Monkeybizness
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If I didn't really care for the Guy I would def be down. But with my boyfriend who I love And respect I wouldn't be able to.
I cant do it to some one I care for. But ill sure as hell do it to a Guy who is a fuckbuddy
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I cant do it to some one I care for. But ill sure as hell do it to a Guy who is a fuckbuddy
purple_cloud
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I don't really understand this...if it's a fetish, it's like role playing. It's a game. You don't love nor respect him any less --- if anything, you care about him quite a lot if you don't share the fetish but you're willing to do it for him. I'd be almost uncomfortable doing anything too kinky with a fuck buddy --- if it's going to get a bit violent, I'd feel much better doing it with someone that I trust.
Monkeybizness
Bluelighter
Im down for a mmf thing if my bf was cool with it . But the humiliation part I wont be able to do with someone I really care for . I cant fake (btw I checked out some vids today) the his cock is so much better bigger and hotter then yours thing . If I'm going to say it I will mean it therefore ill say it to someone I'm casual with.
I'm mean the fantasy is hot! But I wouldn't be able to do it with someone I love
For some reason I cant involve emotional feelings with strong kinks such as these
I'm mean the fantasy is hot! But I wouldn't be able to do it with someone I love
For some reason I cant involve emotional feelings with strong kinks such as these
this, although I understand your more than valid points MB
DrunkardsDream
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Yes I'd say that you are bisexual. If you were really straight or heterosexual you would not want to suck another guy's cock at all even if your girlfriend wanted you to, and you wouldn't want your face rubbed in another guy's cum.
Being "forced" to suck cock is not a fetish or a kink. I'm gay and I've had sex with gay and bisexual men who got off on this.
The other stuff the OP described with being tied up and spit on and called names and spanked are all kinks.
I've met people who were into the whole Cukold thing before and they all used it as an excuse to have sex with men but not come out as being bisexual or accept their sexuality and they stayed in denial about their sexuality which is not a good thing.
Yes some bisexuals only want sex with a certain gender when they're there with a partner of the same or opposite gender.
I've met some bisexual men who were only into sucking cock and they didn't want to kiss men, and I've met other bisexuals who were only into eating/fucking pussy and didn't really like kissing or making out with women like they do with men.
Monkeybizness
Bluelighter
in a cockold situation most of the guys dont even get involved they just watch they barley even touch the girl.
i think i would dry heave if i saw my bf suck cock efff.
the OPs fantasy it self is a bit intense. i dont think his gf would EVER be cool with it . it takes a certain special kinda girl to do what he wants
K'd-OUT-in-AZ
Bluelighter
I just wonder about it being a fantasy of something I'd actually go through. Thinking about it is one thing but actually doing it is another. As I said I would never suck a cock UNLESS my girlfriend completely humiliated me and told the guy to throat fuck up with your cock as she laughed. Other than that I would not even touch the guy, just hear about him calling me names with my girlfriend doing so. I'd feel ashamed. But in all reality I'd never want to be near a guy unless he is a friend of mind who has no idea about this stuff. I have no feelings for a men whatsoever. I was raped by a man when I was 11 and I didn't know what to do but cry. If a man came to me and wanted to kiss me and hold me I'd pull out my knife. I just wonder if the whole cum rubbing and being forced to suck cock (sort of like when I was raped) I'd do it. So is that bisexual. I'm mostly interested in what girls have to say, no offense guys. I'm open to advice by you as well.
Issac Sinclair
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Do you get your girl to slap you or do other things?
PriestTheyCalledHim
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I'm sorry to hear that you were raped. You did not deserve it and it was not your fault or something you wanted. It doesn't make you bisexual but I do know men who are bisexual and gay who have been raped by men but even though they're actually attracted to men the rape wasn't something they wanted.
I wouldn't try to do the sort of kink/roleplay you're describing where you're "forced" by your girlfriend to have sex with a guy and suck his cock.
Have you ever talked to a counselor or therapist about what happened to you? They can be helpful and there are ways you can see a counselor or professional therapist for free if you can't afford it or don't have insurance. I think that you should do this.
