fizzy girl. Love your attitude.
several things.
first, in agreement with liquidocean, i think that there is this myth that men are intersted in fucking every girl out there. simply not true. even if you are a hot girl, doesn't mean that i want shit to do with you. i can't tell you the number of times that i saw a girl that was very attractive physically, but once she opened her mouth, i was like...."no thanks." Or the way she carried herself was a turn off. i'm not into girls that, not matter how hot they are, think acting like a slut (whether it be a slut or an act) is cool. nor am i into the girls that walk like a man. if that's you, no offenense or anything, that's just not my thing. hell, even if you are a ten, act like a lady and are smart, i still may not want to be all up in your kool-aid. i'm pretty specific in what as i want as for looks. well, it's not really like a list or anything, its just that a 6'0 blonde with 36Cs is nice to look at, but it doesn't make my blood boil. a 5'8" brunette that looks like audrey hepburn on the other hand....
after reading puls8r's post, i would say that i agree to a large extent. first, i think there's a definition problem with what nice is versus what asshole is. when a girl calls a guy nice, does she mean, "he's a nice man." or does she mean "ahhhhh. he's so sweet." when a girl calls a guy an asshole, does she mean "he's such an asshole. hee-hee" or "god. he's such a fucking asshole. what a jerk." i can't speak for anybody but myself really, but i can see how a "nice guy" (the second one) could become an asshole. let's see if i get this straight... if guy is nice #2, he isn't confident about himself and becomes possessive of his girlfriend and paranoid that she will walk so he acts like a jerk. On the other hand, an "asshole" guy is confident, albeit too much at times, and thus has nothing to prove...so he doesn't get possesive or paranoid. etc.
i guess there are four types of guys. sweet guys that become jerks. assholes that stay jerks. nice guys that stay good. assholes that become good.
Through out my life, I've been all of them, but now, I would say that I'm mostly the slightly cocky, slightly asshole, funny/smart guy with a big, big heart. All of the people that I'm good friends with now know me as a good man that'll make you laugh your ass off.
this post started out as women talking about finding decent men, but has also turned into men talking about finding decent women. consider this...
if you can't find what you are looking for...it's your own damn fault.