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Would you date a mentally ill person?

my partner's ex was seriously bi-polar. my understanding is that problem, while usually one able to keep under control w/ meds, is that they dont want to consistantly take their meds because they like the "mania" part. shed b up all night rearranging furnature, have 16 projects in various stages of completion, but never finish anything, then finally had a total psychotic break.... my partner can tolerate a lot, but she never do bipolar again.... on my end, ive always been the " crazy" one - just an irritable, moody, addict..... im better, much better when im clean and in NA...... i might be one of those chicks the poster mentions " i always dig crazy chicks" - you have to admit, a little crazy keeps things spicy.....i dated a guy w/ ocd and found his obsessions irritating, but he was just generally irritating! so.... and my partner struggles w/ depression, which is hard to deal w/ because im anxious, irritable, etc.... but never "hopeless, unable to get out of bed, see no point" etc..... its hard for ME to maintain compation after a certain point because im such a proactive person, and see her often not doing things to help herself feel better- but thats part of the depression, not laziness as i tend to think when im irritable. the truth is most interesting/ gifted/ fun people have something wacky going on w/ them or id find them medeocre and boring...... no i wouldnt draw any heavy handed lines.... tho i probably would avoid serious psychosis and serious bi- polar - depending on the person of course- and their ability/ willingness to manage their meds.... but i have a child now too, and i have to protect him from the crazies.........
 
SplatChrome said:
Yes I would. It is a rough ride, but you can see the beauty in them to make it all worth it.

...And I'm crazy myself so I've noticed girls have to be a little a crazy to be interested in me
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yea, a little " crazy" attracts a little "crazy" - my babys dad said thaTs the fun part- learning of anothers idiocincracies and loving them anyway- accepting them - but theres crazy, in small, managable doses, and then their's CRAZY- id do a ittle crazy, as i myself am so, but CRAZY, the kind thaT make romantic light shades of lovers flesh... id avoid- as lovey as the sentimate is, im a mommy first- and i dont want him expossed to CRAZY- possibly violent or unpretictable types....
 
It depends on the extent of the illness and the person... For someone like me I'm very drawn to mentally ill people as I am myself.
I can be quite a hassle but my bipolar is pretty mild, most dates just though I had mood swings. They especially enjoy the manic phase though, I get super energetic and frisky between the sheets :P
 
I'm Manic-Depressive, and I've been hospitalized for it before... That withstanding I have a girlfriend who cares for me quite a bit. In my depressed phases things can get pretty damn painful for them (it hurts to watch people you care for hurt). Then again the manic phases can be pretty bad too as I am very likely to act recklessly and often without emotion and I can be a huge nympho... I'm not too sure about the long term though as I've never had anything that lasted longer then a year, but I'm young (19) so we will see about the future.

EDIT: lol saw this after, I can totally relate not only to the bipolar manic phase sex but also to the draw to the mentally ill.
ilvae said:
It depends on the extent of the illness and the person... For someone like me I'm very drawn to mentally ill people as I am myself.
I can be quite a hassle but my bipolar is pretty mild, most dates just though I had mood swings. They especially enjoy the manic phase though, I get super energetic and frisky between the sheets :P
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Those who know they're crazy and deal with it through treatment are fine. Those who don't accept/know they're crazy and don't deal with it? Noooo thank you.
 
Being someone with their own set of mental issues, I'm totally open to dating someone with an mental illness as long as they can differentiate between reality and fantasy.
 
addictivepersona said:
Those who know they're crazy and deal with it through treatment are fine. Those who don't accept/know they're crazy and don't deal with it? Noooo thank you.
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I might if the person is older and has been consistent with taking proper medication and controlling it. If they were diagnosed at 18, and now they are 35 and have managed it their entire life, it's probable that they will continue. If they are 20, then there is a good chance they will say "fuck the pills" and it'll be a roller coaster. Don't want any roller coasters.

I really don't want to be some statistic where I'm the poor schmuck girl dating some psychopath who one day decides to off me and my three kids one day because the voices told him to do it. Yeah, nah, that's one thing I try to avoid.
 
