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Ask an Escort- by XtcgrlATL

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Billnye said:
Whats the plan after you've become old and unprofitable?

The plan is that I should at least be nearly set with a different business within 3 years. If I wanted I could probably escort decently successfully well into my mid/late 30's but I've no interest in doing that and plenty of time to find other options.
 
PriestTheyCalledHim said:
Would you or have you ever done bondage/SM with/to/have it done to you by men/women for pay?

I've done some relatively mild domination stuff but I kind of found it required more planning then I am usually wanting to put into a get together. I am not dominant in personality at all so I have to completely fake everything, whereas with GFE I can pretty much be myself. If people want me to dominate them I generally suggest that they'd be happier with another provider.

I also wouldn't like to be on the sub side of it. There's already a lot of pressure on me to perform for a simple GFE so I definitely wouldn't want the added pressure of being a "sub". I especially wouldn't ever allow a stranger to tie me up.

GFE is really where it's at. It requires no real thought and leaves me mostly in control of what goes on.
 
PriestTheyCalledHim said:
Have you ever had to deal with undercover cops?

Well there was that one time I was busted. Other then that there's the possibility that undercover porkers have sent me emails or called me and said things that sent up redflags so I would have killed the conversation. I dont think I've ever had a undercover cop come into my home. They usually like to control the environment so they like to work in hotels where they can set up cameras and microphones and have backup officers right at the door, that kind of thing, and then they just tag girls that do outcall, that also makes it easier because there are no jurisdictional questions for them if the girl is coming to them.

It's really what you say that gets you in trouble, so you avoid talking about money and you never talk about sex, and you especially never talk about the two together.

My requested donation covers my time for modeling and companionship only, if you ask, officer :)
 
What are your red flags for refusing male clients?

Do you ever get really old men who are as old as someone's grandfather who just want attention from you because they can't or don't want to have sex anymore?
 
PriestTheyCalledHim said:
What are your red flags for refusing male clients?

Asking about money sends up a redflag but it's a small one that just puts me on the alert for others, a lot of guys write down my number and call me later and dont have my ad on hand to check my rate and may have legitimately forgotten or maybe they hope i'll say something lower.

Another small redflag is asking my address, I prefer to give only the exit number or a land mark like a nearby mall.

Asking about anything sexual is a big fat red flag and results in me politely ending the conversation if I can, or outright hanging up. I also file these numbers away under my "First Rule" listing (The First Rule about Project Mayhem is you do not ask questions.)

Asking about money and then asking about something sexual is about the biggest red flag and is instant hangup and First Rule listing.

I also do a reverse lookup on peoples phone numbers to see who their cell carrier is (Nextel is a minor red flag) or if it's a landline, who it belongs to. I also do a google search on their number to see if it turns up anything and run it through blacklistings

Other then that I just have a little conversation with them if I can and get a bit of a feel for them.


Do you ever get really old men who are as old as someone's grandfather who just want attention from you because they can't or don't want to have sex anymore?

Very rarely but from time to time it happens, and they are not pleasant clients. I generally put them in my dont answer list.
 
Do you ever get bisexual/lesbian women who want services from you?

What do most clients ask for/seem to want?

Do you make clients pay before or afterwards?

Have you ever had nervous men who can't get it up so they call it off in the middle of it? Do they get a refund or do they just not pay?

Do you allow men to give you oral sex, make them use saran wrap/a dental dam, or just not allow them to give you face at all?

Did you ever have a guy who just wanted to give you oral sex and nothing more?

What if 2 men wanted to both do that to you and then have you watch and masturbate while they suck each other off and 69? Or what if they did this and then started making out and then blowing each other?

Do you make men put latex gloves on if they want to finger you or do you not let them do this?

Do you use toys at all or if a man brings a toy will you let him use it on/in you? If a guy uses a toy on/in you do you make him put condoms on it?

I was watching a talk show at work during break once where this guy who ran an escort service in NYC he said how if a man is going to cheat on his wife it's better if he has sex with an escort for pay instead of a woman who he works with, because it's less emotionally damaging to the wife, how do you feel about this?
 
how common is it for escorts to offer anal sex? does it generally cost a lot more?
 
xtcgrlatl said:
Not seriously. It's crossed my mind a time or two but I feel that the way I run my business makes me pretty safe from LE problems these days and the fact that it's a bit of a blackmarket commodity allows for more profitability.

the last part's what i figured
smart gal. keep up the good work. Satan loves you!

JK :)
 
PriestTheyCalledHim said:
Do you ever get bisexual/lesbian women who want services from you?

No, well not outside the context of a couple. But I dont see couples.


What do most clients ask for/seem to want?

Pretty standard vanilla sex. It's kind of funny how routine it becomes on my end. I go through practically the same series of things every time with only minor variations. But it's the same kind of stuff you'd expect from your girlfriend, kissy rubby stuff at first and then trading oral for a while back and forth a few times with other activities in between, about 20-25 minutes in I suggest 69 and depending how into it the guy is I'll often finish them in this position without having to do intercourse. If I can get away without having to have intercourse that's great. If the guy isnt getting off on 69 then I'll suggest intercourse because that usually does the trick in 10 minutes or less.

Do you make clients pay before or afterwards?

I usually leave it for after. Some clients will just take out the money without a word and set it down somewhere but if they ask about money I tell them "don't worry about it" and then handle it afterwards.

Have you ever had nervous men who can't get it up so they call it off in the middle of it? Do they get a refund or do they just not pay?

Yep, from time to time. If they decide to call it fairly early on, like in the first 15 minutes or so then I'll usually let it go without worrying about money, though it is much appreciated if the guy at least gives me a little something for my time. Regardless of whether or not he can get it up the fact is that I scheduled my day around him. My most requested hours are between noon and 3PM, so if I reserve an hour of that for someone and turn down 3-4 other guys that asked about the exact same time then Mr Floppy Dong just cost me the money I would have made from someone else.

I get the impression that some girls will expect full payment because of the fact that they did reserve that time for you. I'll usually just let them decide if they want to be a gentleman and be annoyed with them if they walk out without at least tossing a little courtesy money my way but I'm not the type to ride someone about money. Let it go and move on, less stress that way.

Sometimes guys will call it early on and leave me my full donation. On the one hand that's the proper way to do things, industry standard, as it were. On the other I always feel a little guilty for accepting full fee for 15 minutes but I also dont want to turn it down because regardless of what happens I can't replace the time that I scheduled for them.

Do you allow men to give you oral sex, make them use saran wrap/a dental dam, or just not allow them to give you face at all?

I dont really encourage it and I dont enjoy it, but I allow it. Some escorts do and some dont. I am under the impression that industry standard is that "DATY" is usually considered a plus. I dont make guys us saran wrap. I just dont usually let them do it for long before suggesting something else.

Did you ever have a guy who just wanted to give you oral sex and nothing more?

I'm going to say probably. I can't recall for sure but it doesnt sound out of the question. I'm fairly sure it's happened but can't recall any specific incidents that stand out in my mind.

What if 2 men wanted to both do that to you and then have you watch and masturbate while they suck each other off and 69? Or what if they did this and then started making out and then blowing each other?

Then they'd have to find another provider because I am a one at a time girl :)

Do you make men put latex gloves on if they want to finger you or do you not let them do this?

I don't make them wear gloves and I don't distinctly forbid "fingering" but I point out that I enjoy rubbing much more and that's usually enough to make guys just do that. 99% of the guys that come by seem like they want to please me and me suggesting things that I "like better" is almost always enough to get them to do that instead.

Do you use toys at all or if a man brings a toy will you let him use it on/in you? If a guy uses a toy on/in you do you make him put condoms on it?

No toys, please :) Sex toys have always kinda creeped me out.


I was watching a talk show at work during break once where this guy who ran an escort service in NYC he said how if a man is going to cheat on his wife it's better if he has sex with an escort for pay instead of a woman who he works with, because it's less emotionally damaging to the wife, how do you feel about this?

He's probably right. The way I see it is that if a guy comes to see me there's no real emotional connection or anything. We dont see each other every day, we're not going out to lunch together, we're not going to keep seeing each other at work even if the affair stops. It's not something that's "developed" over time. No guy is going to consider leaving his wife for me.

