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DecENDber / LESScember

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Ah, the body image issues are something that can often times lead someone into using.....It is a quick fix. BUT being sober, you have the opportunity to actually work through your body image problems in a healthy way! Are you seeing a therapist?

The lonliness- Have you made any sober friends?
If not, you always have us <3

And boredom?!!? No honey- You are creative- You can come up with things to occupy your time- art, reading, exercising, even playing with makeup and taking pictures of the different types of looks you come up with :) Do something that pulls the positives out of you......
And again, we are here- If you are bored and thinking about using come here and talk it out!
BL can be good to keep from boredom as there is always SOMETHING going on :)
 
Pillthrill said:
Less intoxicants, more psychologically supportive drugs
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Yeah im definetely not going off my anti-depressant or anti-psychotic anymore because they do make me feel alot better. November was not good for me depression wise but i didnt use a whole lot of non prescription drugs.

December ain't lookin too good though :( . Got 2 cans of strong bow yesterday which i havent drank yet but will sometime the weekend.
 
Today was supposed to be my first without a cigarette and without coffee ('cause it makes me need a cigarette) and after an hour and smelling my husbands coffee from upstairs- I caved.
I have had a half a cigarette so far today and a big huge delicious coffee :)
I am going to try to just smoke less than yesterday (which was 2 1/2) and hope tomorrow I can start fresh.......
Trying to decide what my new morning routine should be- I guess I will start eating breakfast...... :)
 
^You are a brave woman to give up caffeine and nicotine at the same time. They also tend to go together for me and I'm enjoying coffee now. :\ I've definitely cut down on caffeine (doctor's orders - it makes those of us with panic and anxiety disorders a lot worse) and since I have a sprained ankle and must go outside to smoke (down a flight of stairs too) I've cut down on that a lot just spontaneously.

Understood that Wellbutrin/Zyban is not an option for everyone. It's not for me atm as I'm talking to my psych about going on something different and incompatible for depression. Wish the fucker would call me back and tell me what he's going to put me on. grrrrr.

I still have not had alcohol. I was very tempted last night, but fought it off with benzos, kind nug, and an early bedtime.

KC, good for you for not getting heroin. Keep it up. I've followed your story a bit, and you really have come a long way. :)
 
Mariposa said:
I still have not had alcohol. I was very tempted last night, but fought it off with benzos, kind nug, and an early bedtime.

KC, good for you for not getting heroin. Keep it up. I've followed your story a bit, and you really have come a long way. :)
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Thanks <3 *hugs*

It's not easy, but you can do it too :)
 
I've been having a really tough time these past few days....I'll pretty much have the pills in my hand about ready to take them, but then i'll decide against it thankfully.....this is much harder than I thought ):
 
Instead of having 4 shots of crown at lunch (on work days) I'm going to have 1 vodka cooler (vodka, sprite & oj).
And instead of getting completely fucked up when I go out on weekends, I'm going to stay sober enough that I remember what's going on and can deal with it.
And I won't drink on Fridays or Mondays, my days off.
Doesn't seem like much but it's a big deal to me.
One of these days I'll be ready to cut back on other stuff.
 
I had 4 months off meth until I started smoking it again on the 26th Sep (watching my team win the AFL grand final ;)). I wasn't successful in stopping until 2 weeks ago, when I started to notice all the negatives coming back again. It seems to take about a month of smoking it for all the bad shit to come back again. But I have two weeks off now, and planning on continuing not using, so that's a good start :).

My goals are -
No meth or speed at all.
No other stimulants (coke and mdma being the main culprits) at all except for New Years Eve when I'm allowed to do coke, I don't want to feel like I have to do it if I don't need it though.
No drinking alone. Drinking hasn't felt like a prob lately, so I'm not going to put too many rules in place for it at the moment, I'll review how it's going regularly though.
Opiates no more than twice a week. I'm not that concerned about this because I mainly use codeine. Actually, heroin I'm only allowed to use once this month...
No GAMBLING! This is becoming a big prob. Gambling and ice are really entwined for me and in this period where I've been using ice again I've gotten into gambling in a big way. I want to cut gambling out COMPLETELY this month, because it is a huge drain on my savings and a completely pointless and stupid activity.
I also want to cut those people who are a bad influence on me out of my life. This is a really hard one because they are my friends.
Finally, I want to set goals every day and achieve them. I want to get a new job this month.
 
