On a related note, I found this link... A female's opinion on withholding sex from men for gain
http://hubpages.com/hub/Why-Sex-is-Important-to-Men
http://hubpages.com/hub/Why-Sex-is-Important-to-Men
You're right, I don't understand and I would like to out of curiosity in addition to the fact that people would be able to concoct better responses if there was more information provided. So yeah, there is a point in my questioning him =)
Clearly his sex drive is causing some turmoil in his relationships and if a person lets their sex drive reach that point then there's a problem.
I don't think women would ever understand this type of outlook because they have different brains to guys but to me, sex is like eating. If I'm hungry and I don't eat now, I just can't let it go and eat later. It's an ongoing need that is at the forefront of my mind until it gets satisfied.
If a man "had" to have some unwanted sex to save a marriage, it probably wouldn't negatively affect him in many, if not most, cases if he really was doing it to save the marriage. It would be no different than if he conceded to do the dishes more often. Annoying yes, dangerous no. However, if a woman "had" to have some unwanted sex, it could seriously damage her in many cases. I never said always for all people all the time; just in general.
real love doesn't require these sort of games.
Whether you agree or not, it's still a pretty pathetic "tactic" to use on your girlfriend. Just be yourself!
As a woman I have to agree... Guys who are heavily pursued by women tend to bring it upon themselves.
If there are tons of girls after a guy I have to assume that he is after them as well. Otherwise the girls would stop being flirty with him because they aren't getting him. He must be doing something, however small, to encourage this behavior.
Whether you agree or not, it's still a pretty pathetic "tactic" to use on your girlfriend. Just be yourself!
You are confusing genuine self-improvement with some kind of cheap trick / act. Befriending lots of women and meeting new people is nothing fake.
My advice sounds bad (especially to a woman), but it works, so it's useful.
i hate it when people say absolutes like this. what makes you an expert on real love? is your expertise on real love transcendent and perpetual?
During the counseling, my wife admits to the counselor that she has intimacy issues. She doesn't really like sex that much, and never really has. She only had sex with me earlier in our relationship because she knew I liked it, and she didn't want to lose me. In fact, if she had her way, she could never have sex again in her life and she would be fine with it.
Do you think she really feels this way or just is depressed? I know I have said that same thing myself during times of depression but it wasn't really true the rest of the time.
From my honors biochemistry university studies and accompanying background in psychology...Where the hell are you getting these ideas?
It's been a lot more common for black people to be slaves too, but that doesn't mean it's good for them or that they like it. Women have had lots of unwanted sex because they are either a) subjugated, b) desperate, or c) willing to make that sacrifice. I think it's been, unfortunately, a lot of a and b.First of all, it's been a lot more common throughout history for women to have to have unwanted sex to keep a marriage.
Because there's no other position but missionary... And sex never hurts...It's actually a lot easier physically for a woman than it is for a man, because she just has to lie there.
Well that's sure convenient.(And if she doesn't lubricate enough, there's KY jelly.)
And if a man can't get an erection, that kind of precludes this issue entirely.A man has to get an erection which may not always be possible.
It CAN be. Men aren't just machines, but it is scientific fact that most men are much more easily sexually stimulated. There's a reason men pay lots of money for strippers and women don't (IN GENERAL). There are plenty of men that just consider it a cocktease and a waste of cash, but there are plenty more that love it.Psychologically, I think it's probably equal for both sexes.
That's usually a stretch, yeah. Not in all cases, though. Many men do have a lot of their self-esteem tied up in their sexual prowess, so being denied repeatedly can have a hugely negative impact on a man's psyche. Women feel stressed by all the come-ons, but men feel stressed by all the turn-downs. It's a bad situation for all involved no matter how you look at it. This is why my ultimate recommendation is that people give up on sexually incompatible relationships. It's severely emotionally taxing.You could even make the argument that it's more difficult for men since they're used to calling the shots, so giving in feels more like a failure. But that's probably a stretch.
Because there's no other position but missionary... And sex never hurts...
Many men do have a lot of their self-esteem tied up in their sexual prowess, so being denied repeatedly can have a hugely negative impact on a man's psyche. Women feel stressed by all the come-ons, but men feel stressed by all the turn-downs. It's a bad situation for all involved no matter how you look at it. This is why my ultimate recommendation is that people give up on sexually incompatible relationships. It's severely emotionally taxing.
Just masturbate right next to her everytime you get the urge, sooner or later she will start feeling incompetant, neglected and jelous of your hand, so wait till she comes begging you for it.
"How do you expect to have mindblowing orgasmic transcendent sex with your goddess if she is fucking you because she is scared to lose you to another woman?"
it's easy to say things like that when ur strawmanning the other person's argument
On a related note, I found this link... A female's opinion on withholding sex from men for gain
http://hubpages.com/hub/Why-Sex-is-Important-to-Men
I'm a guy and was wondering is it too much to expect sex everyday from your S.O.?
For me, it's fun, I enjoy it, I don't see anything negative with it? It's not like a drug or something that causes some negativity. It's enjoyable, it's exercise and it brings you and your partner closer together.
In all my past relationships and my current one, whenever my partner says No to sex, I build resentment towards her.
I feel as though I'm supposed to be a good faithful boyfriend but yet you're denying sex? What am I supposed to do? Cheat, masturbate, do nothing and be sad? Well for those 3 options, I can be single!
There has been the very odd occasion in my life where my partner has wanted sex and I have not (from memory because I was exhausted from work), but she really wanted it so I just rolled over and she went on top and got what she wanted. I think I was actually asleep half the time but I didn't have any problems with this.
Now I understand there may be certain times when sex would just not be on the cards....such as your pet dog dying, a relative dying, you just lost your job or some other type of disaster. I understand this!
But, tired, headache, don't feel like it, in my opinion I don't think are valid reasons in an exclusive relationship. I think the expectation of your partner to be faithful has to be reciprocated with a willingness to put out when your partner wants. What do you guys think?