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ech0s85
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yeah man youre not bi or gay its probably completely because of what happened to you when you were little.
captainballs
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Lots of people will say, "oh, it's cool - whatever you want PLuR!" but think about the future. When humiliation gets old, what's next? I used to think getting blowjobs with strippers was cool, but then I found out it wasn't as cool as when I did smack and barfed on the hooker. Eventually, the road leads to depravity - not the hedonistic kind, but the dirty, bad kind. It is best to be free of sin, and sometimes this requires cock and ball weights with crosses etched into them.
Monkeybizness
Bluelighter
Yea op what your asking for is a bit to much . and what Priest^ said sounds like a possibility … I don't think many ppl would be up for it regardless of you being bi or not it has nothing to do with the fantasy
its how you want things to be played out
And in regards to that, its a question YOU need to answer
Do you think you might be bi?
its how you want things to be played out
And in regards to that, its a question YOU need to answer
Do you think you might be bi?
severely etarded
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This^^ I recommend seeking professional help. It sounds to me like you are still traumatized by and dealing with what happened to you as a small child. I think this may be more than just a kink/fetish. I think (you've even said) it may be caused by your self esteem issues, most likely caused by the horrific event you went through as a child.
I strongly recommend talking to a professional like a psychologist. It sounds like you have unresolved issues from the incident. My uncle was also raped as a child by some pervert who escaped from a mental institution (in the 1960's when they thought child molesters were just loonies). He never lived a 'normal' life, always dated strippers his whole life, never could have sex. It caused him huge problems, and he actually died a couple months ago, alone, in his home, for still unknown reasons, at 55. RIP Uncle
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Jblazingphoenix100
Ex-Bluelighter
Oh...now I understand why you feel you want this. *hugs*
But also - see how this is unhealthy to be perpetuating that feeling of humiliation you experienced all those years ago, in a healthy relationship!
Have you discussed this with your girlfriend?
I severely recommend you go and seek psychotherapeutical help on learning how to boost your self worth and learning how to break this unhealthy cycle of wanting to be humiliated.
PS I have much sympathy for where you're at, brother - stay strong, and accept you're an awesome human being who deserves more than what you got.
Accepting what happened in the past can be fairly easy once you try, but forgiving yourself in that past situation can be quite hard - but make conscious efforts to do so everyday.
Peace
*hugs*But also - see how this is unhealthy to be perpetuating that feeling of humiliation you experienced all those years ago, in a healthy relationship!
Have you discussed this with your girlfriend?
I severely recommend you go and seek psychotherapeutical help on learning how to boost your self worth and learning how to break this unhealthy cycle of wanting to be humiliated.
PS I have much sympathy for where you're at, brother - stay strong, and accept you're an awesome human being who deserves more than what you got.
Accepting what happened in the past can be fairly easy once you try, but forgiving yourself in that past situation can be quite hard - but make conscious efforts to do so everyday.
Peace
Whipped Dream
Bluelighter
I think all of this talk about him needing therapy and his desires being "unhealthy" is all a bunch of horse shit, and you need to quit suggesting it to him. All this does is make him feel like he's a freak and repress his desires further. Repression is unhealthy. I'm NOT suggesting that we all indulge our deepest darkest fantasies, because there's a lot of fucked up people out there who would try and justify outright rape as "indulging their fantasies." I've got the cuckold fantasy too and I'm what society would label as more towards the "normal" end of the spectrum....little do they know. And I've never been raped nor mistreated as a child (sorry to hear about that BTW, F'in child molesters should all be strung up and fed their own nuts).
In the OP's case, his fantasy deals with himself and his GF's treatment of him. The only one who stands to be harmed in this case is himself.....but here's the thing....HE'S ASKING FOR IT. He wants that humiliation - he craves it. And he may never be fully satisfied until he gets it.
AS long as it's consensual...I don't see a problem in indulging this fantasy every once in a while. Every time he's sexually intimate with his GF it doesn't have to be this fantasy, but every once in a while is reasonable.
To the OP: your biggest challenge is gonna be to get your girl to actually go forward with this...AND MEAN IT! Nothing is worse than when someone tries to placate their partner by doing something, but isnt really into it, and so only half-asses it, and apologizes the entire time. I've been there, done that...it sucks. Either go all in or GTFO.
Have you sat your GF down and sincerely explained to her how much it means to you for this fantasy to happen? If you have brought it up, how has she reacted?