On a scale between masturbating and having an extended passionette affair, i feel like seeing me is more akin to masturbation.

I do have guys wives call or email me from time to time

I just try not to get involved. Hopefully I don't answer the phone when they call. I did have one guys wife text message me pretending to be her husband but I had no idea who her husband was so when she was like asking if I remembered her/her husband I had no idea who it was at all so I didnt say anything incriminating.

Sometimes a guys wife gives me the impression that she thinks we're having an affair, like one guys wife was like "he's been lying to you, his real name is this and he has kids and has been married for blah blah years" and I am just reading it and like "uhhh, dont care"

and some guys wives seem more savvy to the fact that I am an escort and just want to talk to me for some reason. Or will email me and be like "don't email my husband anymore!"

Luckily that doesn't happen very often, I feel bad when it does but there's nothing I can do if a guy can't cover his tracks. I just dont call them or email them unless they call or email me first and I never communicate with the wife cause I don't know if I'll make things better or worse by doing so.
 
Avporx said:
how common is it for escorts to offer anal sex?

I really don't know. I don't have a supporting "VIP" membership on the review site I read so I can't read "the juicy details". I have a limited access thing that allows me to read my own reviews and access to the "providers only" board. Girls generally dont talk about the specifics of what they do on the providers board.


does it generally cost a lot more?

I think it depends on the escort. Some of them practically have a menu on their website with prices and services and you'll sometimes see it on there as an extra but that's pretty trashy imo. I don't think most smart escorts would run their business like that. I think smart ones either allow it, or dont allow it and only have one posted "rate" that's all inclusive of everything they do. Then you dont have to discuss what is and isnt included or seem like you're "upselling" on your services like some chicks do.

Some chicks posted rate is just to walk in the door and get naked. if you want anything beyond that they try and upsell you and I think that's a shitty way to run your business and it doesnt make for happy clients at all.
 
First, I'd like to say that I have enjoyed this thread in that voyeuristic sort of way :)

My question is have you ever had a consistent client who you have spent a lot of time with and had any kind of feelings for them? I think there are girls who can completely detach themselves from the sex=love idea, there are those who completely can't, and then there's people like me who are in between. Have you ever found yourself attached?
 
Lysis said:
My question is have you ever had a consistent client who you have spent a lot of time with and had any kind of feelings for them? I think there are girls who can completely detach themselves from the sex=love idea, there are those who completely can't, and then there's people like me who are in between. Have you ever found yourself attached?

Nothing more then friendly feelings. I have a couple clients I enjoy hearing from but it's always in the context of hearing from a friend, never have I felt like I was going developing like serious feelings towards someone. If I have a good time and especially if I get off with a guy then I'll sometimes feel a little to friendly and will occasionally mention things that I wished I hadn't once the endorphins die down.

I guess the thing to keep in mind is that what I do, to me, barely qualifies as sex. I mean, it is, no doubt about that, but it feels more like performing a service then sex like sex for pleasure.

Then there are guys that I've had "friends with benefits" kinda relationships that lasted a week or a few weeks with that I felt like I might be going for but when I took a step back I realized that was just the post orgasm "bonding" hormones talking and no I didn't actually want a relationship relationship with this person so I'm going to quit having sex with them.

So it's really just a matter of the context of the sex. Sex for work is mostly just acting and even if it's good doesnt do all that much for me because even if I see the same guy it was probably a month since i last saw them anyways, sex for fun every day or every couple days makes my hormones get a little wacky and tricks me into thinking that I might want a relationship when I actually don't.
 
Have you ever had a regular relationship where money wasn't involved? Something steady, because you were in love or does this lifestyle numb you from those kind of feelings?
 
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OP, I wish you would at least get tested for HIV every six months or so. You could go for years showing no symptoms at all and then when it does show up it will be too late. Take care of yourself, please..
 
Lysis said:
First, I'd like to say that I have enjoyed this thread in that voyeuristic sort of way :)

Agreed! This thread is really great. People just love listenin' to them prostitutes! They can't get enough of it I tells ya!
 
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