Amusing how far we have all taken this (myself included) without a single word from the original poster that I can see!
Anyway, I think there are enough males who have posted that they often share this view to indicate to the poster that it is a widespread feeling. I will conceed however that maybe it comes more down to personal values than it does evolution, though im still sure it played a part.
We seem to have two main camps here, a group of girls who are trying to defend their right to shag, and a group of guys who are being honest and admitting this is how they feel. I must say I really dont like girls trying to explain a relatively fundamental male instinct any more than you lot would accept a guy telling you that its easy to get over ur pms and stop being a bitch, or another female emotional state we cant really relate to.
You have all made one very big flaw in your assumptions. And that is that people like archie and myself have double standards with regards to this issue. I have often found myself intentionally slowing down the increase of numbers, and was questioning myself when i slept with 4 girls in 3 months once. My total figure is 8, only one 1 night stand which was fun and an experience I would deny anyone. Ive also had fuck buddies. I have the view that one day I am going to have to explain this to someone important to me and I want to keep the figure in an area that someone with similar values to myself will find acceptable.
As for how much it bothers me, i think its safe to say its never going to be a deal breaker, everyone has a past and i can accept that but I also think that this "insignificant figure" has much more bearing on their current character than people give it credit for. As an extremely generalised guideline 0-3, would be nice if it was higher to remove some of the curiousity fairnymph spoke of. 4-12, all cool with me, up around 12 i'd be curious as to the situations around all of them, 13-20, now you really have to start making up for this in other personallity traits, you respect sex less than me, i think sex is something you shoudl typically share with someone you care about, and no one can say they cared about that many people. 21+ Sorry but now im thinking you value sex less than you would a hug, chances are there are going to be too many other value differences for this to work.
Anyway, I think there are enough males who have posted that they often share this view to indicate to the poster that it is a widespread feeling. I will conceed however that maybe it comes more down to personal values than it does evolution, though im still sure it played a part.
We seem to have two main camps here, a group of girls who are trying to defend their right to shag, and a group of guys who are being honest and admitting this is how they feel. I must say I really dont like girls trying to explain a relatively fundamental male instinct any more than you lot would accept a guy telling you that its easy to get over ur pms and stop being a bitch, or another female emotional state we cant really relate to.
You have all made one very big flaw in your assumptions. And that is that people like archie and myself have double standards with regards to this issue. I have often found myself intentionally slowing down the increase of numbers, and was questioning myself when i slept with 4 girls in 3 months once. My total figure is 8, only one 1 night stand which was fun and an experience I would deny anyone. Ive also had fuck buddies. I have the view that one day I am going to have to explain this to someone important to me and I want to keep the figure in an area that someone with similar values to myself will find acceptable.
As for how much it bothers me, i think its safe to say its never going to be a deal breaker, everyone has a past and i can accept that but I also think that this "insignificant figure" has much more bearing on their current character than people give it credit for. As an extremely generalised guideline 0-3, would be nice if it was higher to remove some of the curiousity fairnymph spoke of. 4-12, all cool with me, up around 12 i'd be curious as to the situations around all of them, 13-20, now you really have to start making up for this in other personallity traits, you respect sex less than me, i think sex is something you shoudl typically share with someone you care about, and no one can say they cared about that many people. 21+ Sorry but now im thinking you value sex less than you would a hug, chances are there are going to be too many other value differences for this to work.
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