I hope Phr loses his mod because he really deserves whatever is coming to him. All the racist comments he has made towards me and about me was clearly not professional. So if bluelight wants to keep it's black people percentage at 1% then they better do what they have to do, or further become a white only site. My dreams have been nothing, but nightmares because of this. I am not shit!. I am a human!!!!!
Girl you are not shit, you are the shit. I think you have accomplished a great deal at a young age against rather rough odds. You are an inspiration to me.
If you wonder why, because I struggled hard to get my degree, it was my first go on probation and if I failed my classes I was going to prison. I wanted an education and couldn't afford university. Going to community college does not make you less of a person, it just means you made the best of your circumstances and the classes are just as challenging and you are held to the same standards.
Do not let someone bring you down like that. I tried to explain to people that community college is the same as regular college, but no they don't get it, but they didn't get into college or even out their homes.
Phro wasn't the best or worst guy until he got his title and yes he let us down. Does he deserve exile, not really if he wants to be a contributing and positive member of the community.
I also want to add it is bullshit to use the current political situation in the States to try to fuck with people. We all know who this is directed at.
This bullshit didn't make the lounge great and it got us where we are now. As far as I am concerned anyone here to start shit, repeatedly attack the same person, and the just call a mod to get their ban revoked is bullshit. Also as far as some of the rules, its not the words so much as how we use them.
I really doubt banning words it the answer, what about banning serious personal attacks and hiding behind a persona of being a hard working person when that is far from the truth just to put down those who choose to do things with their life. The lounge is no place to tear someone appart for going to college, working, and so on.
Heresy repeated gossip is not witty, its not funny, its not hurtful to me, it is just fucking annoying cuz it ruins good conversations. So I think those who are not playing ball and just skirting around the rules when they know exactly what the rules where intended to prevent is their exact behavior.
Also most reporting should be made public. Honestly if you have a problem with what someone says you can talk to them first and not abuse the report function and fuck you to everyone who bans someone for saying the wrong word once in a non hurtful manner and not doing shit about people on here who just get free passes for no reason and just log in for the sake of personal attacks, so if we suppor that crap, we get what we deserve.
All this shit makes stuff harder for people doing a good job and most mods try damn hard.
Also this whole thing about, you said this in PM and it being a fucking outright lie is just pathetic and is annoying. I don't want to get on here to be annoyed. So look I might be rather thick skinned because I feel good about who I am IRL but that should not give anyone the right to do that shit. I don't have aspergers and I am sure there are people on here who do and honestly you are doing serious damage to them and not me.
I just don't like being called something I am not. I do have some problems, drugs, vices, and problem some serious PTSD along with the anxiety disorders so I survived a great deal and this site had a great deal to do with it. I would hate to walk away now but there are some people here for the wrong reasons and it is not fair for their bans to be overturned so quickly.
I had a two month ban for making fun of Libby and my join date changed by the very likes of the people ripping her a new one just yesterday so if you want to make rules, they should apply to everyone and once again context is more important than the actual rule. Rules are meant to discourage a certaint type of behavior.
So if I say I am going to smoke a fag can you say I am going to shoot a homosexual in the head or light a cigarette? Seriously? So my point there is the rules against racism, sexism, and homophobia shouldn't apply to the words so much as a systematic daily, hourly, way in which to do what the rules where intended to prevent but just hiding behind a persona that is false while anyone who shares about their actual life is put down.
I don't know who the fuck gets off calling me retarded but I have read some post my members with the disorder that I am constantly accused of having and these people that do have it on the verge of suicide and posting in the dark side and god forbid they ever walk in here because if people said the shit they say to me with the actual disorder they might actually hurt themselves.
I don't know where people get off tearing down someone elses accomplishments when they do fuckall with their life. Look I never said I was exactly sane but I certainly am not retarded but some people with mental disorders post in other forums and it breaks my heart to read their stories and that is one reason I just did not like the position I had and didn't really want it back or insist upon it.
As far as claiming to be a hard working Amercian fucked over by the existence of the impoverished while clearly not being employed, that is just bullshit and there should be action there. I thin that creates a whole clusterfuck that is going to cause problems down the road.
Also if I give someone the permission to post a PM that does not give them a right to just say I said something I didn't. If I actually shared the PM it would do more harm than good and I simply asked that some of the harsher shit I said to that person be taken out and not for them to write whatever the fuck they wanted. We have rather clear rules regarding pm's and photographs and those are both disrepected.
We are all human beings and should act like human beings. If you are hear just to be a twat, please by all means go to Reddit, not here, this place is above Reddit or was.
When I got to this site I thought I found a community and I had and then I see people take their own personal shit to the table and attack people they know fuckall about. I stand up for people only to be told I am the retard, when retarded literally means devolopement intillecutally and emotionally was slown down if not ever really reaching maturity. So anyone who is going online making shit up is the fucking retard because they clearly are not emotionally an adult, not by a long shot and to give them a free pass, are you taking the piss?
So the rules are not just here to be broken and taken out of their original meaning. For fucks sake you can say a great deal worse about someone in terms of race, creed, or orientation than calling them a name on the banned word list.
So I would actually prefer to be called PWT than be told I am a leach and guess what I am now gainfully employed and did anyone help me get their by talking shit, fuck no. So words on a screen are different to everyone but if you want to basically hide behind the policy of that is your political right and quote some jackass polictician you are just a sad sad worthless person.
So if anything maybe there should be a rule against being a hypocrite. Racism and Classism are widly put up with in here and the "F" word and the "N" word are not exactly the problem. You can easily insult someone on a far deeper level than that.
