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My plentyoffish.com meet-up gone wrong...

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koreys, your posts sound like pretty classic slr trolling. that's my gut reaction.

if i take your posts at face value, i'd say that you're not in a position where you should be trying to create a relationship with a woman. arm-chair psychiatric diagnosis is easy but often far off the mark. i'll say you seem to have a lot of issue that you need to resolve (likely with professional help) before you should be dating.

alasdair
 
i like how he blacked out and spazzed out on a chick he met on the internet for standing him up.

what a pussy.
 
alasdairm said:
koreys, your posts sound like pretty classic slr trolling. that's my gut reaction.

if i take your posts at face value, i'd say that you're not in a position where you should be trying to create a relationship with a woman. arm-chair psychiatric diagnosis is easy but often far off the mark. i'll say you seem to have a lot of issue that you need to resolve (likely with professional help) before you should be dating.

alasdair
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No, definitely not trolling. I have been around here for a while and have av riety of different posts in different forums. I do agree this thread has gone off the deep end in the second page and you're welcome to close it now lol
 
ChickenScratch said:
i like how he blacked out and spazzed out on a chick he met on the internet for standing him up.

what a pussy.
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Thanks so much man. Honestly. all these amazingly supportive responses are going teoo kle achieve my goals and get out of this rut. Can't explain my gratitude.
 
KoreyS said:
She was lucky that I was the one meeting up with her after that
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No.

And your personality IS your social anxiety at this point in your life from the sounds of it. As far as that's concerned it's pretty run-of-the-mill if you ask me. Just be less hostile and judgmental over all and you'll be like already 50% of a better person right off the bat.

The girl sounded incredibly cool to even give you as much time out of her life as she did.

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KoreyS said:
It's not from being hurt in the past. That has not ever happened to me.
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Why is that not surprising? What can you do to change that?
 
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CoffeeDrinker said:
No.

And your personality IS your social anxiety at this point in your life from the sounds of it. As far as that's concerned it's pretty run-of-the-mill if you ask me. Just be less hostile and judgmental over all and you'll be like already 50% of a better person right off the bat.

The girl sounded incredibly cool to even give you as much time out of her life as she did.

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Why is that not surprising? What can you do to change that?
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Hey thanks man. Very honest and wise. This was one of my favourite responses yet. I didn't really understand that "And your personality IS your social anxiety at this point in your life from the sounds of it." comment. I know my personality is a barrier; I don't know how it's my social anxiety though. I just get the sentence? Thanks for the help though and keep on sippin them roasted beans brother!
 
I mean that from the perspective of what other people get when they talk to you: It's most likely nothing but awkwardness followed by ingrained patterns of defense mechanisms, both verbal and purely mental. The latter informs strongly the former. So, from her perspective, your personality IS whatever your social anxiety presented itself as during your time together. That's the part that needs work, and trial and error by numbers is the best medicine for that imo.

She really was a cool person if you ask me, but you gotta realize that women are slightly different animals than we are. There's nothing wrong with a "normal" girl, fwiw, they generally make for the best relationships.
 
Very nicely said. Thanks a lot man. I don't think the chick was into me too much from the get-go. My personality, but also me just being ugly may have been part of it. I'm not that ugly. I may post pics and see if the people here think I'm ugly. I'm actually on DXM for the first time in 2 years right now so sorry if this post seems weird.
 
Tude said:
Considering you sent her a message full of insults, I'm honestly surprised she still agreed to meet you at all.
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This.

You would have scared me, and I would have probably walked off after the first weird angry comment. Although, I wouldn't have met up with you after the angry text anyway.
 
Well, I'd say the poor girl dodged a wife-beating bullet. I guess this is why you meet people in public: he sounds like he has that angry girl-beating twitch. I can't believe the girl actually met him after he blacked out and rage texted her, so in a way, I hope she learned her lesson too.
 
Uhh because she's a (former) alcoholic with severe mental health issues too? Wife beating? Take it to TDS if you wanna project some traumatic episode or something. Christ. Way to make a mountain out a molehill
 
Okay, so we have person A and person B who have corresponded all day about a potential meet-up at 1900 hours. The time comes and person B is texting person A that she is on her way and the last message says she'll be 5 min. Then she disappears, makes no attempt to contact person A via phone, mobile device, or computer for hours and hours and provides no explanation for this either. That doesn't justify being angry?

lysis, I don't know what your deal is, but I'm looking for adive. If you don't have it, fine. I'm not here to be mocked. And you're a mod?
 
All the more reason to stay away from her Korey. She's in recovery and probably shouldn't be around people drinking. Try maybe going back to the dating site and sooner or later, you'll find someone more compatible. Just come out and ask the potential date if she likes to party. I've had some pretty good dates and more meeting people online, but I might just be lucky. lol
 
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