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CuriousCurtis

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Any one who has lived life, or just anyone who is wise.

Can you please state from your whole life experiences things that you wish you knew when you were 18 before your adult life really began?

I mean any opportunities we should look out for?
any advice?
Tips, guidance or regrets?

If you could go back to your 18 year old self and tell them a few things what would you say?

I never had any real guidance in my life so this is would be a gift to me, I would really appreciate your life's knowledge.

Thanks very much

-CuriousCurtis
 
eat healthy 4-5 times a day..... full sleep at night is essential... PC games started to suck balls after year 2000
fuck sitting wasting lifeforce on PC.... build muscle and beat every single motherfucker that cross your path

fuck the cigaretts.... dont be too good to girls you like .... dont even try meth ..... dont bother arguing with anybody who is stupid,witch most people are

also dont masturbate with pressure shower head 4 times in two and half hours becose your penis get broken and it swells to double of its size
 
Maybe see my last post in the Chaos magick thread. At least I feel that philosophy might have been of some help to me. If you're going to use drugs try to keep your grip on reality, it's one thing that's very easy to lose, and when it happens you're so out of touch you don't even realise what is happening or the detrimental effects of it.

Just imagine all the crazy things people do for drugs. Men become violent, women become prostitutes, etc. In the worst cases, but we all have our limits. I've shoplifted to be able to afford drugs but not robbed someone. Try to work out your linits and don't set them too low if you're going into that world.

Though this isn't just a matter of choice but also to do with your conditions and sheer luck. Like, if you're well off and with a lot of social support you won't stoop as low as someone who's not. If you live in a big city there's going to be more temptation than living in a provincial place, etc.
 
Can you please state from your whole life experiences things that you wish you knew when you were 18 before your adult life really began?
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No, and even if it were possible for me to tell you everything, you wouldn't understand it all. So many things I know can only be learned through experience....some stuff you won't "get" until you've had children and or experience it for yourself. For example, my best friend is a gay man (i am a straight woman), and no matter how much he and discuss the subject I could never know how it feels to be a gay man.

I have a 20 year old son, and it is hard for me to watch him making the same mistakes I made when I was coming up. But you have to make your own mistakes or you won't learn.
But if it helps, I have raised him to be kind. We follow one credo...do as you will (except when mom tells you to do something, lol) but hurt none.
And follow your heart...it will never lead you astray. 8)

Muppy
 
1. Nothing is inherent/everything is relative.
2. Everything is fleeting/change is inevitable
3. Take risks if you want rewards.
4. The present moment is all there is, and all there ever will be.
5. Self-reliance is good, others are unreliable.
6. You can never truly know anything else, let alone a human being.
 
I would say: stop feeling pressured to have it all figured out when figuring it out is what you spend most of your life doing, only to discover that there is nothing to figure out in the first place. No one in this world really knows 100% what the fuck is going on here, everyone is just trying to make the best of it, and living is a constant series of leaps of faith more than it is controlled calculations. Anyone who tells you that they feel 100% certain about life is either delusional or a liar -- which are both the same thing basically.

Life is a learning experience and not only will you fuck up, you should fuck up and often because you learn more about the truth of who you are from your failures than your victories.

"You have to let it all go, Neo. Fear, doubt, and disbelief. Free your mind." Then jump.
 
No, and even if it were possible for me to tell you everything, you wouldn't understand it all. So many things I know can only be learned through experience..My thoughts too basically....But i do love what Foreigner said...lots of truth there
 
OP: You should consider approaching this topic the way you would use a search engine, i.e., you might obtain some more helpful responses if you narrowed your query. Are you looking for protips regarding your personal life? Academic/occupational success? Diet? Automotive maintenance, perhaps? Any given individual's proficiency in each of these areas is at least partially attributable to the ball-cracking tutor named Experience, and her trusty but often unbearable TA, Trial and Error.

To ask your elders for hard-earned insight into most integral aspects of human life is perfectly reasonable: If all anyone can offer you in the way of guidance re., say, academic success is, "I know a lot that you don't, but you just wouldn't understand, because after all, you're too young/new/naive and haven't had the experience," they probably haven't learned anything coherent nor particularly useful. However, if you basically ask other people how to live your own life based upon a handful of one-sentence, blurby recommendations (e.g., treat your body with respect, don't get so attached to someone that you end up compromising your life goals because of them, &c.), you'll end up receiving either the foregoing tired cliches, however well-meaning, or you'll be swiftly rebuked for asking an unanswerable question.
 
Its weird but I wouldn't have much to say to my 18 year old self. Its paradoxical anyways.

I think whatever it is you have to do you should do it.

I'm having a hard time counter denying it. Like if you wanted to steal cars, or do deal illegal acts, as a moral high ground you could say, but really, no. But if you wanted to help starving children in Africa for no money then that's fine too. Or become middle class. Or earn lots of money and be an asshole. Or earn lots of money and piss it away at a casino. Or not give a shit, or care a great deal about trivial things. Whatever, man.
 
