• S E X
    L O V E +
    R E L A T I O N S H I P S


    ❤️ Welcome Guest! ❤️


    Posting Guidelines Bluelight Rules
  • SLR Moderators: Senior Staff

the sex trade...your opinions

Status
Not open for further replies.
one of the oldest trades in the world. i think if everyone is consenting, treated and paid well and there is no issue of any kind of abuse taking place then let it be. its only natural
 
Lysis said:
No he didn't actually unless you equate a one night dinner and sex and a relationship. There's a difference and maybe that's why you have the reasoning you have.
Click to expand...

LMFAO, talk about being a prude... it's the same principle, now matter how you argue about it.

@Illyria99, there's a witch hunt going on here.
 
scureto1 said:
Basically boils down to: "Its bad for you and you may think you are okay with it, but you really aren't. If you disagree with me it is only because you are sick."

What a condescending, paternal point of view.

Do you use any drugs? What do you think of the loads of people who apply that same logic to your choice to use drugs?
Click to expand...

Pretty much the truth - not just my opinion. I do not talk lightly very often in matters of existential angst, SLR or spirituality.

Take it as you will, brother.

At the end of the day - if/when I befriend any more prostitutes, I will continue to do what I have always done - be a friend, not be overly pressing, but at the same time, in doing my duty as a fellow human being, to every now and then, when life is getting them down, suggest that they give up their day/night job and look for realizing their true potential.

I would never negatively judge a person I meet for what they do - I'm way past that, it is immature and gets us nowhere really fast - but as I said I will always try and make someone see that their path is not the only path, that where they are now is all part of the journey, and negative parts do not have to be forever, just fleeting.
 
1394 said:
LMFAO, talk about being a prude... it's the same principle, now matter how you argue about it.

@Illyria99, there's a witch hunt going on here.
Click to expand...

How is differentiating sex and a relationship being a prude? Are you sure you know what prude means?
 
One of my favourite quotes from the television show, Angel...

Angel: Sleeping together is not a relationship.

Spike: It is if you do it enough times.
 
B1tO'RoughJack said:
Pretty much the truth - not just my opinion. I do not talk lightly very often in matters of existential angst, SLR or spirituality.

Take it as you will, brother.

At the end of the day - if/when I befriend any more prostitutes, I will continue to do what I have always done - be a friend, not be overly pressing, but at the same time, in doing my duty as a fellow human being, to every now and then, when life is getting them down, suggest that they give up their day/night job and look for realizing their true potential.

I would never negatively judge a person I meet for what they do - I'm way past that, it is immature and gets us nowhere really fast - but as I said I will always try and make someone see that their path is not the only path, that where they are now is all part of the journey, and negative parts do not have to be forever, just fleeting.
Click to expand...

no that doesn't come off as judgmental at all, you know you respect these people, but if *SOME* day they want to turn their lives around and live to their full potential, man what a crock of shit lol.

It's like someone seeing me nodding out all of the places, drooling on myself in euphoric bliss, comes up to me and is like, 'don't you want more for yourself, to realize your full potential?' In that situation i would likely nod back out and forget about you, just like the prostitute.
 
Lysis said:
No he didn't actually unless you equate a one night dinner and sex and a relationship. There's a difference and maybe that's why you have the reasoning you have.
Click to expand...

I think you're missing the forest for the trees. Yes, ideal monogamous relationships are based on trust, bonding, understanding, mutual support. etc, and sex follows along naturally with all of that. Those are qualities of a healthy relationship and that's great. No one is even arguing that.

However, many relationships don't work that way. There are mind games, hoops to jump through, power struggles, etc. Sometimes men want to get what they can get sexually with no regard for who they're getting it from, sometimes women want to get what they can get financially with no regard, and vice versa. There ARE "relationships" out there where women dangle sex as a carrot to get a man to pay up enough, in the form of expensive gifts, dinners, experiences, or anything along these lines. And there are men who are okay with their relationships working that way. Are you denying that this happens? You seem smarter than that.

How are THOSE relationships (not ideal relationships, remember, we aren't talking those. we already agree on them.) different from prostitution? Just because the payment and the service are separated by a few days and a minimum few layers of complexity? I don't think that's enough to call them anything different from prostitution. Why is everyone so quick to pass judgment on those who simply remove all the pretense and mind games from the exchange?
 
Last edited by a moderator:
Illyria99 said:
One of my favourite quotes from the television show, Angel...

Angel: Sleeping together is not a relationship.

Spike: It is if you do it enough times.
Click to expand...

nice, not really true though:\

also selling yourself eats away at your self esteem because instead of being seen as having human intrinsic value what you are left with is some money and the need to rinse wash and repeat. that makes you feel like you are only worth the money you can make.
 
Last edited:
I say that if prostituion was legal and controlled it wouldn't be much of an issue. Whereas the people would need to get disease tested on a monthly basis.
Its not going away so you may as well try and make it safer. And you keep local jails free of the burden of more nonviolent offender incarcerated.
 
Illyria99 said:
One of my favourite quotes from the television show, Angel...

Angel: Sleeping together is not a relationship.

Spike: It is if you do it enough times.
Click to expand...

I know people who've had friends with benefits for months and I can assure you they're not in a romantic relationship at all.
 
I hear a lot of people talk about legalizing and regulating prostitution as if it were a magic bullet to get rid of the dangerous, streetwalking aspect of it. Won't happen, though; there will always be a market for people who want to turn tricks (and pay for them) under the radar, especially if it means saving money.
 
Pagey said:
I know people who've had friends with benefits for months and I can assure you they're not in a romantic relationship at all.
Click to expand...

I never said the relationship was romantic.
 
Last edited by a moderator:
Of course, but it would cut down on disease and needless legal cluster in the long run.
Its just like marijuana. There would still be people flying under the radar, but the bulk of the issues associated with it would decrease.
Just like alcohol and moonshine
 
Well yeah but if you don't mean it in that sense then yeah obviously people who sleep together have a relationship, as do the two of us for that matter, as would a random person and a prostitute...it's a bit of a vague word.
 
It's a Good Day said:
I say that if prostituion was legal and controlled it wouldn't be much of an issue. Whereas the people would need to get disease tested on a monthly basis.
Its not going away so you may as well try and make it safer. And you keep local jails free of the burden of more nonviolent offender incarcerated.
Click to expand...

this

although i still think its emotionally damaging behaviour to sell yourself even if the danger was reduced
 
True. Its just one of those things that WILL NOT go away. So at least trying a new approach to the issue can't hurt.
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Top