Update.
I have stuck to everything except for keeping a good diet, keeping a cheerful disposition, and getting on an antidepressant.
I have not snapped or yelled at anyone in I do not remember how long. I have been moody and apathetic much of the time.
I have stayed away from alcohol besides beer and about 1/2 bottle of red wine in the past 2 weeks. I have not had more than a couple beers at a sitting.
I don't smoke pot every day anymore.
I have taken my scripts, but halved my dosage as the benzos were starting to make me more depressed. I don't cry every day anymore.
I have forced myself to get out and do things, and to spend time with people, even when I have not wanted to do so.
My financial situation is improved due to savvy saving, and I will be entering 2010 with my bills paid and enough left over to eat. THIS is an enormous load off my mind.
I need to improve my diet by eating 3 meals a day, even if they are small and laying off the caffeine. I have trouble eating when I am sad or stressed. I have started an exercise bike regimen for my ankle and am pushing through it, though it hurts like hell still. I have been walking without my cane for almost 3 weeks now, just a compression sock... and I have avoided ordering tramadol which is HUGE - abstinent since early/mid November
It was not as hard to come off of it for me as it seems to be for others.
Self-help books and techniques, particularly those of Eckhart Tolle (others as well), have been of assistance to me and I am continuing this self-exploration in 2010 to answer the question:
how do I feel like a whole person instead of an addict, and why do I feel the need to drown my consciousness rather than expanding it?
It's a big task but I think I'm up for it.