If you use drugs, don't break your own rules about use of them.
Find something to be passionate about that you can build into a career (ideally...it can still be important as a hobby, but then you need to figure out a workable way to translate toil that is not optimally meaningful for you into long-term gains that are) and run with it...the purpose of life is to give your life purpose.

ebola
 
Life does not begin at any age. Your life is now, and it disappears quickly. I'm only 25 and it amazes me how fast life goes.. one day I'll look in the mirror or down at my hands and see an old persons body. My landlords partner came into the kitchen the other day, she said she was told life starts at 30, then 40, then 50.. I think she's given up waiting now, but she's getting old and doesn't have the vitality she once had.

It depends what you want from life though. I'm making the most of the 20-30 period because I know my physical and especially mental vitality will never be what it is now ever again.. now is the time to contemplate the bigger questions. You've got plenty of time to grow old and boring just like everyone else once you've satisfied that need ^_^
 
Never lose your passion.

Live for people and experiences, not things, money, or abstract ideas.
 
MyDoorsAreOpen said:
Live for people and experiences, not things, money, or abstract ideas.
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That's quite a provocative thing to say in such a forum as this; but even more startling is the source. I would think that you of all (and I mean all) people on this website would appreciate the human significance of abstract ideas, to say nothing of the the far-reaching effects they can exert upon those who embrace them utterly, for better and for worse. I was always of the impression that you're quite open to (if not wholeheartedly supportive of) the notion of living by religious/spiritual tenets, or at least making use of such tenets in order to carve out a personal corner of meaning and/or transcendence in this otherwise punishing life. With especial attention to those who do devote their lives to the pursuit and/or fulfillment of 'abstract' ideals (e.g., most religious people), how do you situate this admissive attitude re. the religious/spiritual in relation to the maxim that I quoted above?
 
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Fair enough. I do very much enjoy exploring abstract ideas, I won't deny it. But I guess what I should have said is not to forsake opportunities for building human relationships and having new concrete firsthand experiences in favor of more bookish pursuits. I've learned this the hard way.
 
Be brave, and that includes being brave enough to admit that you are scared.
Treat the girl/boy you love with the utmost respect, affection and dedication.
Always question information, check sources, do sanity checks and dimensional analysis frequently. That is, make sure the idea is at minimum internally consistent (sanity check) and not a frank non-sequitor (dimensional analysis...i.e. 2 apples plus 2 apples equals pi pears...makes no sense because the dimensions on the left(apples) and right(pears) are not the same, the pi instead of 4...that's a lesser problem and is just an arithmetic error...try to extend this to informal logic too).

Finally, and above all...do EVERYTHING for the lulz.
 
Study the clitoris and *always* make sure you give your partner at least one orgasm *before* you penetrate!
 
i wish i woulda known that you can only get one shot at any given moment. there's no game over, play again. you can't just strive for a little bit better of a life next time. i just feel like i haven't been giving it (life) my all -> unsatisfied.
 
MyDoorsAreOpen said:
Never lose your passion.

Live for people and experiences, not things, money, or abstract ideas.
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why should we live for people? just because we live in massive civilizations and people are everywhere? most people bore me and i have no interest in living for them.

say hypothetically there is a person that since birth was stranded on a habitable island by himself with just enough literature and video games to stay happy. should that person to still live for other people? could he instead live for animals? would it be wrong to solely live for himself?

op figure out what you value, what makes you happy and then go pursue it.
 
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Foreigner said:
I would say: stop feeling pressured to have it all figured out when figuring it out is what you spend most of your life doing, only to discover that there is nothing to figure out in the first place. No one in this world really knows 100% what the fuck is going on here, everyone is just trying to make the best of it, and living is a constant series of leaps of faith more than it is controlled calculations. Anyone who tells you that they feel 100% certain about life is either delusional or a liar -- which are both the same thing basically.

Life is a learning experience and not only will you fuck up, you should fuck up and often because you learn more about the truth of who you are from your failures than your victories.

"You have to let it all go, Neo. Fear, doubt, and disbelief. Free your mind." Then jump.
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That is one ace post, my friend. :)

MyDoorsAreOpen said:
Live for people and experiences, not things, money, or abstract ideas.
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In my opinion, life is all about the pursuit of concrete / material things, as opposed to abstract or immaterial things like experiences or relationships.

rangrz said:
Be brave, and that includes being brave enough to admit that you are scared.
Treat the girl/boy you love with the utmost respect, affection and dedication.
Always question information, check sources, do sanity checks and dimensional analysis frequently. That is, make sure the idea is at minimum internally consistent (sanity check) and not a frank non-sequitor (dimensional analysis...i.e. 2 apples plus 2 apples equals pi pears...makes no sense because the dimensions on the left(apples) and right(pears) are not the same, the pi instead of 4...that's a lesser problem and is just an arithmetic error...try to extend this to informal logic too).

Finally, and above all...do EVERYTHING for the lulz.
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Another awesome post. Especially agree with the last sentence.




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