Ask an Escort- by XtcgrlATL

[xtcgrlatl]

So mariposa pointed out to me in PM, I get a lot of attention, some positive, some neutral, some negative. Merely posting on a thread where I feel I have some legitimate input seems capable of causing an instant thread derail. It's not every day that someone gets to talk candidly with a sex worker without paying her first and I feel that pointing out my profession and sexual experience ads some legitimacy to the topics I do bother to post on (only the ones that I can relate to somehow)

For those of you who don't want to believe I'm an escort because I'm actually capable of communicating decently I'll simply point out that being an escort is an attractive opportunity for a smart, good looking young woman for a variety of reasons, both financially and in the freedom it provides. I hope you wont bother to waste your time shitting up my thread or a mods time having to clean up the mess you make.

That being said, I'm a caucasian mid 20's escort who's been in the biz for about 3 years, give or take a bit at this point.
If you read the "experiences with prostitutes" thread you'll probably catch a fair bit of my story and mindset about the biz. But i know people hate to read old threads and that thread got all crapped up by people giving me shit anyways.

I've got a thick skin but all the same, I'm human and I'd prefer it if you'd take any negativity you'd like to post and channel it elsewhere.

I will not post pictures, nor will I send them to you, so don't ask. I'm not "on the clock" here so don't PM me for business purposes.

 

[ARCHANGEL21]

You know it takes alot to admitt that and as long as your happy and safe well then its your life its your descion...

I bet your a great person just because there is a stigma to what you do....

Keep your head up and by no means do i feel sorry for you....

prostitution is one of the oldest jobs in the world at least there is a smart intelligent girl who does it!!!

 

[sundayraver]

Ive visited a few escorts in my time :D
I bet you've seen all sorts of stuff so heres a few if you dont mind answering
1.Biggest penis/smallest penis??? In YOUR experience, whats the average dick size?
2.Wierdest request?
3. Ever been threatened assaulted or worried for your safety during your escorting years?


No price discussions.......we are treating this like how we handle our drug policies!

 

[Mariposa]

Thanks xtcgrlatl

As I mentioned to you, I've had friends who were "in the biz" at various points, the last quit for a corporate job a couple years back. Do you have any close friends who are also escorts?

Also, what is your sexual orientation both on and off the job?

 

[aanallein]

Do you encounter guys who have trouble ejaculating within a reasonable time period? Ie, over 20 minutes of hard sex or even longer?

 

[SvnLyrBrto]

Okay... honest question that's going to sound a bit offensive, and maybe I could word it a bit better, but here goes...

I've wondered for some time now... If all I want is simple and fun non-commital sex, it is almost absurdly easy it is to get laid off of Craigslist*... for free. So what sorts of freaks, weirdos, and misfits do you have to deal with that they're so broken they can't even find someone in CL that will have sex with them?

I've never had any sort of moral or principled problem with escorts, prostitutes, rent boys, or whatever. But the image in my mind of the sort of guy who has to resort to your profession just scares me.

(* And damned if you can't find EXACTLY what you want. Craigslist personals are SPECIFIC! If I wanted a 21-25yo, asian, uncut 5-7", bottom who's available weeknights after 6pm for post-work stress-relief quickies in SOMA or the Financial District... I could get EXACTLY that!!!)


cya,
john

 

[sundayraver]

Okay... honest question that's going to sound a bit offensive, and maybe I could word it a bit better, but here goes...

I've wondered for some time now... If all I want is simple and fun non-commital sex, it is almost absurdly easy it is to get laid off of Craigslist*... for free. So what sorts of freaks, weirdos, and misfits do you have to deal with that they're so broken they can't even find someone in CL that will have sex with them?

I've never had any sort of moral or principled problem with escorts, prostitutes, rent boys, or whatever. But the image in my mind of the sort of guy who has to resort to your profession just scares me.

(* And damned if you can't find EXACTLY what you want. Craigslist personals are SPECIFIC! If I wanted a 21-25yo, asian, uncut 5-7", bottom who's available weeknights after 6pm for post-work stress-relief quickies in SOMA or the Financial District... I could get EXACTLY that!!!)


cya,
john

Are you gay? Cos if you are you wont understand how hard it is for hetro's to get no strings sex. Heck, I'm struggling to get any sex, women are too fcuking picky

 

[exarkann]

c-list in my town is shady and filled with fakes and spam.

 

[Mariposa]

Okay... honest question that's going to sound a bit offensive, and maybe I could word it a bit better, but here goes...

I've wondered for some time now... If all I want is simple and fun non-commital sex, it is almost absurdly easy it is to get laid off of Craigslist*... for free. So what sorts of freaks, weirdos, and misfits do you have to deal with that they're so broken they can't even find someone in CL that will have sex with them?

I've never had any sort of moral or principled problem with escorts, prostitutes, rent boys, or whatever. But the image in my mind of the sort of guy who has to resort to your profession just scares me.

