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Why do girls like to get played ? Merged.

How can they expect to end war
when they just go out and make some more?

How can the brain understand the brain?

If nothing we do matters, then the only thing that matters is what we do.
 
Um.... getting back to you? Well my boyfriend and I have never fought yet and it's been 16 months so ....
 
I hate people that are nice! I am such a rude ass bitch and always say what ever I think and I'm soooo mean sometimes. "nice people" are just liars and doormats. if you can't walk up to me and tell me straight up that I'm a big bitch if I say something rude to you, then you're a pussy. I'm gonna talk mad shit about you behind your back, and teach you a lesson that will make you hate yourself for ever being nice! I hate nice people, I think they're HUGE cowards and probably have way more personal problems and issues than an asshole or a bitch like me. It's so cool to not take anyone's feelings into consideration before you say something, and figuring that people should be secure enough to not freak out about what some dumb biatch said about them! Nice people, you are fuckin liars! Come out and hate everyone like the rest of us!
 
Why do people think that 'nice people' don't get angry? I am considered, among my friends, to be a really nice person. I go out of my way to do nice things for other people and I love making others feel good. It genuinely makes me happy to do good for others. People assume that I am 'too good to be true' and my niceness is constantly called into question by folks that don't really know me. As a result, I constantly get screwed over. I am not bitching, I know going in that it is a possibility and that my being nice is a choice. But let me tell you what, when I get screwed over or when people I am nice to go out of their way to be rude... I GET ANGRY! And people know it. I go out of my way to be nice and to do nice things for others, I don't expect anything in return, save for some common decency and maybe a little politeness. When people go out of their way to disrespect me or what I am trying to do, the niceness goes away and is replaced by a very cold, caustic bitch. I have a dry humor that knows how to rip you to shreds, and I am provoked, on occasion, to remove to ego from someone that has treated me like shit. :)

Just a warning to those of you that treat us nice people like crap... ;) We aren't dumb and unable to defend ourselves, we are just usually above that kind of childish behaviour. But we have limits, anyone that says otherwise is on lithium!!
 
I must disagree with some of the posts in this thread. People aren't like volcanoes, with some internal "anger pressure" that just builds up if it has no outlet until it explodes. This is coming from someone who has "blown up" a few times in life himself, but all of those situations were the result of sustained campaigns of oppression that reached a breaking point, not just from living day by day.

If we're talking about day-to-day life, then of course we get angry or frustrated with the things that happen. But just because we get angry doesn't mean we *need* to express it, or that it *will* come out in some way or another. The issue, IMO, is more a result of a lack of personal discipline than because of some internal flaw in the human condition; *you* control your mind and emotions, not the other way around. We choose to be puppets of our whims and emotions, or to be their puppeteers. Too much savagery and injustice in this world has been written off as "just being human," or "that's just the way people are", IMO.
 
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Having a strong sense of humor usually allows me to laugh at things that others get upset about. When I do get angry about something, I can immediately recognize it, and I waste no time in letting out the anger productively. Believe me, pummeling the shit out of a punching bag for an hour, followed by a cold shower can do wonders. ;) There are plenty of other ways to relieve stress as well. I haven't felt the need to yell, provoke someone, or insult someone since I was in highschool. People who provoke others are weak, and I usually spend more time laughing at them than getting angry.
 
Belisarius said:
I must disagree with some of the posts in this thread. People aren't like volcanoes, with some internal "anger pressure" that just builds up if it has no outlet until it explodes. This is coming from someone who has "blown up" a few times in life himself, but all of those situations were the result of sustained campaigns of oppression that reached a breaking point, not just from living day by day.

If we're talking about day-to-day life, then of course we get angry or frustrated with the things that happen. But just because we get angry doesn't mean we *need* to express it, or that it *will* come out in some way or another. The issue, IMO, is more a result of a lack of personal discipline than because of some internal flaw in the human condition; *you* control your mind and emotions, not the other way around. We choose to be puppets of our whims and emotions, or to be their puppeteers. Too much savagery and injustice in this world has been written off as "just being human," or "that's just the way people are", IMO.
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Extremely well said.

