ageingpartyfiend
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100% truthI took a "Death and Dying" psychology course in college and had an awesome professor. He used to be a grief counselor. One of the things he told us was, "the only way to the other side of grief is through it." He also said, "It's what that particular event meant to that particular person in that particular moment of that particular person's life." We really can't know what someone else is going through.
@DesertHarp under his insecurity your brother knew you loved him and were there for him - how could he not, when you were?
I'm glad you're 'ok with feeling grief' that will be a massive help for you. Plenty are not ok with it (why would they be, it feels terrible) and try to avoid it with drugs/sex/food/whatever. It doesn't work, not for long anyway. We have to feel it to process it. Full stop. No getting away from it.
People don't wanna hear this but when it's a beloved, well, we never really get over it. In time, however long that is, we learn to live with it though for sure. It is afterall a given in life. All life dies. Ants, trees, us, the earth, the sun.
Love to all feeling loss