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What do you consider "sex"?

Choronzon333 said:
I consider anything involving both of your nether regions together sex. Either buttsex or sex in the vag. However I used to know some mormon girls when I was in highschool that didn't believe even anal sex was sex so they would have guys fuck them in the ass so they could "stay pure"
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As per my point!
 
Sex as a word used in conversation : Vaginal or Anal Penetration. Using it in any other context would just be confusing because that's not generally done in common conversation.

"I had sex with her." Is generally heard to mean "I penetrated her vagina with my penis."

Sex as a concept : Two people attempting to achieve orgasm. People who say oral, or manual stimulation don't count as sex are just splitting hairs and being ridiculous. If you're attempting to bring someone else to orgasm you're having sex with them, the intent matters a hell of a lot more than the method.

If a girl blew me I would never say I'd had sex with her, because people would hear that and assume we'd had penetrative intercourse, which wouldn't be true. But at the same time I'd still consider it to have been a sexual encounter. I don't see this is as contradictory.
 
Well, i say oral isnt sex, but it is cheating, if you're doing it with someone who is not your significant other. It is "sexual", but the word sex implies penetration. It depends on the gender of the participants, really. Between a man and a woman, anal is about as intimate as it gets... (Actually, laying together and kissing is the most intimate IMO, but regarding sex/penetration...) with my fiancé and I, I barely even consider vaginal intercourse sex anymore. It leaves so much to be desired. But the definitions are different for different people.
 
rangrz said:
Its hard question to answer... I'm going to hold on dearly to science and call sex genetic recombination between two gamete cells, or else, gender as determined by chromosomal traits in mammals... Maybe I'll toss Male/Female Vaginal intercourse in there as it enables the whole transfer of genetic material for the sake of producing a new organism.

I'm gonna call the rest sensuality, as it has more to do with the subjective sensations between the participants than it has to facilitating gene transfer or with dimorphic traits dependant on chromosomal factors.

(And no, cosmetic surgery or hormones etc do not change ones sex. The person/organism in question still has exactly the same genetic traits they had before they got a penectomy)
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^ This
 
rangrz said:
Its hard question to answer... I'm going to hold on dearly to science and call sex genetic recombination between two gamete cells, or else, gender as determined by chromosomal traits in mammals... Maybe I'll toss Male/Female Vaginal intercourse in there as it enables the whole transfer of genetic material for the sake of producing a new organism.

I'm gonna call the rest sensuality, as it has more to do with the subjective sensations between the participants than it has to facilitating gene transfer or with dimorphic traits dependant on chromosomal factors.

(And no, cosmetic surgery or hormones etc do not change ones sex. The person/organism in question still has exactly the same genetic traits they had before they got a penectomy)
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But colloquially-speaking (or speaking colloquially, rather), sex is more than one's genetically-prescribed "gender." I think that, collectively, we call this sensuality, this physical intimacy between partners "sex."

Years ago, I would have argued that sex is intercourse. Today, I would argue differently. I would have to say that beyond a handshake, a hug, a kiss on the cheek or the most severe of all near-sex-encounters, dry-humping and fondling, physical intimacy of any other type is sex, really. If it's oral sex, it's still sex. That isn't to say I would ever describe oral sex as merely "sex" as in, "Yeah, man, we totally had sex!" when what I really mean is that I ate her out and/or she gave me a blowjob.

So, I guess that what I am trying to say is "sex" can be, in my opinion, intercourse (anal/vaginal) or oral sex. But to have sex means the whole sha-bang but intercourse for sure.
 
So I think I’m unfertile (can't have babies) I have been pregnant before but I had a really bad miscarriage. I don’t want kids yet, me and my fiancé aren't ready at all. But he has cam in me a million times! I can't count how many times... And nothing ever happens I get my rag once a month still... I have done heroin for like 2 years now don’t really know how long, could that make it so I can't ever have a baby or just temporary cause I'm 7 days clean now... I just want to know if my option for having a family is gone and I’m only 19 years young?
 
Janalied said:
So I think I’m unfertile (can't have babies) I have been pregnant before but I had a really bad miscarriage. I don’t want kids yet, me and my fiancé aren't ready at all. But he has cam in me a million times! I can't count how many times... And nothing ever happens I get my rag once a month still... I have done heroin for like 2 years now don’t really know how long, could that make it so I can't ever have a baby or just temporary cause I'm 7 days clean now... I just want to know if my option for having a family is gone and I’m only 19 years young?
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I believe that there is a connection between heavy heroin use and a woman's menstrual cycle, so I'm not sure if there would be some connection there between your heroin use and your fertility.