Big up yourself, Beli. :)
 
jeN2O said:
I hate people that are nice! I am such a rude ass bitch and always say what ever I think and I'm soooo mean sometimes. "nice people" are just liars and doormats. if you can't walk up to me and tell me straight up that I'm a big bitch if I say something rude to you, then you're a pussy. I'm gonna talk mad shit about you behind your back, and teach you a lesson that will make you hate yourself for ever being nice! I hate nice people, I think they're HUGE cowards and probably have way more personal problems and issues than an asshole or a bitch like me. It's so cool to not take anyone's feelings into consideration before you say something, and figuring that people should be secure enough to not freak out about what some dumb biatch said about them! Nice people, you are fuckin liars! Come out and hate everyone like the rest of us!
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I have read quite a few of your other posts and you are such a stuck up skank. You put on this "Oh I'm so confident, I'm so great act" but every tom, dick and harry with a millimetre worth of braincells knows that you are the way you are because you have to fool yourself into believing it! You would struggle to get through the day without bragging about your 'superiority', heaven forbid if we all didn't understand your 'brilliance' and 'remarkable' contribution to the world, lmao. How could you live with yourself? You're the type of person who needs to dramatise things to the max so you feel like you have the power, so you can feel like you've won - haha, pretty pathetic really...

Keep thinking you're it and a bit - but be aware we all know just how fucked in the head you are compared to 'everyone' << who you put down because you can't get along with. Oh shit, you're the odd one out - could it be perhaps that you are the headcase? ;) Food for thought, gobble it down girlie!
 
kandyraverchick said:
I have read quite a few of your other posts and you are such a stuck up skank. You put on this "Oh I'm so confident, I'm so great act" but every tom, dick and harry with a millimetre worth of braincells knows that you are the way you are because you have to fool yourself into believing it! You would struggle to get through the day without bragging about your 'superiority', heaven forbid if we all didn't understand your 'brilliance' and 'remarkable' contribution to the world, lmao. How could you live with yourself? You're the type of person who needs to dramatise things to the max so you feel like you have the power, so you can feel like you've won - haha, pretty pathetic really...

Keep thinking you're it and a bit - but be aware we all know just how fucked in the head you are compared to 'everyone' << who you put down because you can't get along with. Oh shit, you're the odd one out - could it be perhaps that you are the headcase? ;) Food for thought, gobble it down girlie!
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I love you kandyraverchick, well said
 
I work with a guy who just tries too hard to be nice and get everyone to like him. Most of everyone talks shit behind his back and they all generally think he's annoying because he tries too hard. Poor guy.

I find the best way to deal with these people is to go out of your way to be nice back, include them in conversation, invite them out when everyone goes for drinks, or what ever. Just be considerate of their feelings and they usually calm down and start being their true selves.

Most people who try too hard do so because they get rejected and have a long history of being rejected. When you get right down to it, they're usually not bad people, just a little socially slow.
 
jeN2O said:
I hate people that are nice!

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I am such a rude ass bitch

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I'm soooo mean sometimes. "nice people" are just liars and doormats.

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I'm gonna talk mad shit about you behind your back, and teach you a lesson that will make you hate yourself for ever being nice!

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I hate nice people,

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Come out and hate everyone like the rest of us!
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whilst kandy has effectively dealt with your post, i just thought i'd say - i think you're taking the coward's way out yourself. hatred is such a simplistic and self-satisfying emotion.

i suspect you are a nice person, but feel you must project this image for some unknown reason.

hopefully sometime in the future some lessons will be learned - but i very much doubt it will be you teaching 'nice people'.

think about it: what does hatred contribute to your life? really?
 
