aunty establishment
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IMO guys (well, the ones I know at least) like to perve on skinny girls and bang curvy girls. Speaking from experience, sex with anyone skinny enough to have protruding pelvic bones is *painful*.
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What do guys really think of girl's bodies?
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ironlionzion
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When my girlfriend gets depressed she thinks "I am so fat" when I get depressed I think "My girl friend is so fat!"
I don't know, I guess guys are just always hoping to find that perfect girl. I am fat and ugly but have no problem at all sitting around naked with any girl at all, I never let being flabby and out of shape worry me and come on to women who are way above me on the looks scale. Sometimes it works out and sometimes I strike out, whatever.
Most women I know are really worried about their looks. Many think guys won't like them. In my experience just because guys are genetically wired to want sex with total babes, does not mean that we are not attracted to average, regular, normal girls. We are attracted to you all and if you only knew how much, the world would be a different place.
One more thing, women worry about their feet way too much because of what other women will think, so it is not just men who cause problems for women.
I don't know, I guess guys are just always hoping to find that perfect girl. I am fat and ugly but have no problem at all sitting around naked with any girl at all, I never let being flabby and out of shape worry me and come on to women who are way above me on the looks scale. Sometimes it works out and sometimes I strike out, whatever.
Most women I know are really worried about their looks. Many think guys won't like them. In my experience just because guys are genetically wired to want sex with total babes, does not mean that we are not attracted to average, regular, normal girls. We are attracted to you all and if you only knew how much, the world would be a different place.
One more thing, women worry about their feet way too much because of what other women will think, so it is not just men who cause problems for women.
therealbeats
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I think the most attractive part of a female is the confidence they have in there body. I mean, I appreciate amazing pin-ups and those fantasy women, but all they are is just that, a fantasy, that is obviously fake, but still nice to look at.
My s/o is constantly going on about how she is fat, and ugly, despite the fact I tell her very often how beautiful I think she is, and despite the fact she is *constantly*
hit on by other guys (and girls).
No man, except for stupid men, expect a girl to look like that.
My s/o is constantly going on about how she is fat, and ugly, despite the fact I tell her very often how beautiful I think she is, and despite the fact she is *constantly*
hit on by other guys (and girls). No man, except for stupid men, expect a girl to look like that.
mariacallas
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I would NEVER in a million years walk up to someone and tell them they were ugly.
Being a fat kid , and having to fight the flab forever as my cross to bear certainly taught me a lot about compassion and acceptance of all sorts of people.
And i agree with everything lacey k posted
I think it's all about the way you carry yourself and the way you portray yourself to people that defines whether or not your sexy IMO. I've been attracted to all different kinds of girls in my life, and right now I find my 8 month pregnant girlfriend the sexiest thing on the planet, and she definitely doesn't have the stereotypical "perfect body''
herownwrite
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babysoftskin said:
soft bellies, soft thighs, soft breasts...
i've always thought the most beautiful thing about women is their softness, and my boyfriend agrees. we are actually both trying to put on a little weight, since we're both naturally tall and thin. slowly i've been working on getting a bigger and softer belly that is matching my bigger and softer breasts. (it's not hard to do, i fuckin love food especially with a benzo habit)
most guys i've talked to have told me they prefer the natural curves and softness in a woman, not the 5'10" 105 lb supermodel. (sorry to all non-americans: i don't know the metric system
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plazma
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I've dated girls with a fair few body types, from damn curvaceous to way too thin, to tell the truth, after that, I know that cute girls come in many shapes and sizes, and that I'd be a lot more concerned with how she looks at herself than how she looks to me. Don't get me wrong, hugely overweight girls aren't that attractive, but its more cause i'm concerned about their health than their appearance. But a self confident girl (and I don't mean an arrogant bitch, because way too many girls seem to equate arrogance and bitchyness for self confidence these days) is a hugely attractive person in her own right. I don't know whether I speak for all guys, but if you're with a partner you don't want to have to be a constant prop to a failing ego, you want a girl who's fun.
I think that body images these days (in particular I blame the goddamned proliferation of computer editing and airbrushing) are totally goddamned unrealistic, and I'd much rather, to use the initial example, go for the Ursula Andress type, than the Halle Berry type.
-plaz out-
I think that body images these days (in particular I blame the goddamned proliferation of computer editing and airbrushing) are totally goddamned unrealistic, and I'd much rather, to use the initial example, go for the Ursula Andress type, than the Halle Berry type.
-plaz out-
mariacallas
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plazma said:
WOW thank you for saying the words right outta my goddamn mouth
And i hate halle berry
ursula andress, marilyn monroe, yep.
Strawberry_lovemuffin
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At 30 years old, I'm beyond really caring what guys (or anybody really) thinks of my body.
Oh, sure I'm not perfect, I have my 'fat' days. But I no longer feel I have to impose them on everyone around me in order to feel better about myself - I just deal. It's taken a long time to get here mind you. But now I'm here... I feel fucking fantastic.
It's one of the great benefits of growing into your own skin, this innate confidence you get.
The older I've gotten, the more I've noticed how little body shape actually has to do with peoples' opinions of you - at least, the people who matter. We think guys care a lot more than they actually do.
The curious thing is - and I've been all sizes from an 8 to a 16, currently a happy medium at 12-14 - is that guys have been attracted to me at any size, but it's only when I've been happy and confident within myself.
(Guys have been attracted to me when I was skinny and miserable, too, but they were *definitely* not the ones I'd want to be hanging around.)
Who cares if I dont' look like the girls in magazines... I'm damn sexy and I look like MYSELF, that's who I look like.
Until you get to the point where you can really understand that, these things are always going to be an issue. But it's so much more freeing to just ..... just Not Go There. If you know what I mean. You can be in one headspace or another. I know which one I'd rather be in
Oh, sure I'm not perfect, I have my 'fat' days. But I no longer feel I have to impose them on everyone around me in order to feel better about myself
- I just deal. It's taken a long time to get here mind you. But now I'm here... I feel fucking fantastic.It's one of the great benefits of growing into your own skin, this innate confidence you get.
The older I've gotten, the more I've noticed how little body shape actually has to do with peoples' opinions of you - at least, the people who matter. We think guys care a lot more than they actually do.
The curious thing is - and I've been all sizes from an 8 to a 16, currently a happy medium at 12-14 - is that guys have been attracted to me at any size, but it's only when I've been happy and confident within myself.
(Guys have been attracted to me when I was skinny and miserable, too, but they were *definitely* not the ones I'd want to be hanging around.)
Who cares if I dont' look like the girls in magazines... I'm damn sexy and I look like MYSELF, that's who I look like.
Until you get to the point where you can really understand that, these things are always going to be an issue. But it's so much more freeing to just ..... just Not Go There. If you know what I mean. You can be in one headspace or another. I know which one I'd rather be in
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Doodle
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Strawberry_lovemuffin said:
BINGO!
Rats_are_Dancin
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I really could not care less if a woman be skinny, "fat" or whatever it does not and should not matter, just be who you are and don't worry what people think of your body if they judge you on your body shape then they ain't worth it simple as that. believe me or not but thats the way it should be and anybody who thinks differently really should get of there high horse and realize that we are people not a body
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SvnLyrBrto
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I must be one of the rare guys who not only doesn't prefer the Maxim/FHM/Playboy look; but I actually dislike it. I very much prefer a girl with natural beauty to the plasticy, overly made-up, and airbrushed "model" look. Those don't look like women. They look like blow-up love dolls. In fact, "Maxim-izing" someone can, IMHO, make an otherwise attractive person ugly.
For a fine example of the latter take Grace Park, the actress who plays Boomer in Battlestar Galactica. On screen and in character she is, by leaps and bounds, easily the most attractive female on the show. But her Maxim shoot just makes her look trashy and unattractive; and I have a hard time believing it's even the same person, and not just some standard-issue SoCal drone.
(Yes, I know... I did just reveal myself as a SciFi-watching nerd. WTF do ya want??? This the internet for cryin' out loud.)
Now... some girls are just naturally thin-as-a-rail, and you can usually tell.... because they don't have that anorexic look to them. The girls who would otherwise have normal/average figures, but starve themselves down to "model" proportions; just aren't attractive. I mean... this is a wealthy western country... people shouldn't have their ribs poking through their skin like some third-world refugee.
(And don't even get me started on how bad-looking breast implants are... especially when they're usually so out-of-proportion to what would be natural on the size of girls who get them. Though I guess in the event of a water landing....)
Not only that, but it's just not fun to date/hang out with someone who obsesses about being too fat or some-such. Example again: In a stand-up routine I have Tivo'd, Margaret Cho (Whose sit-com was cancelled, in part, because she was "too fat for television"... this tale is related in her "The Notorious CHO" DVD.) talks about how she's on the "fuck it" diet plan and the "fuck that shit" exercise plan. And yet, to me, Margaret Cho is stunningly attractive. Though to be fair, I'm not sure how much that is actually physical vs. the fact that.... well.... she's Margaret Cho, and therefore stupefyingly awesome, no matter HOW fat or skinny she might be.
The point being that someone with Cho's attitude is much more fun to... say... go on a dinner date with than someone who's going to pick at a salad while you eat real food, or whine about all the carbs.
cya,
john
For a fine example of the latter take Grace Park, the actress who plays Boomer in Battlestar Galactica. On screen and in character she is, by leaps and bounds, easily the most attractive female on the show. But her Maxim shoot just makes her look trashy and unattractive; and I have a hard time believing it's even the same person, and not just some standard-issue SoCal drone.
(Yes, I know... I did just reveal myself as a SciFi-watching nerd. WTF do ya want??? This the internet for cryin' out loud.)
Now... some girls are just naturally thin-as-a-rail, and you can usually tell.... because they don't have that anorexic look to them. The girls who would otherwise have normal/average figures, but starve themselves down to "model" proportions; just aren't attractive. I mean... this is a wealthy western country... people shouldn't have their ribs poking through their skin like some third-world refugee.
(And don't even get me started on how bad-looking breast implants are... especially when they're usually so out-of-proportion to what would be natural on the size of girls who get them. Though I guess in the event of a water landing....)
Not only that, but it's just not fun to date/hang out with someone who obsesses about being too fat or some-such. Example again: In a stand-up routine I have Tivo'd, Margaret Cho (Whose sit-com was cancelled, in part, because she was "too fat for television"... this tale is related in her "The Notorious CHO" DVD.) talks about how she's on the "fuck it" diet plan and the "fuck that shit" exercise plan. And yet, to me, Margaret Cho is stunningly attractive. Though to be fair, I'm not sure how much that is actually physical vs. the fact that.... well.... she's Margaret Cho, and therefore stupefyingly awesome, no matter HOW fat or skinny she might be.
The point being that someone with Cho's attitude is much more fun to... say... go on a dinner date with than someone who's going to pick at a salad while you eat real food, or whine about all the carbs.
cya,
john
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bachus
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Guys think girls bodies are wonderful and they think about them a lot!
But, if you don't love yourself, how can you accept that another person loves you (including loving the way you look, naked, exactly the way you are.)
But once you accept that the body you're in is actually adorable, you can enjoy being adored and you will just get sexier and sexier.
If your boy doesn't like your body, find another boy that does. But if you don't like your body, you can't find another you that does.
My girl has a lovely soft belly, arse, tits, thighs, crotch, shoulders; cute stretch marks where here tits and belly grew giving life to her child. She's no swimsuit model or Maxim cover, yet she knows she's damned sexy and that is soo sexy. She's naked a lot around the house and I can never take my eyes off her.
I am such a lucky guy!
But, if you don't love yourself, how can you accept that another person loves you (including loving the way you look, naked, exactly the way you are.)
But once you accept that the body you're in is actually adorable, you can enjoy being adored and you will just get sexier and sexier.
If your boy doesn't like your body, find another boy that does. But if you don't like your body, you can't find another you that does.
My girl has a lovely soft belly, arse, tits, thighs, crotch, shoulders; cute stretch marks where here tits and belly grew giving life to her child. She's no swimsuit model or Maxim cover, yet she knows she's damned sexy and that is soo sexy. She's naked a lot around the house and I can never take my eyes off her.
I am such a lucky guy!
babysoftskin
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^^theres more guys like that around than the ones who believe only fhm model type bodies are sexy!
i get a lot more compliments when im 105 as compared to 115 or 120 (im 5'5), which i dont really understand, cuz im actually sick 
it makes me scared to gain weight since im getting such a positive response to being this thin. i do miss my boobs though, and being weak stinks, so personally i feel sexier and more attractive a little heavier, but still feel resentment for having fat on me at the same.
bah, the whole thing annoys me.
it makes me scared to gain weight since im getting such a positive response to being this thin. i do miss my boobs though, and being weak stinks, so personally i feel sexier and more attractive a little heavier, but still feel resentment for having fat on me at the same.
bah, the whole thing annoys me.
smotpoker
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I am attracted more to chubby girls than real skinny girls. Always have been, always will be. If theres more to cuddle with, than there's more to love IMO.
One thing I don't like though is when chubby girls are so concerned about their body that they need to turn the lights off when they get naked. My girlfriend is like this. Every time we're gonna have sex, she demands that the lights be turned off, which upsets me cause I wanna see her, front and back, before we have sex. She won't let me.
I'll say this: Lindsay Lohan was hot, before she went and lost all that weight. Now she just looks like a typical blonde Hollywood celeb.
One thing I don't like though is when chubby girls are so concerned about their body that they need to turn the lights off when they get naked. My girlfriend is like this. Every time we're gonna have sex, she demands that the lights be turned off, which upsets me cause I wanna see her, front and back, before we have sex. She won't let me.