It might be worth looking into; try searching the forum...

I just came across this thread: http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/threads/441047-Heroin-and-Menstrual-Cycle and I'm sure that there must be more.
 
^You'd have to see a doctor about that. If you don't want a child right now (and btw, sorry about the miscarriage :() then take steps to prevent pregnancy. Keep up the 7 days clean and beyond! The Dark Side is a great forum with wonderful people who can help you through rough times with addiction. But please, protect yourself and your partner.

My answer: tie between "anything designed to get you and your partner off" and oral/vaginal/anal sex.
 
@Verso, I picked my definitions for the sake of being fairly definite and precise. I know the word is used in different ways by people day to day, but the ambiguous nature of it makes it hard to define, so I decided to go with hard cut definitions that are fairly objective and quantifiable. I did not mean to imply that what I called sensuality is insignificant or "less than/inferior" to sex.

I'm trying to anchor mine in a way that allows comparison across different cultures and even different species.

_mistresspoppy_ said:
Well, i say oral isnt sex, but it is cheating, if you're doing it with someone who is not your significant other.
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Define significant? Usually, that just means important or of consequence, inverse would be 'trivial'. What makes someone important or of consequence? What makes someone trivial? Why does it imply that only one person is 'significant' and that significant is entangled with pair-bonded romance? What are the essential conditions for significance? What are the sufficient conditions? What qualifies it? How does one engage in quantification of it?
 
^ "Significant other" is a little bit easier than trying to be all-encompassing by saying "boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, fiancee, etc". :P
 
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No, it is not. I consider my commanding officer significant. But I do not have romance with him. I consider my best friend significant, but I do not have romance with him.

The word significant is a very broad and wide reaching term, and if someone uses such totally inaccurate speech with me, I am likely to ignore them for being stupid and lacking a basic understanding of how to communicate an idea.
 
^ I get what you're saying but you have to take the word in the context of the sentence and the rest of the phrase. It's not just: "I went out with my significant on Saturday." It's significant other. I personally don't use the phrase very often, as I try and narrow down who I'm talking about when I talk with someone--If I'm not sure which gender someone is into, I'll usually just say "your boy/girlfriend", and if I can't tell someone I'm dating another female, I'll just say "friend." :-/
 
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Yeah, I know what you are saying too, much like the word "sex" having a broad and variable meaning with people too. I just dislike imprecise language cause it makes me have to try and guess what someone is saying.

And significant other again, has an entanglement with pair-coupling, which, does not work for me cause I couple with more than one 'other' so it would make it hard to define who exactly the person was asking about/who I was talking about. I realize this not apply to most people, but it does apply to some people.

Besides, should we not try to use regular expressions within the confines of a context free grammar, as to make our parse tree simple and unambiguous? </UNIXnerd>
 
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Anything you'd describe as balls to the wall good ol fashion romping. If your mattress is mostly dry, then you've not really had sex.
Also Rangrz's definition works too I guess...that weirdo
 
rangrz said:
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Yeah, I know what you are saying too, much like the word "sex" having a broad and variable meaning with people too. I just dislike imprecise language cause it makes me have to try and guess what someone is saying.

And significant other again, has an entanglement with pair-coupling, which, does not work for me cause I couple with more than one 'other' so it would make it hard to define who exactly the person was asking about/who I was talking about. I realize this not apply to most people, but it does apply to some people.

Besides, should we not try to use regular expressions within the confines of a context free grammar, as to make our parse tree simple and unambiguous? </UNIXnerd>
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I hear ya, thought your nerd bit through me for a loop. :P
 
I don't consider oral sex to be sex because the giver doesn't have any pleasure centers in the mouth. To me "sex" means the pleasure is going both ways.

Anal and vaginal only.

And lol at the "its sex if a nipple comes out thing". In that case ive had sex with about 100 random chicks as they came down the slide at the waterpark I worked at last summer.
 
Hmm that's an interesting question. I didn't consider my v-card having been taken when I got my first bj (first sexual act ever).. And I didn't consider my v-card taken after my first attempt at stickin it in a cunt, which was a miserable drunk failure. I suppose I consider it sex when there is penetration and an orgasm involved.
 
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