Saying that she brought it upon herself is on a par with misogynist judges who say that a woman was asking to be raped because she was wearing tight clothing. It's got nothing to do with what people wear, or how drunk they get (as long as they are still capable of making descisions), although in some mens minds, a woman wearing tight clothing is "asking for it". The deciding factor is whether a woman gives consent for a man to indulge in sexual behaviour with her. Regardless of whether they're dressed like a member of a polar expidition, or a pole-dancer in a humid club, the only factor that does count, is that it is consensual behaviour between all persons involved (it's the deciding factor in a legal definition of sexual harrasment, rape etc). If a woman says no, it means no, even if the other person believes that shje had been acting like a prick teaser all night.
For those who've hinted that she shouldn't go out dressed in a provocative manner, consider this scenario:-
You're walking back from a night out, on your own (wearing your best strutting gear), and you ask a couple of blokes what time it is. You're still on the tail end of MDMA, and have a bit chat with them before continuing on.
200 yards down the road, the two blokes suddenly grab you and you're subjected to a multiple homosexual rape. When they are eventually caught, their excuse is thar you were "asking for it", as you'd been wearing what they considered, from a gay man's point of view, very provocative clothing and had been flirting with them a couple of minutes earlier (their interpretation of your very friendly, MDMA induced state).
That's what women have to put up with on a lot more regular basis
Still think it's an acceptable way of seeing women, just because of their attire that night?
iamtha1;
thing is, in the real world, there are men who have no idea as to what is acceptable behaviour, and don't really give a shit about anybody else's opinion once testosterone takes over the brain, so that you've got to be careful not to let them get into a position where they call all the shots (esp. after using any drug that alters the libido), and at certain times, that involves thinking about what sort of direction events might take if more drugs are brought into the situation.
I'm sorry you had to have that sort of shit happen, but keep it in mind next time someone offers you a pill if you're already drunk, so that you can get out of any situation that looks like it might turn nasty
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