jaybirdNj
Greenlighter
- Joined
- Jul 15, 2017
- Messages
- 7
Hi there. As a heroin addict I know all too well the situation that you two are in right now. I have been there and lived this situation many times before. I am going to be blunt because this situation deserves a straight up answer and no messing around. As long as your boyfriend is doing heroin, he is not in a relationship with you and you alone. Your boyfriend thinks about herion every day, pretty much all day if he doesn't have it. In this situation you will always come second to the heroin. While you are thinking about your future, having kids and buying a house, he is thinking about his next fix. As addicts, we do not plan the future more than a day. While in the grip of addiction, drugs are the most important thing that our bodies and our soul needs. Herion changes the chemical balance of the brain and addicts lose interest in everything except the drug. Your boyfriend is going down a long and dangerous road. These roads are full of danger, isolation, crime and heartbreak. If you do not break up with him you will be going down that road right along with him. Remember, if you get pulled over with heroin in the car he will probably not say it is his because he does not want to kick the drug in jail. You can end up with a record just by changing out with him. Drugs are going to warp your relationship into a living hell. Everything is going to revolve around getting the drug and using it. I wish I could show you all the damage that will be done to you. I wish I could save you from all the bad things that he is going to say to you and how he is going to make you feel like a terrible person. Until he makes the decision himself to get off heroin, you will not be dating the true form of this man but rather the version of him under the influence of drugs and the addict mentality. Methadone is a great way to get him clean and get his life back on track. Believe me, you are not doing him any favors by enabling him to keep getting high without consequence. He may be a good dude sometimes, but he is sick. Sick people need to make the decision to get well, until then he's just inviting the addict trifecta; jails, institutions and death.Hey guys I'm still having a difficult time leaving my boyfriend I've stuck by for 10 years. He is an on and off again heroin addict. I recently found out he has been using heroin for daily several times a day from what I can tell for now the last 7 months but probably longer thats just when I found out. He holds a good job, works all the time, pays rent on time so I didn't really notice he was back at it again right away partially because I was in denial and because he does do alot he's not nodding off on the couch all day or anything like he was once upon a time. This is embarrassing but I've actually resorted to spying on him and trying to be my own detective starting in October last year because I just had to know and see for myself versus assuming.¹
He completely denied having any sort of issue at all. He says he has relapsed a few times but thats not true its every day. Anyway I can't figure out why I'm having such a hard time leaving. I just love him so much, but seriously I can't live my life like this anymore. Me spying, he lying to me all the time, using on our own home. I can't talk to him about it anything or my feelings or anything real about it because he won't even admit its an issue. I know he loves me too which I guess is more of his motivation to lie to me. I just can't take it, I want him to stop so bad wo we can be happy... I feel so sad leaving because it's not what I want. What I want is him to get better. The best thing is probably for me to file child support so he has less money and leave so he can finally realize how this is affecting his life. I can't understand how he is so casual about it like it's a cup of coffee. He assumes I don't know what's really going on but I know everything... he just can't figure out why I'm mad and or sad all the time. He thinks he can do this and also have a perfect family life. What so u guys think? Tips?
Last edited: