So everybody I'm in a pickle. I really don't know what to do I love my woman I really do but at the same time I can't stand her. She so negitive. Here is the run down we've been together for 10 years and have 2 kids together. Ever scene we've been together I've been high. Now that I'm sober she brings me down so much. I don't wanna hurt her but I also wanna b happy. I feel very lost. Any advice would mean the world. Thanks guys y'all are my support
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Sub detox ready to feel better but I'm not
- Thread starter Eg6jbow
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Dodger Guy LA
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10 Years and two kids. I read this thread and remember you saying you loved your girl and kids. Our partners can drive us nuts, part of the relationship. My advice is to communicate and talk about it. This will help with your sobriety as well.
The kids are great there not the problem and never will b. But she is still on sub and don't wanna stop. I can't stand it in my face everyday and she did some fucked up shit in the past that's really hitting me know. I guess I was high and didn't deal with it. I e been cheated on about 7 times in 4 years. Its really fucking with me know.
That's the hardest part about getting sober IMO.. Dealing with all the real shit that we didn't have to while high. And man is it hard! I think you really need to talk with her before jumping to anything. But over all, you gotta do what's right for you and your sobriety. Let us know dude.
What's up guys I'm at day 40 and I feel good I mean really good. Me and my lady are doing good and I got a job not really the one I wanted but it's a job so that's a really good thing. I just wanted to give an update. I want to give a big thanks to u guys it's been a very ruff road but I'm getting better everyday that goes by. If I can give any advice just hmu I'll check in often and try to help as much as possible. Hope everyone had a Merry Christmas and Happy New year ?
Jabberwocky
Frumious Bandersnatch
What did I tell you, it was just a matter of time
I'm glad to see you are feeling better and doing well. What are you doing to keep the momentum going with life/recovery?
And, while things sure sound infinitely improved for you, is there anything that you still find even a little bit challenging about moving forward - if not currently struggling, perhaps fears or something the future? Things can get exponentially better very fast in early recovery, but they can also get exponentially harder too.
Hello everyone I've had a few set backs nothing to serious tho. In the last two weeks I've I took around 3hydro 5mg and about a 1/4 mg of sub about 5 times and when I say this I mean not a 1/4 of a sub but a 1/4 mg of sub. I just hope I didn't set my self up for failer. Any in put would b great. I've not took anything in 3 days and I feel really good.
cj
Bluelight Crew
Just be careful. Expect an increase in cravings after every use.
the last dose
Bluelighter
Eg6jbow, im pretty sure we both quit opioids on the same day Thanksgiving nite was my last dose. Stay strong dont let anybody bring you down trust me i know easier said that done!.
We have come too far to turn back now i have very little cravings probably because i was on oxy everyday over 20 years i dont wanna go back to having to dose opioids around the clock ever again.
You have to be feeling similiar too me at this point starting to get natural sleep i even slept 8 hours a couple nites, i too exercise im starting to turn a corner some im sure you are too hang in there bro!
We have come too far to turn back now i have very little cravings probably because i was on oxy everyday over 20 years i dont wanna go back to having to dose opioids around the clock ever again.
You have to be feeling similiar too me at this point starting to get natural sleep i even slept 8 hours a couple nites, i too exercise im starting to turn a corner some im sure you are too hang in there bro!
Jabberwocky
Frumious Bandersnatch
What are you doing to take care of yourself right now? And for fun?
Even with a little slip here and potentially there Eg, you are doing just fine. Your head is in the right place, despite the current difficulties you're facing. Remember, any progress in the right direction is cause for celebration, no matter how large or small. And any mistakes made along the way are great opportunities to learn and grow, again no matter how big or small.
Try and take the approach of learning to learn from your mistakes, and not to beat yourself up for them - we are far too good at beating ourselves up when we're down than we are at learning to make the most of even the darkest days.
Jabberwocky
Frumious Bandersnatch
I'm still interested to hear about what you're doing for like pure enjoyment - working out may be fun but I tend to notice most folks need more than just exercise in life to be happy. Are you interested in exploring any other hobbies or pursuits? Perhaps ones connected to those you might have been into prior to your experiences with harmful substance use?
I would love to do things I use to prior to using. But funds r low and all I have is stress witch makes it really hard sometimes. Im so scared I'm gonna go back in to detox after slipping up. This helps a lot talking on here but I can't do this 24/7. Plus not working is ruff so is going back to work. I really need to just suck it up and go back to work but when I went back to work everybody was so high so I had my slip then I quit there cause I could not be around it that really sucked it was like the addiction was just pulling me back in. I really feel so lost I just wanna lock my self in a room and hide
Jabberwocky
Frumious Bandersnatch
I totally understand those feelings. Shit, I've been off methadone for over six months and haven't used heroin in three years next week, and I still have days where all I want to do is lock myself in my room and hide. It is an ongoing battle, especially for those who find themselves amidst a transitional period in life.
What kind of work did you do that had you surrounding by folks who used? Any chance you could get work elsewhere in the field if it's work you enjoy? If you want to wait and find something more meaningful, you could always do some part time volunteer work to help keep you occupied, that is often very rewards and helps to structure one's time in constructive ways.
What kind of work did you do that had you surrounding by folks who used? Any chance you could get work elsewhere in the field if it's work you enjoy? If you want to wait and find something more meaningful, you could always do some part time volunteer work to help keep you occupied, that is often very rewards and helps to structure one's time in constructive ways.
Hey guys wanted to give an update. I've quit smoking weed and I'm gonna go to the army very excited about it. I think it will really help at least I'm hopeing it will. If any body has any input about it that would be great just let me know. Thanks for all the support thanks guys
Jabberwocky
Frumious Bandersnatch
How long have you been planning to join the Army Eg? It seems like the first time you've mentioned it here, kind of abrupt decision, no? Do they not drug test recruits going into the military?
I almost joined the military after college, but my dad convinced me not to. It is definitely not an effective way to deal with one's challenges regarding substance use, but at the same time I can think of worse things.
I would strongly suggesting talking over your decision with as many people that you respect as possible. Joining the military is quite the commitment!
No matter what you decide, I wish you the best of luck! We will support you no matter what 
I almost joined the military after college, but my dad convinced me not to. It is definitely not an effective way to deal with one's challenges regarding substance use, but at the same time I can think of worse things.
I would strongly suggesting talking over your decision with as many people that you respect as possible. Joining the military is quite the commitment!
No matter what you decide, I wish you the best of luck! We will support you no matter what