LucieQuinn
Bluelighter
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- Jun 12, 2021
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I am a woman, and i think your advice is just what i need. Ive considered meetings before, and i shouldnt have a hard time finding them in my area because i live in big city Jax, Florida.I have BPD and one thing that really helped me was something called Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, I did it in rehab and I was like, damn, this shit works, so during quarantine I paid for an online DBT class too. The shit works man that's all I gotta say. Another thing that has really helped me a lot is meetings, I was at a rehab in Raleigh NC called Healing Transitions and I started going to meetings EVERY mfin DAY sometimes twice a day, my favorite was Crystal Meth Anonymous, they have a group in Raleigh NC called "put the pipe down" haha and other groups. I am a tweaker so I identified with that a lot, I met my old sponsor there, meetings are a great place to meet people -I try to stick to meeting people of the same sex though some meetings can really be sausage fests and the men can be kinda aggressive and just not what you need right now while you're grieving. (I don't know your gender maybe you're a guy though, in that case you know what I mean)
The women I went to rehab with are like my sisters now, if you ever want to make some REAL friends, go to rehab. If I call up one of my homegirls from healing transitions right now and said "hey, I'm craving alcohol" they would stop what they're doing and either come get me or talk to me until I'm not having a craving anymore. I've also met some good friends at an oxford house.
Another thing that helped me when my dad died was that I would do random acts of kindness for people when I really missed him to kind of like, honor him. I usually can buy a stranger lunch, buy someone's groceries, go to the Christian store and find something meaningful and give to someone, do community service at the cat shelter, or get on my knees on my bed and just talk to God and tell him what's going on and cry and ask him for strength and to heal my pain. When I got sober this time, this last time, (the time that worked) I got on my knees a few nights and cried so hard and poured my heart out to God and asked him to make me stop craving meth and alcohol and He did it!! I felt relief. I haven't prayed on my knees in a long time but this morning, I am going to pray for you and I don't just say that I really pray for people!!! It will get better hun!!!
I think im going to start taking myself to some of these meetings, albeit my shy awkwardness. I havent really socialized much in ages except for with my best friend, who is now dead & gone.
Though i am spiritual and not religious, i do believe in prayer...
your stories are beautiful.
thank you for replying to me; you made me feel a whole lot better.