Total honesty without apology is always the best option. We are who are are. We all like different things. Doesn't mean we have to fit society's label of "freak," or "weirdo." Fuck society's labels.
In the OP's case, his fantasy deals with himself and his GF's treatment of him. The only one who stands to be harmed in this case is himself.....but here's the thing....HE'S ASKING FOR IT. He wants that humiliation - he craves it. And he may never be fully satisfied until he gets it.
AS long as it's consensual...I don't see a problem in indulging this fantasy every once in a while. Every time he's sexually intimate with his GF it doesn't have to be this fantasy, but every once in a while is reasonable.
To the OP: your biggest challenge is gonna be to get your girl to actually go forward with this...AND MEAN IT! Nothing is worse than when someone tries to placate their partner by doing something, but isnt really into it, and so only half-asses it, and apologizes the entire time. I've been there, done that...it sucks. Either go all in or GTFO.
Have you sat your GF down and sincerely explained to her how much it means to you for this fantasy to happen? If you have brought it up, how has she reacted?
Total honesty without apology is always the best option. We are who are are. We all like different things. Doesn't mean we have to fit society's label of "freak," or "weirdo." Fuck society's labels.
severely etarded
Bluelight Crew
Um, you need to finish reading the thread bro. Story takes a turn to reveal underlying problems OP obviously needs therapy for, before going and acting out choking on dick humiliation fantasies. When you read on, it sounds almost like self-harm rather than a kink/fetish, and the underlying problem obviously needs to be addressed.
Whipped Dream
Bluelighter
Um, I read the entire thread "bro."
Here's the suggested scenario:
GF gets with some other dude while he watches, completely naked. During the course of his GF having sex with the third party, she ridicules his penis size. At some point, the cock his GF has been riding is turned on him, which he would be forced to fellate.
I see him possibly being bound at some point during these events, and there's some mild physical assault to add to the humiliation experience (ie the face-pushing).
Well so the fuck what? Sounds like some mild S&M mixed with cuckold fetish. That might be extreme to you, but there are millions that consider this lifestyle "normal."
Jblazingphoenix100
Ex-Bluelighter
No. You need to read post # 29. THen you will understand that you have not read the whole thread, you liar.
I skim too - but even I didn't skim over that one.
I skim too - but even I didn't skim over that one.
Jamshyd
Bluelight Crew
K'd out: As was mentioned, being raped by a man doesn't make you bisexual, it makes you the victim of assault. As a matter of fact, there is the chance that the man who did that was not gay himself. Rape is an act of violence, not of sexuality. Either way, I am really sorry to hear it happened to you.
But I also echo the above that this humiliation fantasy may end up in a disaster (so much so as to see you in prison, considering what you wrote).
On the same note, I'd recommend telling your therapist about the whole pulling-your-knife-out thing. Chances are, you WILL be approached by a gay man in the future. The answer is not violence.
But I also echo the above that this humiliation fantasy may end up in a disaster (so much so as to see you in prison, considering what you wrote).
On the same note, I'd recommend telling your therapist about the whole pulling-your-knife-out thing. Chances are, you WILL be approached by a gay man in the future. The answer is not violence.
Whipped Dream
Bluelighter
Nope. I READ all of the above threads, word for word. I just fail to see how his fantasies are harmful and unhealthy.
(Obviously the reference to pulling out a knife and stabbing a guy for wanting to kiss him was an exaggeration, come on folks).
Do you people leave the house? Have you seen what goes on in this fucked up world? His fantasies are pretty mild, really.
If he was suggesting making a snuff film or re-enacting what he experienced at the age of 11 (see I DID read it all!), I would definitely say he was fucked up and to go see a therapist. But S&M is regularly practiced by many folks who appear on the outside to be normal upstanding members of society.
(Obviously the reference to pulling out a knife and stabbing a guy for wanting to kiss him was an exaggeration, come on folks).
Do you people leave the house? Have you seen what goes on in this fucked up world? His fantasies are pretty mild, really.
If he was suggesting making a snuff film or re-enacting what he experienced at the age of 11 (see I DID read it all!), I would definitely say he was fucked up and to go see a therapist. But S&M is regularly practiced by many folks who appear on the outside to be normal upstanding members of society.