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Your advice, tips, guidance, and regrets for anyone who is young and has alot ahead.

Lost Ego said:
why should we live for people? just because we live in massive civilizations and people are everywhere? most people bore me and i have no interest in living for them.

say hypothetically there is a person that since birth was stranded on a habitable island by himself with just enough literature and video games to stay happy. should that person to still live for other people? could he instead live for animals? would it be wrong to solely live for himself?
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Because forging connection with, or doing a good deed for, another sentient being, makes the load of life easier to bear for both of you.
 
Thats is very difficult to answer,

Life will weed out the weak and light hearted. Go to college; try as hard as you possibly can. Never regret anything that you do for it is what shapes the individual you will in time become. This question to be perfectly honest cannot be answered. We all conduct ourselves in different ways. There are many variations, different people do different things, they speak, think, act differently. Never let another row your boat, it’s good to take advice but in the grand scheme of things always do what you feel is right. The only real thing I can readily remember or wish I had thought more into other than unprotected sex and casual recreational drug use would be, Life isn’t just a walk in the park. All throughout life we hear how we all can be these wonderful successors. In reality there is a loneliness in this world so great that you can see it if you look hard enough. People so tired mutilated either by love or no love. People just are not good to each other one on one. The rich are not good to the rich the poor are not good to the poor. We are afraid. Our educational system tells us that we can all be big-ass winners it hasn't told us about the gutters or the suicides in the slums. The terror of one person aching in one place alone. That’s real life, someone always has to lose.

In quick conclusion I can say this; Stay away from long-term relationships. Make good grades and inquire lucrative positions with large companies. Be the most perspicacious individual around you at all times. NEVER SETTLE, satisfaction is the eternal death of desire. Life is going to be your biggest bully ever champ. It’s hard I don’t want to lie to you, it isn't impossible to overcome the adversity within it but I can guarantee you one thing it takes working harder than you have ever worked in your entire life. You will never work so hard at anything else, living well and overcoming hard time in life is the greatest obstacle one may ever accomplish.

I wish I had more advice to give you, in fact I wish that I had any advice to give you. I don’t have it figured out no one else posting to this thread has the answer. It is only up to you to make your way.

Good Luck to you.
 
CuriousCurtis said:
Can you please state from your whole life experiences things that you wish you knew when you were 18 before your adult life really began?
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- look after your teeth

- start saving as soon as you can. doesn't have to be a lot. just get in the habit early.

- happiness is a choice. choose to be happy.

- find out what it means to 'be yourself' and do it.
fleea said:
It's all downhill from 35.
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for you maybe. not for everybody.

alasdair
 
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Actions are far better signifiers than words. Do no harm and pay attention to shadows in the Jungian sense. Yours and others alike.
 
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To leave a relationship that damages my head..

Seriously.. had a few.. Emotional torture and physical abuse..

But then again.. I probably wouldn't be with the girl I am today.
 
balance having fun with saving money and study. both are just as important as the other. there is plenty of time for more fun when you're older (it never stops if you have the right frame of mind) so there is no need to OD on it early on. fun has not a finite resource.

travel internationally as much as possible.

staying fit will make you feel great. a morning routine helps focus your day. getting up a little earlier to eat breakfast and watch some tv show you like every morning takes very little effort, but it saves a lot of stress and anxiety by removing the morning rush.
 
This is probably the 100th time you've heard this... but oh well: Don't worry too much about what others want you to do, or impressing others, because it truly doesn't matter once you have met the true limits of what you can do. Treat life as your own search for whatever it is that interests you, and don't put too much stock in getting into some sort of formulaic program that is designed to take a person and mold him/her into a desirable lemming that is exceptional at doing what you're told. However, if that's what you want to do, go for it. Do whatever it is that is most valuable to you (as long as it doesn't cause harm to someone else directly).
 
Most important...don't take things too seriously. Life is too short to be a sour-faced wanker.
 
> Try to tell the truth always
> Stay away from people who mess with your head
> Don't run from fear (it gets easier every time you run)
> Pay your bills
> If you are thinking it's a bad idea it is
> Felonies and credit reports follow you to the grave
> Believe in something
> Don't trust other people to do things you want done your way
> Don't complain too much (people don't want to hear it)
 
try and stop judging things as good or bad, something isn't bad untill you say it is.. here's to no more bad days or experiences. If you ever wondered why so many bad things happen, THEY DON'T;)

DON'T be hard on yourself EVER!
 
^ Nice, I like that one, man. My kinda thinkin'.

Although it's impossible to never be pained or sad.
 
CuriousCurtis said:
Any one who has lived life, or just anyone who is wise.

Can you please state from your whole life experiences things that you wish you knew when you were 18 before your adult life really began?

I mean any opportunities we should look out for?
any advice?
Tips, guidance or regrets?

If you could go back to your 18 year old self and tell them a few things what would you say?

I never had any real guidance in my life so this is would be a gift to me, I would really appreciate your life's knowledge.

Thanks very much

-CuriousCurtis
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Some guidance I would like to offer is to stop looking at life as both full of opportunities and equally full of regrets. Because to me, the truth of the matter is that life is full of nothing but opportunties because you only live life once in your current form and the choices you make influence who you are as an indvidiual today. You can either like who you are or hate who you are in this life and where you have been placed into its puzzle. In the end though that even comes down to loving or hating the essence that is your soul.

Live life with no regrets!!! Of course in a responsible manner with the intentions of experiencing the longest,healthiest life possible.Have you ever stopped and considered how much time you spend thinking about your regrets?It quickly adds up! Think of all the time that you could be spending living your life and answering opportunities that could better your happiness!

Live knowing that each choice you make not only influences you but also others around you and people that you dont even know. To go back and change any choice in an individuals life would cause ripple effects in countless peoples lives(The Butterfly Effect). Would you really want the state of your soul to be filled with such greed? Consider the consequences from a different perspective, what if somebody changed something and it effected you? Would you be like, "Ok, this is cool, Im trapped in an asylum now crazy as hell,diseased,with no arms or legs but Im just glad that one person could go back and change something for the betterment of their happiness and the benefit of my misery"?I know I sure the hell wouldnt!

There is nothing wrong with looking out for yourself. Self-preservation is what makes nature what it is, but it goes deeper than that. There is nothing wrong with preserving in all manners the physical,outside vessel that you carry in this life
to keep it in good shape to thrive for as long as possible. However, that is if you believe in the concept of a soul, there is a different less self centered way of preserving your soul. Preserving your soul is realizing that all of existence that have souls are connected and representing that in a manner of your choosing. Even if you dont believe in the soul it is still very hard to deny the dependancy that mankind has upon one another in the physical realm. Self preservation is realizing the times to take opportunities for yourself but also realizing the times to take the opportunities that you wont directly benefit from but mankind will at which point you benefit,but indirectly.

Man, all of this is coming from a 24 (will be 25 June 11 ^.^) year old who has had it pretty rough. I aint saying the things I have dealt with are any more extreme than the next person because lets face it, we all deal with different circumstances, we all react differently to our circumstances, so no one persons circumstances in life can actually be any better or worse than the next because they are all different. I might just be turning a quarter century old this year,but the age we verbally speak to the world is nothing more than symbols that spoken language has applied meaning to. Age cannot be spoken but can be witnessed glowing in a wisemans aura,speaking with all the complexities and knowledge of words but only pulsate with energy yet not make a sound. Also,keep this in mind as well, Knowledge doesnt equal wisdom. Knowledge+Experience= Wisdom

Feel free to PM me anytime ^.^ L8er

Pariahprose
 
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