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My plentyoffish.com meet-up gone wrong...

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T. Calderone said:
All the more reason to stay away from her Korey. She's in recovery and probably shouldn't be around people drinking. Try maybe going back to the dating site and sooner or later, you'll find someone more compatible. Just come out and ask the potential date if she likes to party. I've had some pretty good dates and more meeting people online, but I might just be lucky. lol
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Thanks a lot bro. I appreciate the stern, yet wise words. I'm glad some of us are able to maintain some level of maturity in this thread.
 
^IDK man, you guyz are all over this poor dude, tellin him to go to therapy....Maybe just try to be a bit more empathetic and try and use better judgement before you open your mouth....I have a volatile personality and get angry easily and sometimes say things I don't wanna say...I can usually bring it back with my sense of humor though...Getting black out drunks a bad idea, but.....

Just talking to people about "normal" things everyone can realte to usually works, breaks the ice...Do you really wanna be surrounded by people just like you?!..

Normal people though...? If you start prying into my life history it gets a little awkward, because I've been involved in this drug thing for a long time, and it sounds bad if I'm honest about it, although you'd never know you met me casually and it never came up....

Try not to look for the differences between you and the rest of the world, and instead, try to see what you have in common with everyone else.....It makes life a LOT easier, believe me!
 
BlueHues said:
^IDK man, you guyz are all over this poor dude, tellin him to go to therapy....Maybe just try to be a bit more empathetic and try and use better judgement before you open your mouth....I have a volatile personality and get angry easily and sometimes say things I don't wanna say...I can usually bring it back with my sense of humor though...Getting black out drunks a bad idea, but.....

Just talking to people about "normal" things everyone can realte to usually works, breaks the ice...Do you really wanna be surrounded by people just like you?!..

Normal people though...? If you start prying into my life history it gets a little awkward, because I've been involved in this drug thing for a long time, and it sounds bad if I'm honest about it, although you'd never know you met me casually and it never came up....

Try not to look for the differences between you and the rest of the world, and instead, try to see what you have in common with everyone else.....It makes life a LOT easier, believe me!
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Thanks a lot for the advice. There's a hefty amount of wisdom to be found in your post. I appreciate it a lot.
Glad some people can understand having social quirks and aren't going to jump the gun and equate sending an angry, drunken PM after being stood up, with wife-beating. Christ. A tad extreme here huh?
 
Cloudy said:
Whats wrong with therapy? Nothing. More people should open up to the idea of therapy.
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Yeah I don't agree there's anything wrong with it either. I never took offense to anyone recommending that. It would certainly be beneficial for me.
 
^Agreed, therapy can be great, depending on the therapist...It's just, the OP didn't really do anything THAT fucked up! The girl left him waiting for hours, and reading between the lines, sounds like a bit of a shallow bitch, IMO!

To read this thread, people are treating this like it was a "stalking situation" or some kinda sordid shit....He acted like a bit of a dick and she sounds like a bitch anyway? What's the BFD? That's just life!

I think it's the whole "Stop staring at me!" thing that puts this thing in a different light.....I don't think you were acting all psycho running around telling everyone to "Stop staring at you"...but, the original post makes it sound like that a little bit...

but fuck, maybe she REALLY was looking at you weird, who knows......It's mob-mentality sensationalism type shit....
 
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BlueHues said:
^Agreed, therapy can be great, depending on the therapist...It's just, the OP didn't really do anything THAT fucked up! The girl left him waiting for hours, and reading between the lines, sounds like a bit of a shallow bitch, IMO!

To read this thread, people are treating this like it was a "stalking situation" or some kinda sordid shit....He acted like a bit of a dick and she sounds like a bitch anyway? What's the BFD? That's just life!

I think it's the whole "Stop staring at me!" thing that puts this thing in a different light.....I don't think you were acting all psycho running around telling everyone to "Stop staring at you"...but, the original post makes it sound like that a little bit...

but fuck, maybe she REALLY was looking at you weird, who knows......It's mob-mentality sensationalism type shit....
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You're right. He didn't do anything.... that would be the problem. It sounds like you have some deep-seeded anxiety issues that need to be worked out before you have much of a chance in any kind of relationship. If you can't handle some eye contact, chances are your not ready to meet girls.
 
KoreyS said:
Okay, so we have person A and person B who have corresponded all day about a potential meet-up at 1900 hours. The time comes and person B is texting person A that she is on her way and the last message says she'll be 5 min. Then she disappears, makes no attempt to contact person A via phone, mobile device, or computer for hours and hours and provides no explanation for this either. That doesn't justify being angry?

lysis, I don't know what your deal is, but I'm looking for adive. If you don't have it, fine. I'm not here to be mocked. And you're a mod?
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Who's mocking you? You want us to tippy-toe around the fact that you flipped out in a drunken rage on this poor girl and then yelled at her for random crap?
 
Lysis said:
Who's mocking you? You want us to tippy-toe around the fact that you flipped out in a drunken rage on this poor girl and then yelled at her for random crap?
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No, I want you to admit right now how stupid you made yourself look be comparing angry PMs to wife beating.
 
Also, when did I yell at her for "random crap", let alone yell at her for anything at all?

I think you flew off the deep end with that moronic wife-beating shityou pulled and and now you're trying to salvage any last moursel of fabrication you can to prevent yourself from looking silly.

It's all good. I'm not trying to turn this into some crazy shit. This thread may not be for you. I wanna be the mature one here so let's just leave it at that.
 