I'll say this: Lindsay Lohan was hot, before she went and lost all that weight. Now she just looks like a typical blonde Hollywood celeb.
Makaveli69
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First of all, for me i don't want a girl thats super fuckin skinny if that was my thing id go fuck a tree prolly feels about the same. I don't really care if a girl is toned, i mean i like slender/average girls but i have no interest in if they have a six pack or not hah, perfect body for me is no fat hanging but not real toned, i like a girl thats kinda soft so it feels like my hands are kinda sinkin in her abit. I don't care what size their boobs are aslong as i can got something to grab onto when we were have fuckin, but i don't want odd shaped tits because i don't want it to feel like im squeezing a banana with abit extra thickness ya know. Ass, i gotta have a girl with a nice ass im always grabbin asses/bringin girl in tight as can be when kissin hah..but doesn't have to be ghetto booty big, just big enough i can use my entire hand to squeeze. I'm around 5 9 to 10, perfect height for me is at least over a inch short then me (don't care about having girl bigger then me, just more attracted to ones atad shorter then me) but not much more then like half a foot shorter then me, and for some reason when a girl is real short im more attracted to ones with a little bit of thickness but when they closer to my height i like em more slender for some reason.
Body im really not that picky, but faces im kinda super picky about, no acne (pimple or two here and there is fine tho, can't be a hypocrit), has to have pretty eyes, can't have so much makeup they look like a clown, but like femine look not tomboy look, i like a cute little noses too can't really handle extra big or super long noses she could be perfect in every otherway and have a big nose and im totally not interested. I like brunettes way better then blondes too (really not attractive to perfect blonde hair, super model body chicks) but don't want straight black hair. See kinda picky bout faces but some dudes like shit i don't like so really its all about findin right dude that likes your body.
All in all, as been said before guys really aren't all looking for that runway model shit, actually none of my friends even fuck with that build. If I really fuck with a girl ill make her my girl even if she don't fit my perfect girl image or whatever..but for one night stands ill get the ones that fit my desriction until it comes to a point when i can't..prolly shallow but fuck it.
Body im really not that picky, but faces im kinda super picky about, no acne (pimple or two here and there is fine tho, can't be a hypocrit), has to have pretty eyes, can't have so much makeup they look like a clown, but like femine look not tomboy look, i like a cute little noses too can't really handle extra big or super long noses she could be perfect in every otherway and have a big nose and im totally not interested. I like brunettes way better then blondes too (really not attractive to perfect blonde hair, super model body chicks) but don't want straight black hair. See kinda picky bout faces but some dudes like shit i don't like so really its all about findin right dude that likes your body.
All in all, as been said before guys really aren't all looking for that runway model shit, actually none of my friends even fuck with that build. If I really fuck with a girl ill make her my girl even if she don't fit my perfect girl image or whatever..but for one night stands ill get the ones that fit my desriction until it comes to a point when i can't..prolly shallow but fuck it.
TheCunnilingusKid
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No bigger than a size 12 ....
kittyinthedark
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cupcakez said:i get a lot more compliments when im 105 as compared to 115 or 120 (im 5'5), which i dont really understand, cuz im actually sick
it makes me scared to gain weight since im getting such a positive response to being this thin. i do miss my boobs though, and being weak stinks, so personally i feel sexier and more attractive a little heavier, but still feel resentment for having fat on me at the same.
bah, the whole thing annoys me.
Fucking gain the weight if you want to!!!
If you feel sexy at 120, gain fifteen pounds and feel sexy. You even said yourself that you feel unhealthy and weak at 105. Who cares about the "positive" responses you're getting - who do you think you're getting them from? I'll tell you - SHALLOW PEOPLE! And do you really want to bother with them??? No one will be happy with you until you are happy with you! I'm 5'4.5" and 123 pounds, and sure, I could stand to lose another five or six on my frame, but all of my guy friends tell me I'd look less attractive if I lost any more weight. If I lose that weight, whose attention am I going to get - shallow, obnoxious guys' that just want a magazine girl. Whose attention am I going to get if I stay right where I am - guys' like my friends, who I actually like! Which do you think is the smarter way to go?
If you're happy at 115 or 120, go to 115 or 120 - you've got NOTHING to lose and everything to gain I assure you (pun very much intended :D). For as jaded as I am about men (you can read some of my horror stories in TDS about how I was called fat and ugly when I weighed 120 in high school), I know that there are plenty that are MORE than happy to love my body and fuck my brains out at exactly the weight I'm at now. Look at all the posts the guys are making - they want someone comfortable with themselves. So get where you're comfortable. Besides, I'm sure you're hot as hell at 115 or 120, that's right around where I am, actually a little bit less, and I *KNOW* you're not calling me fat!!