Being snarky about peoples' choices only adds to bad feelings and Pagey is obviously not feeling so great at the moment so really not helpful at all.
Addiction is a civil war inside the addict's mind.
In this conflict, on part want to continue using drug, one want to stop.
Lets see what is supporting each part.
Part in the side of the drug :
- troubles : my life is chit, i nead something to numb my pain
- craving : the drug wisper "come on, take me, i know that you want it" all the time
- witdraw / anxiety : the body shout "stop my pain"
- the drug effect : see, the world i put you in is so wonderfull, why going out ?
- fellow drugys : continue to have fun/party with us, your drugy comunity freinds
- fellow internet supporters : its OK if you do it again, you'll try to get ride of the drug later, when you will be stronger ( sure the drug will help this to append )
Part to fight the drug :
- this little voice inside that say : "Drug is not good for me, and my main goal in life is to take care of myself, i should stop"
Yes thats not a fair fight.
So when i read a post that say : "Ok, i give up, after all drug is better than my life", all i read is that this little voice is molested.
My answer is not to support the molester, but to say to this little voice : "its you that are right, the drug is not OK, and you know it, everybody knows it cause its the thruth, so dont try to pretend otherwise".
Ok, it not feals good to ear such a thing, but you have to not feal good to change your life.
Supporting is to help the fight to occure with as little sufering as possible, its not alowing the fight to stop.
And yes i speak horrible english, yes i dont know you, yes its not my business, yes i have nothing to earn to be disagreeable with this Blulight community i love.
But i also have a little voice in me that say i cant watch an be quiet when i see some very valuable person wanting to hurt herself.
And the little voice is always the one you should ear.