I'm realizing that as old as we get younger people, especially our own children tend to give less credit to us as they believe we are obsolete comparing to their new and modern ideas that are empowered when they get together with friends. I feel I'm disappointed with myself but at the same time I'm trying to relate to my old self and trying to see that I was in a dark place. Way worse than what they are going through.
I just wonder if this is the beginning of a generation that does not appreciate or accept the ideas of older people. I don't feel I'm that old, but for them I am. They respect me, we have civilized argumentations. But I can clearly see that some of my relatives are so naive and can't see the obvious (of course it's obvious for me) but crystal clear for my wife as well, so it's not that I'm a lunatic. I'm just watching my hero dad years going away faster than I expected.
Keep it simple; focus on your kid;as an individual; s/he will be swayed by the forces of his generation/culture (every generation has its flaws and failings but also, some enlightenment, too) but all you can do is guide him to be his own, best self - that is your power, to help him be secure in himself - respect himself and others.
Good lesson to learn, eh!
Dad's ego needs to take a bruising; so that he can realise that he has to let go of controlling the situation in his favour
Your thoughts make sense - completely and are true - for sure but you got to own your own feelings and not project them on to your little one or their generational situation - stand back, give space and you will give the same to yourself, in turn - perspective and space to be yourself; thus empowered, in your perspective of whats happening with your kid.
So much pressure on parents and not enough decent advice and help, nowadays. Look after your thoughts, judgements and feelings, as you are
Obviously you love your 'Dad Hero' role and there is a lot of pressure with roles but it's more important to be yourself (and you seem like a lovely person;in time, your kid will appreciate it - believe me)- you are good enough - have faith in yourself, as a good, decent, DAD but more so, as a good, decent, person (the best people have lived life; have been to their dark-side and occasionally, need to visit it/face it - nobody is perfect - infact 'perfect people' are deranged; so take it easy on yourself where and when you need to and be hard on the things that need it but don't confuse the two).
You sound like a good Dad.