(* And damned if you can't find EXACTLY what you want. Craigslist personals are SPECIFIC! If I wanted a 21-25yo, asian, uncut 5-7", bottom who's available weeknights after 6pm for post-work stress-relief quickies in SOMA or the Financial District... I could get EXACTLY that!!!)


cya,
john

SF CL is a pretty extreme place. Let's not overgeneralize, but I certainly see your point. If my partner went to the CL personals to pay for sex, I'd be pissed as anything. I'd wonder what I did wrong first, then I would wonder what they did wrong.

I've noticed that on other message boards that have "how to get prostitutes" as their mission, rather than "how to reduce harm" as is Bluelight's mission, the term applied to men who want to pay for sex is "hobbyist" or "monger" (as in "whoremonger"). I'm not sure whether paying for sex could be considered a fetish/paraphilia, but it's certainly outside the realm of the understanding of most... most unhappily married/partnered people do not have to pay for it; plenty of people out there are willing to do it for free.

Do humans, therefore, have a need to commodify sex? Are prostitutes the ultimate capitalists? What does that say about their consumers? And where does that leave the rest of us?

 

[xtcgrlatl]

Ive visited a few escorts in my time :D
I bet you've seen all sorts of stuff so heres a few if you dont mind answering
1.Biggest penis/smallest penis??? In YOUR experience, whats the average dick size?

Well I'm not a human ruler but probably the smallest was around 3 inches and pinky thin and buried up the head in pubic hair. Largest was maybe I dunno, 9 maybe? Thick enough that I couldn't touch my fingers around it. I've been with a lot of BIG guys. Not a lot of memorably small ones though. I couldn't give a guess at an average.

I also see the occasional obese guy who's pee pee is basically buried in fat so you have no idea how big they really are cause you can't get access to the damn thing.

2.Wierdest request?

Some hippie type guy who seemed like a good prospect at first (really really rich and into me) about an hour in he had someone deliver some coke to his house, did a bit, and then wanted to spend the next several hours in really really bad drag and have me pee on him and stuff. I played it well enough and made a good chunk of change with that guy i think but it was not an experience I was enjoying in the least.

My ad is pretty specific that I am GFE and not into fetishes and the like so I dont think I see a lot of the weirder requests, I'd imagine most of those go to the girls that specifically advertise fetish services.

3. Ever been threatened assaulted or worried for your safety during your escorting years?

Nope. There have been some people that had a kind of a generally unpleasant aura but no one has ever made me worry about my safety. I feel safe escorting then I do walking back to my car after a night out.



Occasionally I get guys that want to take me out to eat before going back to their room and stuff in which case I, unlike most escorts, do that off the clock as long as I have a pretty clear evening with only the one prospect. i find that my most requested hours are between 12-3pm. So the "lunchtime quickie" seems to be my staple business.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

do you still get as much enjoyment from sex as you'd like?

From work sex? I generally dont enjoy it all that much. Sometimes I can get into it. Sometimes I even get off, but usually I just try and concentrate on putting on a show of enjoyment and I seem to be pretty good at it

I find that I dont really get horny very often, If I do want to have a fun sexual night it usually involves me rolling because that really gets me into the idea of sex so I plan it ahead of time. I actually have a guy that originally met me as a client and we had a fantastic time together and he's good looking and charming, so I asked him if I could keep his number, he said sure, and now when I am in the mood for a casual lay I usually get in touch with him and we see what we can work out.

Still have plenty of fun that way. I suspect that I'd get more enjoyment and have more interest in sex if I didn't do what I do, though.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

Also, what is your sexual orientation both on and off the job?

I'm straight, I've been with girls and will probably be with girls in the future but I never really fantasize about it.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

Do you encounter guys who have trouble ejaculating within a reasonable time period? Ie, over 20 minutes of hard sex or even longer?

Sometimes I have guys who take a while to get off even if they get it up just fine. Depending on how much I am enjoying our time this can be a virtue or really annoying.

Then of course there are the guys who have erectile problems either due to age, diabetes, heart medication, etc. Those guys all take a while aswell and usually arent very much fun just because it's so slow going and the fact that they feel like I'm doing my job correctly.

Occasionally someone will have a little to much to drink before they come see me but i usually try and weed those guys out because you'll be with them the whole hour and they wont get off or probably even get an erection, same with guys that lead me to believe they want to "party and play".

These guys are often very not fun. The closest I've ever come to blowing up on someone was some drunk guy who couldnt get it up for the life of him even after 45 minutes of near continuous oral with him saying stuff that I might like to hear while horny, but not in th context of going down on some old drunk guy.

When his hour came to a close I politely told him that I had other engagements that evening and I'm sorry that we didnt get that thing going and happily escorted him to the door.

I think he was so drunk he didnt even realize how close he had come to pushing me over the edge. it was one of the few times where I really couldn't even begin to fake enjoying myself.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

So what sorts of freaks, weirdos, and misfits do you have to deal with that they're so broken they can't even find someone in CL that will have sex with them?