I am a bit late in entering this thread for the month. Unlike the last few months, I am not going to put a lot of pressure on myself through posting concrete goals (or starting off with a sober/clean streak). Right now, I just have too much on my plate (I have not shared the story yet with TDS, but I'm in the middle of a huge crisis with two close family members), and given my personality/nature, I tend to see these kind of things(the monthly sobriety threads) almost like "challenges." So I think that if I make too many rules for myself this month, it could easily push me to an uncomfortable level of stress. So broadly speaking, the goals will mainly be about small things to hopefully improve my backdrop:
  • Try and exercise 5-6 days per week.
  • Eat healthy and take vitamins, with 1 "cheat day" per week with guilty pleasure food(s).
  • Challenge myself to make 1 or 2 new friends IRL, people who would be positive influences on me.
  • Give myself 1-2 hours per day to do something relaxing; reading, doing artwork, cooking, listening to new music, etc. LEARN TO BETTER RELAX :)
  • Do my absolute best to save my family unit from collapsing.

As for alcohol/drugs, I'm not going to put much pressure on myself. My only goal here is:
  • Do not exit the month "worse" than I entered.

That sounds really subjective. And it is; it's really only something that I personally will be able to gauge. It's not about quantity of use per se, but about the reasons behind why I do. I know that I will have a ton of triggers this month, so I want to exit it knowing that I didn't necessarily let the increase in stress factors lead to an increase in escapism.

I'm a New Year's Resolution kinda guy, so I think that if I can stick to these less-rigid rules, I will be in good shape to start off 2010 strong.

I will definitely be around in this thread, though, to hopefully hear about everyone's successes. I know December is another month full of temptations, but it's also a time to spend with families, to reunite with old friends, reflect on the past year and think about what we want from the next.

Good luck everyone <3
 
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NOvember began and ended w/ screw ups for me. my end of month stupidity really got me totally pissed and disgusted w/ myself.
for whatever reason the more i think about -NOT- indulging, the more craving and anxiety i feel .
plays out better for me if i work a lot, run more, and don't look at calendars.
best of luck to everyone!
-izzy
 
Well, it's the 9th, and I still haven't done anything other than what I am prescribed besides PPT for my ankle (and got a bitchin' histamine reaction to it - there goes that idea). I was very, very, very tempted to drink yesterday (this is why I don't keep it in the house - others have talked about having a "safety blanket" of a bottle around) but I did not, had a pretty epic canna-granola bar instead and ate a good dinner. The antihistamines and benzos assured me of 8 hours' sleep and I'm ready to face another day alcohol-free.

The past few weeks have been full of stress, unwanted change, and disappointment. I am reminding myself that if I abuse alcohol again, it will only make me feel worse. Having this initial period of abstinence will make it so that when I do choose to drink over the holidays (in the presence of family - and RL, I'm working on something similar in mine, only as mediator, not really participant) I don't have any other choice than to be sensible and moderate. I have realized that there are serious consequences to abusing alcohol. Those consequences are what is keeping me away from the bottle for now. When and if I go back, it will be appropriate, or not at all. I think I used up all my free passes with the stuff. Time to move on, in a few different ways...
 
Lustmord said:
Detoxember is best title. pfft
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hah, i like that.

i want to cut down my drinking badly, as i've been feeling like a miserable fuck the past 2 days, and just had to pop a xannie to quell my anxiety and keep myself from hitting the next person i see.

it sucks tho, im turning 21 in like 2 weeks and then there's new years, so im gonna attempt to keep my getting drunk to those 2 nights.

if these threads continue into january(hopefully they will), i am going to participate in that from the start, good luck to everyone else and their vices, this shit's not easy.
 
Well I finally told my parents that I have been abusing pain pills again after getting clean and then falling off the wagon.
Let's see if I can really quit this time...damn I feel so weak and tired...
I am going to try and quit weed too as it's simply a terrible waste of time and boredom replacer.
I want to quit pills permanently (I feel so guilty every every single relapse), but I want to get back to weed once I am in a better spot mentally. And then I only want to do it at parties or at really good moments. There are some times when smoking really is okay I don't care what anyone says.
 
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