^^^^ If I was unclear, I was being sarcastic.

I'm a nice person and the last person who tried to mistake my niceness for weakness was really surprised.

~Pix :)
 
jeN2O, I've met plenty of secure people who feel no need to give other people shit. If that's your style, stick with other people who dig this style, and leave everybody else alone. Don't try to impose your confrontational ways on everybody else. Because I'm sorry, being a confrontational punk isn't some magic path to the ideal life, and isn't every human being's "natural state", any more than being super nice is. I've known a couple people whose attitude is like yours, and they slam into their share of brick walls.

Everyone's brain chemistry is different. I, for example, am a slow thinker. My reaction time is decidedly slower than most people's, as confirmed by a psychiatrist's report when I was only 3 years old. I come from a family of slow thinkers.

As a result, I simply cannot do snappy comebacks, and never could. I'll think of something clever to say long after the moment has passed. This makes it extremely difficult for me to come off as smart in social situations. In fact, people who haven't seen me in academic settings have called me stupid. I'm not stupid, I'm just not quick on the draw.
Therefore, I tend to prefer the company of more contemplative people, who see nothing wrong with sitting around on a porch all afternoon chatting slowly or playing chess. I don't tend to enjoy hanging with people who are loud and snappy and constantly fucking with each other for fun.

I honestly feel bad for anyone who sees my slowness and immediately labels me "weak", because they don't know what they're missing. We're long past the age where the the fast man put his spear through a gazelle for dinner and the slow man missed and went hungry.
 
I was raised to be very polite and respectful and understanding towards people, especially womenfolk. (Bloody Liberal parenting :) )

I don't feel like I have anything to hide - especially personality wise. I think sometimes I come off as rather creepy or something, but it's nothing I can help. To be quite frank, I generally find myself to be extremely witty and charming in person.

Anyways, my success with women has been absolutely non-existant (wasn't this thread about male/female relationships to begin with? After poking about the entirity of the thread, I can't quite remember :) ). I tend to accumulate a lot of girls as friends, but everytime I ask if they want to take our relationship any further, I always get a very surprised and definite 'no' of some variety or another. My idea of courtship is more along the lines of holding doors and being a 'good-listener' and making people laugh and trying to be generally pleasant to be around (and not to mention abusing the fuck out of the word 'and' and generating unnecessarily-obtuse run-on sentences), but the girls I fall for invariably go for the type of guy who slaps them on the ass and starts giggling like a moron the first time they meet, which I could understand if they were generally more physically attractive than myself, but that doesn't usually seem to be the case.

Anyways, I don't really understand the dynamic at all, but I'm sure I'll get a grip on it eventually. I'd imagine it boils down to something along the lines of appearing weak/lacking courage/whatever; not that I'd ever even begin to accuse myself of lacking courage.

That said, I certainly know at least one person who uses excessive niceness and agreeability to sort of pressure people into liking him. I feel bad for the kid... he's a complete pathalogical liar, like to the point of desperately needing to see a therapist about it, as he can't keep a friend for more than a month. I don't doubt that it's not uncommon for people to adopt a front of absolute generosity and pleasantness to hide their deep-seeded (deep-seated?) insecurities, but I fancy it's at least somewhat rare among we polite males.

[edit] I propose we begin a petition to have bluelight's standard tongue-out smiley icon changed to something more playful and less bitter-looking, such as -
tongue.gif
. Isn't that much nicer?[/edit]
 
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I think the first post is pretty much right on. However, I somewhat disagree with the word "flaw," unless being introverted is a flaw. To explain further:

I am an introvert, there is nothing I can do to change it. I'm very gregarious at times and outgoing and social but in general I am introverted. So on a typical day, I'm locked in thought and in a very real sense other people are a disturbance to that. So, when interacting with others I'm often trying to use the least amount of mental energy possible, such as just "playing nice." Maybe that's a flaw, and if so the original post is definitely right on!
 
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