That's a funny image to have of my clientèle. They're by far pretty normal guys, usually very nice, between the ages of 35-45, lots of disposable income but not much free time due to wife, kids, whatever, maybe wifey has gone to hell in the looks department or maybe she's not putting out as often as hubby wants, so he calls me up and within an hour or so is having a blast with a girl that's genrally way out of his league appearance wise.

I also think you'd be shocked at the amount of good looking and charming younger 30's guys that come see me. They're not the biggest sector of my business but there's enough so that I can ask my lookout girl* "did you see that guy? He was pretty good lookin" and she will agree.


*Lookout girl, my roommate is also an escort but she's very low volume. When I have someone coming over, or vice versa even, the other will take the dog for a walk to the head of the apartment complex with her cellphone on her and give me a call if she smells bacon for any reason. I also only walk people through how to get to me, i dont give my address, just an exit that depending on if you go half a mile left or half a mile right could put you in two different counties and cities. So I hope that my obscurity in my location discourages local law enforcement. I make it a gamble whether I am even in their same county, I think that encourages them to hunt easier targets that are for sure working their jurisdiction.

 

[RJW]

This is a GREAT idea for a thread. I have lately looked into the use of escorts to satisfy my urges. I am 41 and in shape but my preferences are women in the 18-22 age range which is completely unrealistic for a man my age that is not wealthy. I have no trouble meeting and hooking up with the 35 -40 aged females but they don't "do it" for me. So, unless a lottery win is in my future the only way I am tagged young hotties is if I pay for it.
Another issue, I really enjoy having sex with someone i have had a chance to get to know and have some conversation with. Is this unusual? How would you accommodate this?
Plus kissing is a HUGE part of the experience for me, is this allowed?

 

[fatallyflawed]

BEFORE WE GO ANY FURTHER!!!

Do not ask about pricing or any form of sourcing info in this thread.

We are allowing xtc to share with us her life experiences, but we are following standard drug policies ala BLUA.

That means no "how much"
That means no "where can I get some"

Warnings will be issued accordingly!

 

[Mariposa]

The reason I asked about your sexual orientation is that I've known a few female sex workers. All were bisexual or lesbian "off the job" except one who is dead straight (and now out of the business). Do you think that some female sex workers end up hating men because of negative experiences on the job?

Do you get a lot of men who complain about their wives/partners to you? From what I've read on other boards, a lot of married men aren't just dissatisfied with the lack of sex in their marriage, they genuinely seem to despise their wives, and also women in general. Is this consistent with your experience?

Lastly, since we're asking the sexpert - my boyfriend and I are mutually monogamous and have a very good sex life. What would be your tip for making great sex better? Neither of us is into BDSM/hard kink/rough trade, but beyond that and monogamy, we don't really have any limits. Any tricks I should know about?

Thanks for opening this discourse, btw -- this is most enlightening.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

This is a GREAT idea for a thread. I have lately looked into the use of escorts to satisfy my urges. I am 41 and in shape but my preferences are women in the 18-22 age range which is completely unrealistic for a man my age that is not wealthy. I have no trouble meeting and hooking up with the 35 -40 aged females but they don't "do it" for me. So, unless a lottery win is in my future the only way I am tagged young hotties is if I pay for it.
Another issue, I really enjoy having sex with someone i have had a chance to get to know and have some conversation with. Is this unusual? How would you accommodate this?
Plus kissing is a HUGE part of the experience for me, is this allowed?

What you want is a "GFE" that's "girlfriend experience" if the girl is as she advertises that includes all the kissy cuddly stuff where she tries to be very warm and accommodating like the "ultimate girlfriend". We avoid making things seem rushy or mechanical or forced in any way. Sometimes the enjoyment is genuine, sometimes it's an act. Just depends on the guy really.

I can't speak for every escort, some of them expect to be paid for every hour they spend with you and offer multi hour "dinner and desert" packages which are usually pretty pricey. Some of them are more easy going especially if a guy is decent looking and charming

Personally I don't mind going out to dinner with someone off the clock, I'm usually pretty free in the evenings and enjoy nice dinners that I probably generally would only consider as a "treat" if I was the one picking up the tab.

When we retreat back to your place or mine then I expect compensation for that time but I'm pretty easy going about how long things go.

Every girl is going to vary in that respect. Some of them are very into the money and demand prices that I'd feel embarrassed to ask for. I see girls no where near as good looking as I am asking significantly more per hour.

You just have to do your research, talk to girls, and see which ones have good reviews along the lines of what you'd want from an experience and is within your price range.

 

[RJW]

I idealy for me I would like to find a chick that would be a regular 2-3 times a month gig where we could meet for dinner and then finish with desert at her place.
I am financially well off but if I am taking an escort to an exclusive 5 star restaurant it would be nice if that experience in and of itself would be compensation enough for that part of the evening.
Let me ask, do you have any regular clients that you enjoy spending time with and have built friendly relationships with over time?

 

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

If you met a guy and you wanted to settle down with him as a husband/BF/in a long term relationship would you tell him about how you are/were into doing sex for pay?