OhSoBec said:
I always had the plans growing up that you meet boy, fall in love, buy house, get married, have babies. I never wanted a career cos a job was just something to do till everything fell into place. When I was 20 I met the boy, everything looked like it was going to work. But after 3 years, I got bored, I realised there was so much more to me than I was allowing out, so I left. I'm now 26, single and happier than I have ever been. At first I thought all the other stuff would still happen for me, just a bit later in life than I planned at first, but with the more time that passes, I realise, I'm not ready to devote my life to someone else. And I think that unless you are ready to do that, you shouldn't be a parent. If you have a child, they should be your number one priority at all times. So at this time, I'm undecided.
Oftentimes, we don't figure out that we've made a not-so-good-decision for ourselves until many years have passed since we've made the decision.
Kudos to you:
(a) for figuring out your mistake relatively soon, and
(b) for having such a mature healthy attitude about the subject right now.
And in an effort to reconcile this post with one I made earlier in this thread, I shall state that in my opinion, that there's a world of difference between someone:
(a) acknowledgeing that IF one is going to be a parent, that being a good one should be his/her number one priority, and humbly admitting that he/she is not prepared to make that sacrifice at this point in time; and
(b) in an almost-boastful manner, suggesting that from the time someone was a child, she never even considered making said sacrifice, because that would take away from some of the more important parts of life such as, avoiding stretch marks, avoiding temporary weight gain, hoarding all of your significant other's time and attentions to yourself and making sure that once you've eventually earned fame and fortune (without anyone else's help, of course), to lavish all of your newfound wealth on yourself, instead of foolishly sharing some of it with someone you love.
The difference is all a matter of attitude.
Please forgive me if I was too quick to anticipate being called out on an apparent-inconsistentcy.
Alas, brilliant, gorgeous, loving, generous, hilarious humble people have insecurities, too.
