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The Exhaustive Social Contract

ledbyher said:
  • pause one breath before speaking. it prevents impulse blurting.
  • say what you mean, not what sounds impressive. clarity beats flair.
  • short sentences > long rambling ones. people process clean lines.
  • listen to the last word they say before replying. it stops cutting in.
  • match volume and pace to the room. regulation is contagious.
  • correct yourself quickly if you misspeak. “sorry — what I meant was…” resets everything.
  • compliment specifics, not vagueness. “that colour suits you” > “nice.”
  • don’t argue tone; adjust yours first. tone is half the message.
  • ask one clear question instead of three messy ones. focus invites focus.
  • leave space after important points. silence lets meaning land.
  • exit conversations cleanly. “good to see you — I’ll catch you later.”
  • protect your baseline. if an interaction destabilises you, shorten it or step away.

tell me if i'm way off base with this, htis simple communication stuff changed me to my core
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Doesn t sound off-base. Need s some practice before commenting. Seems a valuable tool for lubricating my communication skill s. Gonna copy paste this. 🤙maybe add:

Keep speaking on the subject/ topic instead of derailing. On impulse/ emotion or distraction.
 
i think it can be a real challenge for people with psychotic traits to stay on the rails of a conversation, its really hard to not want to break out a bit.
 
like sometimes u need to point out a distant shrub in the middle of a conversation to truely get back on task
 
Zopiclone bandit said:
You have a point.
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To expand on this I would say that social contracts, like many other human constructs are contingent on factors such as the time, place, and group you are interacting with.

There may be things that trend more towards being universal (golden rule stuff comes to mind), but even that isn’t absolute.

Consider the similarities and differences between being in line for Berghain in 2020, at a Puritan church in the Plymouth colony in the 1600s, at Mecca during Hajj in the 1800s, being a samurai in the Edo period in Japan, being a farmer in the Oklahoma during the dust bowl, being a devoted member of the Heaven’s Gate cult before the transit of the Hale Bop comet, and living on North Sentinel Island in the 1980s.

There are differences in how in-groups and out-groups are treated, differences in what is considered pro- and anti-social, differences in individual responsibility and how authority is viewed, and differences in the consequences of violating such “contracts”.

Humans must make meaning and form groups, both internally (ie categorizing things) and externally (forming associations with others). I would propose that this is due to our relatively limited ability to consider more than ~150 people (Dunbar’s number) and beyond that we rely on heuristics to compress the information of individuals such as signifiers of group membership.
 
ledbyher said:
  • pause one breath before speaking. it prevents impulse blurting.
  • say what you mean, not what sounds impressive. clarity beats flair.
  • short sentences > long rambling ones. people process clean lines.
  • listen to the last word they say before replying. it stops cutting in.
  • match volume and pace to the room. regulation is contagious.
  • correct yourself quickly if you misspeak. “sorry — what I meant was…” resets everything.
  • compliment specifics, not vagueness. “that colour suits you” > “nice.”
  • don’t argue tone; adjust yours first. tone is half the message.
  • ask one clear question instead of three messy ones. focus invites focus.
  • leave space after important points. silence lets meaning land.
  • exit conversations cleanly. “good to see you — I’ll catch you later.”
  • protect your baseline. if an interaction destabilises you, shorten it or step away.

tell me if i'm way off base with this, htis simple communication stuff changed me to my core
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Nah I have heard, even read alot of that -- if you read "The prince" by Machiavelli so have you..... and everyone should.

Little kinder and less calculated (as perhaps one should be)
 
emkee_reinvented said:
Doesn t sound off-base. Need s some practice before commenting. Seems a valuable tool for lubricating my communication skill s. Gonna copy paste this. 🤙maybe add:

Keep speaking on the subject/ topic instead of derailing. On impulse/ emotion or distraction.
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Never let emotion derail logic, purpose, or spur one to action (before careful calculation) that could lead to disadvantage. That is almost straight out of the book.
 
heavan's gate -- no that wasnt that lady (had cancer refused treatment) that was taking ALL THE DRUGS and alcohol while preaching total sobriety -- in addition to like silver poisoning or some madness ( I forget )--- than the followers kept her corpse after she died for a bit....strange.

Does anyone else feel like the social contract has quit applying to them as society certainly didn't hold up it's end of the contract? (and that is how contracts work?)

How society feels affects my actions so very rarely -- and even than it is usually just to "Not be noticed or stick out"....idk just spitballing here
 
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heavens gate - programming nerds on acid decide to catch a spaceship off earth
love has won - hippies replaying toxic mother-child, methbeat dad relationship
 
Rectify said:
Why Does Society Punish Those Individuals Who Opt Out Of The Implicit Social Contract So Severely And Who Are Perfectly Fine Going Their Own Way?

Because Other People May Notice What They Did And Follow Suit.
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A case of "monkey see; monkey do"?

The wealthy commit crimes all the time and are immune to karma.

Society is a cage for the general population to eat each other to death.

Politics is a weapon given to the general population to kill each other.

"Let them eat cake"

Cake = Politics
 
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