked. That guy saw me a couple times and eventually told me that he had a dream that we were married. Or guys who bring over like a bag full of sex toys.

To much for me I'm a good girl

- What is your spiritual background/outlook on life, and how does that influence/is influenced by your job?

I come from a non-denominational christian background and was a very stout believer until I got a bit older and learned about science. I abandoned that and considered myself an atheist for a while. Now I kind of believe in the universe as a self aware entity that doesn't really care what I do. I'm simply here to experience.

- What kind of guys do you enjoy working for?

Guys that show up with an enthusiastic attitude, talkative and happy guys. That's really all it takes. It doesn't hurt if the guy is good looking and in shape but attitude is the most important thing by far. I have good looking in shape guys that I avoid because I don't particularly care for the way they conduct themselves during the session, quiet and a little rougher then I like. One of my favorites is a tremendously obese guy who's good natured and we have a very nice professional relationship.

And what kind do you personally like?

Adventurous types. I like to go try new stuff and anyone i am looking at an LTR with would have to be the same way. Being smart and athletic and tall are also big helps

 

[xtcgrlatl]

Have you ever turned away a client with suspicions that he may have been carrying an STD?

Not at the door, my phone screening which is just a little nothing smalltalk conversation but I subtly assess their likely risk to me. If they see escorts regularly, if they're married, what they do for a living. That kind of thing. It's all subtle like the last one, what do they do for a living, most guys would think nothing of it, but if a guy calls me and he sounds a little rednecky then he's probably in construction or he's a truck driver. Those seem to be the two jobs that you can have a real thick southern accent and vernacular at and still get paid well.

If the guy is in construction (usually owning or managing it) then he's more likely to get an appointment with me then a truck driver because truck drivers are on the road a lot and probably see a lot of prostitutes, usually "lot lizards" that work truck stops with a CB radio.

As far as at the door and beyond goes I turned away the guy that wanted to smoke crack because...well..I"m not interested in having a crackhead in my home,and he was exceptionally scuzzy looking.

I've had a few instances where I saw that a guy might have herpes or a wart and downgraded service to a glorified hand job.

I just don't understand how you can perform oral sex to hundreds of men who 'usually' did not wear a condom during the act and still not have a single STD... I would bite the bullet and get a check-up. Good luck.

Well I had seen at least a few hundred by the time of my last STD check and was ok, so rock on.

Also oral is relatively safe, especially if you're not letting the guy finish in your mouth.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

striking a nerve I take it?

Not particularly. I'm simply relating the reality of the type of guy that tends to come to see me. When you make like 60,000~ or more a year and you want to have sex with a 20-something girl that's on the upper end of the attractive scale, why not? It actually makes good sense to come see me. There's no wasting your time in a loud smokey bar with a bunch of classless dopes, taking a chance on going home alone anyways or with a girl whom you had to settle for.

I am a guaranteed home run every time, no bullshit, no time wasting, no risk of finding out I've got a boyfriend after you get your game on, no phone calls the next day, none of that. You simply scroll down the page, select the girl that appeals to you, call her up and she'll be happy to see you at your convenience.

So lets see here,I should pay for sex because I let my body go to waste,

It's pretty easy to do when you get older and spend most of your time behind a desk. Everyone eventually gets older and someone has to keep desks occupied all day.

or I dont have enough balls to divorce a wife if I wasnt satisfied with her

Is it just a matter of balls? This is SLR, you should know better. But to follow your example if I answer every "My relationship is becoming unsatisfactory" thread with "grow some balls and dump them" are you going to agree? Or should we simply acknowledge that people continue to stay in relationships that are ultimately unsatisfying for a number of reasons?

One of the ones I hear not particularly rarely is guys wanting to stay with their wives despite not really wanting the marriage anymore is because they want their children to have traditional family.

Not that I don't agree with you. Personally if any relationship I am ever involved in starts to go downhill I'll probably end it sooner rather then later. I'll never get back together with someone I broke up with, I'll never stand for frequent arguments and fighting. But that's just me. Thats my outlook on my life. But that outlook does not prevent me from being able to empathize with others.

No I still think not. I think if you are that physically unfit to get a girl then you should be taking care of your body.

It's much easier to just pay a girl to have sex with you then it is to maintain an athletic physique when you work a desk job and you're getting old.

If your wife isnt taking care of you in that way, then you as a couple should figure out a way to spice it up, not pay for sex.

No amount of "spicing it up" will change a complete lack of desire for sexual activity due to...whatever reasons. Menopause, gradual hormonal fluctuations due to aging, being stressed because of work. Whatever.

Look at it this way. I definitely don't have to pay sex. I also don't have to "work my game" at bars. Honestly it's much easier for me to put myself in a position of just not wanting sex at all.

But with an open mind and just a little effort I can see where people are coming from whether they totally don't want sex, want sex and are willing to pay for it,or want sex enough to go deal with having to be in a bar.

Pretty much the way that you have explained yourself is you are no different than the weight lose programs, or the other corporate campaigns out there that take advantage of people for their lack of self confidence (the pudgy part of statement) or their lack to actually face a real life issue (lack of sex with their wives)

It's hardly taking advantage of someone to offer a service.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

how do you look at your client's? do you look down at them for seeing you, are apathetic towards them or it just depends on what type of person they are...

