The "rush to the orgasm" is the #1 thing I dislike in sexual partners and frankly I only have patience for people who have patience for sex. A lot of gay men (in my experience) are aiming just for the orgasm, which is sad and not the only thing I want. It's sure great but not everything I'm looking for.
I absolutely agree it's about the journey, not just the destination. What I meant by the rush is that "natural high" you get when you are sexually excited. My issue and concern is that I have the difficulty in enjoying the stimulation while being erect while I am with a girl. I wanna be able to experience pleasure. I know this sounds extremely derogatory but guys would tell me "pussy is pussy, your dick doesn't discriminate." For me I do not feel that is the case. Of course I've never been able to "get lucky" with a girl who I was really attracted to. I also respect the fact that a girl I am with won't necessarily have a "pornstar physique." It seems like some guys can just have sex with women who they really aren't physically attracted to, but again that may not be entirely true as I can only know how my own brain works.
lol. I'd imagine a lot of these guys might be drinking before hand, who knows
That kind of answer sounds to me like code for "don't ask me that question".
Great advice like always. Madness is like a natural SLR guru.
I often feel like I have to imagine the types of porn that I watch in my head. I'm really really trying to get used to using my imagination again. I feel like porn is some sort of mental drug that you build tolerance to
there are certain things that I first saw in porn that would turn me on. it's almost as if I need to see or imagine it when I'm having sex. I never imagined in a million years I'd have this issue. Like I should just instantly get turned on by seeing an attractive female like my younger days.
This would probably qualify as an "obsession" or "fixation" in psychological sexuality. You totally need to stop thinking about scenes of porn, because they are not real. They are pixels on a screen. You were not one of the participants and should not sexualize that in your mind so directly. You're alienating yourself from your own sexuality, if that makes sense IMO.
Hey, it's way better to have to deal with something like this... than... oh I don't know my horrible intravenous abuse obsession/fixation. And I still somehow let go of that. It was really fucking hard. But I did it.
a lot. I want to experience it at some point lol
I know. I started getting into more "amateur" types of porn stuff that seems more realistic and made by pornhub uploaders lol. the flashy brazzers fake tit stuff got old. granted theres probably a lot of editing going on in those as well. but yes I have to try and actually imagine myself having sex with someone if that's what youre referring to.
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I discovered images of it probably when I was like 12 probably remember finding the playboy channel when I was like 13 or 14 lol. I wanna say somewhere around those ages. maybe each a year later but you get the idea. definitely interested in watching thisthere is an episode you should watch......... fuck me if I can find a free link though
"This Is Life with Lisa Ling" Porn Ed (TV Episode 2019) ⭐ 9.2 | Documentary
42m | TV-PG
I watched it. It was very revealing about the human psyche.
I grew up with porn but until I was an adult I had 56k dialup which meant pictures, not video. An afternoon could be dedicated to downloading an album. It might take days or weeks to get a full video game. No way in hell I'd have wasted that much time/bandwidth to one porn video! So I really never watched porn videos until I was already having sex.
I don't think it altered the way I have sex, I have sex very organically (animalistically "like a wolf" I am told; there is a shift in my eyes/actions/behavior when I go into this mode and I have been told this by someone I've had sex with a lot over 12 months now...) but I can imagine it having an effect on other people who exposed themselves to it at a young age.
@tazz20
When did you first start watching porn?
sorry to hear that man :/ hope youre getting through with all your traumas
Thanks man.sorry to hear that man :/ hope youre getting through with all your traumas
I always noticed that my libido and bloodflow of my dick is lowest at night during the day I can kinda get erections. does this seem off? I know a doctor told me our testosterone is highest in the morning