So I think there needs to be some sort of common sense applied here. So repeating the same insults is just spam.
I studied psychology for a while and I think it is downright disgusting to use meme's that would hurt the feelings of anyone with that disorder and yes I am reffering to aspergers because in all honesty from what I have read about it and the people that join the sight that really have it, well I think they are actually rather high on the suicide risk level and trust me if I had that disorder
I wouldn't post here because I don't think anyone realizes that mental disorders are not something to be taken lightly so in the interest of harm reducion if you want to call me retarded I would rather just clear my inbox because someone with that actual disorder would not be able to take it. I remember one guy posting in SLR who had aspergers and he seemd hypersensitive to just about all the advice he got and was rather suicidal.
There was a point where I had to sit in lobbies with people who were very mentally ill and they could barely communicate. I was there for anxiety and panic attacks, so yeah there for tablets but what I saw there was just a sad thing sometimes. So for real enough keyboard tough guy shit and popularity contests.
I think some of the best people on here are the ones that get the most shit. I think some people are jealous of their success and ability to overcome adversity and I stick up for what I believe is right and no I am not the PC police here. I don't think words should be banned but certain behaviors should not be tolerated.
So in the interest of harm reduction do we really want to make meme's about the mentally ill?
I always wanted to try to help people or make the world better but the way the mentally ill and drug addicted are treated is fucked up and we put up with people who are straight up sociopaths on here. This is not about me, there are people that join the site and when I was doing the ambassador thing I told everyone who was mentally ill to avoid the lounge so yeah I think it they would be disgusted with seeing Aspergers being tossed around like a joke when it is something they are suicidal over. I just do not think some people realize how delicate the mentally ill are and I do not believe in spreading that kind of hate.
So for the last time I obviously do not have Asperger syndrome. I do have some problems but mine are not nearly as bad as those as the people tallking shit about the mentally ill. So is this really the example we want to set. Enter at your own risk works for the average person but not the mentally ill. I have seen mentally ill and it is a sad sight to see. My parents both worked in the field and I read my mother's reports on kids I went to school with which was illegal on my part but I was 10 years old. That being said it gave me an in depth sight of just how much some people go through and some of these kids offed themselves, so is that harm reduction when we have forums dedicated to the mentally ill?
So this isn't about me other than my disgust for people so cruel. It doesn't hurt me on a level about myself because I know what I am. It disgusts me just because treating people that way or talking about people that way is very harmful to society in general so this isn't a democracy, this is harm reduction site and a bit of a social club and I will stand up for what I believe is right or wrong.
You know what as far as me being on the dole, well guess what those days are short lived and if you ever understood povery you would understand. I get you think just cuz my family has money you think they would give me a fucking cent but they don't and won't so I live in squallor and go without fucking food have to wait a week after breaking a bone to decide if I want it to be rebroken to have it set and shit like that so no medicaid is not that good and some people have no right to judge.
If you have never been poor or gone without food, medical care, or housing than you have no right to judge, none at all. This is supposed to be a social and lighthearted place and I really think making jokes about the mentally ill is fucking mental for a lack of better words. Once again this is not about me other than the fact that I do not appreciate the spam.
If anyone wants to call me retarded again I can easily prove my gpa is over 3.75 and that I have five years of credits at an accredited university and I went to 2 actual universities and 2 community colleges and honestly the univeristy classes were easier.
If anyone asks me to post a pm again and just types something in leiu of what I actually said just to be a douche bag, I will make the fact known to the moderators next time but I shouldn't have to put up with this shit in the first place. I have a don't report people policy and I still think most reports for using the naughty banned words should be made public especially when it is people who get on her just to stir up shit.
This is a great place and I encourage people like that to move on over to Redddit.
Sorry for the long rant, but I am going to stick up for people that I believe do not deserve this type of treatment. It does not do anyone any good. You can't void my posts by just calling me retarded when that is all you have to say? Really do we need someone who gets online to just tell people they are stupid and that is what they bring to the table, that is the pot calling the kettle black.
So basically trolling should not be supported or endorsed by staff and even if you don't respond some people make it their business to just keep saying the same shit over and over and that is not bringing anything to the table, is not lighhearted or social and is rather antisocial destructive behavior that probably says a shitload more about the person that posts that shit and it is that they are either a sociopath (I am sure some of them would take that as a compliment) or just someone with a Supeoriority Complex which is one the Narcissism Spectrum and idicative of someone who feels rather insecure and feels the need to go after the people they feel most threatened by whether or not the person did anything to them.
So yeah I will stick up for people who can't do it for themselves. We really could do without trolling of the cruel nature because if anything it puts the site in a whole in a bad light and I don't care if it is staff or donors doing this shit, I will still say something.
Taking the high road isn't always easy.
So fuck it, I sincerly ask that the app and or poster that creates "stfu dopem" be stopped because it is spam and for people to refrain from going deeper into racism because honestly it probably nicer to use racial slurs or homo slurs than some of the shit I see on here. Everyone else is asking for this or that, I am asking that we be adults here. Also as a man of principle I find it fucking disgusting to speak ill of the deceased and is against my religious beliefs and convictions and for and most anyone who has lost someone close should understand. I lost close friends and a long time lover and gf to overdoses so yeah I really do not like the way the death of some people were handled and when I said my piece I was disgusted by what was said. I don't know how expressing my condolences is wrong as it is a matter of obligation on a personal level for me and I just was not raised to be a scumbag to that degree.