I certainly don't look down on them, at least not without more reason then the fact that they're seeing me. Like I've said a few times,one doesn't have to be a loser, a mutant or socially inept to come see me.

All that it takes is disposable income and wanting to have sex with an attractive young woman without going through any BS to make it happen.

if your seeing more then one client in a day what type of hygiene steps do you do in between apointments?

I go through a lot of mouthwash (like the economy sized bottles in just a few days) and take a lot of showers I also change out and wash the blankets frequently.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

I don't remember this being asked, so I apologize if it has been discussed, but would you prefer it if all of this was legal? Do you think there would be more competition and your work would be less profitable?

Law enforcement is a big worry in this business but at the same time the black market nature of the business is probably at least part of why it's so profitable. So it's a tough call. I've only ever worked in the black market side of the business so it's all I know.

The girls that work the legal brothels in Nevada don't usually seem to like it and a lot of them migrate back to the black market for various reasons. Perhaps it would be less annoying if it was legal everywhere and you could do it on your own terms instead of at designated brothels but I really don't know. I'm not in an informed position there so I just work with what I've got

 

[xtcgrlatl]

My only question is if it lonely living the secrative life you have to live. To me that is one of the biggest drawbacks.

Not really. It's not like being secretly gay or anything. Escorting is just how I make money, it's not really a big part of who I am or my life.

 

[GoddessLSD-XTC]

U do GFE, so how many guys make out with U . . . kissing with passion and . . .? (I'd say 20 outta 50 wanted to do this with me but I wasn't into GFE with them.)

Do they wanna finger or eat U? (I'd say 10 outta 50 wanted to do this with me and I'd squirm, say I'm sensitive there and dislike fingers.)

 

[fatallyflawed]

It's hardly taking advantage of someone to offer a service.

then how are you in business again?

 

[fatallyflawed]

Is it just a matter of balls? This is SLR, you should know better. But to follow your example if I answer every "My relationship is becoming unsatisfactory" thread with "grow some balls and dump them" are you going to agree? Or should we simply acknowledge that people continue to stay in relationships that are ultimately unsatisfying for a number of reasons?

One of the ones I hear not particularly rarely is guys wanting to stay with their wives despite not really wanting the marriage anymore is because they want their children to have traditional family.

Well just because this is SLR doesnt mean that we should promote people in staying in unhealthy relationships or giving up a relationship that is worth while. It is most definetly on a case by case basis.

But a relationship where a man is spending money on an escort more than likely involves alot of dishonesty on the males part. I am sure most dont tell their S/O's where this chunk of money is going and on top of the fact we are now cheating on our partner (once again I doubt they know where they are going) So there are alot of issues that need some working out.

Granted you are right I shouldnt have jumped on the "grow balls and leave" but I still stand by the "grow balls" part. They should face the music and try to fix their realtionship or get gone. They are in an unhealthy realtionship that they need to fix!

As for the traditional family part........47% of todays marriages end in divorce. So where are the traditions??

 

[fatallyflawed]

I agree with Cane, pullstring is being very judgemental. Not everyone is the perfect specimen of humanity like you pullstring. But I do see your point to some degree also...

you can call it judgemental if you like.

I am sure that there have been many a things on here I can be judged for too.

Perfect specimen of humanity by far, trust me, I realize that. I had alot of things I have done wrong in the last year of my life that I have had to look myself in the mirror and confront. And that to me is usually one of my bigger points I tend to get across when I post around here is taking responsibilites for ones own actions.

If you got down to the knitty gritty of my thought process I blame the husbands more for seeing the escorts than I see an escort for making a profit in a "trade" where it can be made.

Sorry if me not jumping on the bandwagon has made me judgemental, but i can have my opinion as can you!

 

[quiet roar]

xtcgrlatl is right in calling you out on the judgemental posting, pullstring: Do you presume to know and understand every individual's mindset or every relationship's dynamic?

 

[fatallyflawed]

xtcgrlatl is right in calling you out on the judgemental posting, pullstring: Do you presume to know and understand every individual's mindset or every relationship's dynamic?

Understand all.....no

Talking about the majority of her clientel......yes

One of the ones I hear not particularly rarely is guys wanting to stay with their wives despite not really wanting the marriage anymore is because they want their children to have traditional family.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

U do GFE, so how many guys make out with U . . . kissing with passion and . . .? (I'd say 20 outta 50 wanted to do this with me but I wasn't into GFE with them.)

I dunno about all out making out but most of them want to kiss at least little.

Do they wanna finger or eat U? (I'd say 10 outta 50 wanted to do this with me and I'd squirm, say I'm sensitive there and dislike fingers.)

Most of them go down on me, I'm not really into getting the finger as it were, so I usually say something about that and ask them to do something else instead.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

then how are you in business again?

I post an ad, guys that want to get laid by a hot younger woman give me a call.

It would only be "taking advantage" of them if I were duping them in some way, but I don't, so I'm not, so you're wrong.