I dated a guy who was borderline. It fell apart no matter how hard I tried. It was difficult because he was the hottest looking guy I'd ever dated, and he was killer in the sack. But his personality... it was just FUBAR. I felt really bad for him but he just couldn't change his perspective. That, and his sociopathic tendencies were a little difficult to deal with sometimes.
 
I don't know about all mental illness, but never again will I date someone who suffers through severe clinical depression. If only because I have the same problem. I need to spend my time around people who aren't as depressed as I tend to be, so that I have healthier comparisons to make in order to pick myself up out of out, and put myself back into the world. Putting two depressed people together is a recipe for not doing shit except bitching a whole lot.

I've always wanted to have sex with a girl in her manic phase, however. I imagine it has to be wild.
 
I recently got out of a relationship with a girl who ended up having quite serious issues with anxiety and depression. Not to mention issues with trust and commitment - though I don't know if these are linked to mental illness. When she was getting bad it was beginning to place considerable strain on me and the relationship.

Would I do it again? Not sure. Unfortunately, in this case she hid it from me for a long time and it wasn't until a year into the relationship did I really start to see the signs. I also can't be to hypocritical as I have had issues with anxiety and depression in the past, and probably still do in some ways.
 
id never date anyone with any type of mental illness again...but if i did they would have to keep that shit under control. I have been treated bad by these type of females and don't need that shit in my life anymore. btw i have sever depression and anxiety.

The difference is i don't take it out on the other person, and if i did it would be rare and not enough to make the person leave me.
 
If she's medicated, I won't mind, but if she's not, I would never. I dated 2 before, it did not go well..
 
shahab6 said:
If she's medicated, I won't mind, but if she's not, I would never. I dated 2 before, it did not go well..
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It really goes back to what Lysis said...

Lysis said:
I might if the person is older and has been consistent with taking proper medication and controlling it. If they were diagnosed at 18, and now they are 35 and have managed it their entire life, it's probable that they will continue. If they are 20, then there is a good chance they will say "fuck the pills" and it'll be a roller coaster. Don't want any roller coasters.
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I don't wanna be that poor schmuck either. ;)
 
Mihai6Yu9Ri said:
The trick is to pretend you aren't crazy... Say you are an 'artist'.

Chicks dig artists... 8)
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haha I'll own up to dating bad boys and knowing I shouldn't at the time, but fuck, I feel like the only woman who thinks the crazy, delusional artist is anything more than annoying as fuck. I talk to them for 3 seconds and feel like he's the most naive, idealistic moron on the planet, get annoyed and have to go walk away.
 
Date? No. Put up with for emotionally detached, soul-crushing sex? Yes.

I've been with tons of crazy chicks, some probably had (or should have had) actual diagnoses, but I was only ever really into one of them. She wouldn't commit to me so I ended up leaving. Jury's still out on whether I actually liked her craziness or if she was just so insanely hot that I talked myself into liking it. Probably some magical combination of the two. Anyway, here's a sample of her craziness: ex-boyfriend beat her so bad he broke her ribs, she fucked his brother for revenge, they got back together, then he cheated on her/abused her and she went nuts, doing tons of drugs and ending up in rehab. Why wouldn't she commit to me? Oh, because she was still talking to this guy. And yeah, I'm fully aware that those are all red flags that should have had me running for the hills. She was that hot.

By the way, this thread reminds me of:

http://www.metatube.com/en/videos/76083/SNL-Chanel-Red-Flag-Perfume/
 
depends on their healthiness with their illness. the perfect scenario would be a mental health WORKER who could point out warning signs, but as far as a regular person? probably not. probably a fucked up person who is more stable than i am, or a person with a fucked up background who can help me because of their experience(even if just with family member or something else). a psychiatrist once told me pretty much everyone has a personality disorder or defect or something. i don't know if he was right or just trying to tell me i was fine except for cutting on myself. (i had cut myself just to get away from a bad situation as a teen, and go to the hospital instead). but it probably is truthful everyone is fucked up in some way. some people need meds and help and have real labels. even if you don't, you could be the right match for someone who does withotu it ending in disaster.
 
It seems slightly odd that all the schizos I know have lots more sex than I do.

Edit: That mental illness is a 'turn-off' is probably just because of the instinct to pass on healthy genes.
 
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