KoreyS said:
No, I want you to admit right now how stupid you made yourself look be comparing angry PMs to wife beating.
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No, I believe if you'll rage about something as stupid as a girl looking at you that you're capable of much more violent behavior. Get therapy.
 
Lysis said:
No, I believe if you'll rage about something as stupid as a girl looking at you that you're capable of much more violent behavior. Get therapy.
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I don't know why I'm still entertaining all these dramatics right now... probably because I enjoy BL and many of it's members and want to make somewhat of a place for myself here, and don't enjoy being antagonizied and having my character defaced like this.

I don't know what your deal is, but I almost get the impression you're trying to swindle the board members into making me look like something I'm not. If so, why? My thread is not the place to dump all your own deep-seated issues on me.

You keep skewing my story with deceptive little words and phrases like "yell", "rage", "poor girl", "wife-beating" and it makes me think you have your own supressed issues you are trying to project in this thread.

I don't want any problems. I'm not trying to start some shit here. I just don't get why you seem to be creating your own version of the story? You don't even know me?
 
KoreyS said:
I don't know why I'm still entertaining all these dramatics right now... probably because I enjoy BL and many of it's members and want to make somewhat of a place for myself here, and don't enjoy being antagonizied and having my character defaced like this.

I don't know what your deal is, but I almost get the impression you're trying to swindle the board members into making me look like something I'm not. If so, why? My thread is not the place to dump all your own deep-seated issues on me.

You keep skewing my story with deceptive little words and phrases like "yell", "rage", "poor girl", "wife-beating" and it makes me think you have your own supressed issues you are trying to project in this thread.

I don't want any problems. I'm not trying to start some shit here. I just don't get why you seem to be creating your own version of the story? You don't even know me?
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The words are "defame" and "deep-seeded" dear.

No one is starting problems. You posted a story, and I'm siding with the poor girl who had to endure your shit. Your posting history here shows some real mental problems, and you need therapy before you put more women into that situation again. You aren't even aware of the craziness that you pulled, which is scarier.
 
KoreyS said:
I don't know why I'm still entertaining all these dramatics right now... probably because I enjoy BL and many of it's members and want to make somewhat of a place for myself here, and don't enjoy being antagonizied and having my character defaced like this.

I don't know what your deal is, but I almost get the impression you're trying to swindle the board members into making me look like something I'm not. If so, why? My thread is not the place to dump all your own deep-seated issues on me.

You keep skewing my story with deceptive little words and phrases like "yell", "rage", "poor girl", "wife-beating" and it makes me think you have your own supressed issues you are trying to project in this thread.

I don't want any problems. I'm not trying to start some shit here. I just don't get why you seem to be creating your own version of the story? You don't even know me?
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I've been lurking this thread a little bit, because I wanted to see if it would die a natural death or if it would blow up in flames. I don't see anyone defacing your character. You admitted you had flipped out more than the situation warranted. And someone being late for a date with a stranger, then having the stranger act toward them in a hostile manner... I wouldn't have met up with you either. I would have wanted nothing to do with you.

I suggest you explore the option of therapy very carefully.
 
Lysis said:
The words are "defame" and "deep-seeded" dear.

No one is starting problems. You posted a story, and I'm siding with the poor girl who had to endure your shit. Your posting history here shows some real mental problems, and you need therapy before you put more women into that situation again. You aren't even aware of the craziness that you pulled, which is scarier.
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Off topic for a second....I always thought it was "deep-seeded" but I actually think it's "deep-seated"....It sits deep!

Another one I had wrong....I always though the word "throes" was spelled "throws".....

"I'm in the throws of social anxiety disorder!" Nope, "Throes"!!

The girl really should have called to cancel though, no?
 
^ Yes, I agree that the girl didn't make the best decision on meeting up with him, but I really hate blaming the "victim" as much as I think it was stupid for her to do. We don't know what he said to her, so perhaps she really just thought he had a bad day. Plus, she might have been desperate herself. Who knows... Not her best decision, but it doesn't excuse his behavior towards her.

I stand by my gut that a person who will flip out on a first-time meeting over "looking at me" will be incredibly worse and even violent as the "relationship" progresses. Therefore, she dodged a bullet.
 
Lysis said:
The words are "defame" and "deep-seeded" dear.

No one is starting problems. You posted a story, and I'm siding with the poor girl who had to endure your shit. Your posting history here shows some real mental problems, and you need therapy before you put more women into that situation again. You aren't even aware of the craziness that you pulled, which is scarier.
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LOL... I don't even know why I'm doing this, but...

For the definition of the term deep-seated, click here:http://dictionary.reverso.net/english-cobuild/deep-seated
For the definition of deface, click here: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/deface

You can't actually be serious with that last post? It's more than obvious you're splitting hairs (might have to look that one up too) to divert attention from how foolish you came off in your previous posts. Again with the "poor girl". Did you read the story, or are you just going to let your own deep-seated past/ issues dictate to you what happened? You're like an impenetrable ball of ignorance and I don't get it.
 
Ignorance? Not likely, but perhaps. I've personally never had an alcoholic rage, never been hit or beaten, and pride myself in avoiding situations that lead me to the point of dealing with situations such as yours. My intuition in human behavior is likely better than yours since my ability to rationalize and avoid rage is far superior.

Again, I'll say to you: get therapy, because what you did is unhealthy, and you put this poor girl in a situation she didn't deserve to be in.
 
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