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the bluelight preconception, pregnancy and parenting l337ness thread

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So exciting mate!!! <3

I had another dream last night that I had a baby. I have a baby dream once every few months. It is ALWAYS a boy!
 
cluck cluck ;) damn those hormones are so friggin coercive at times. they're like a friggin mafia!


congratulations voxy! way to hit the mark so quickly!
 
I often get broody, hearing about others going through pregnancy and then baby stages again really make me want more, but we decided no more can hardly keep up with food bills, never mind the clothing costs of the ones I have got.
but if I could I would <3
 
That was an adorable video Damien =) I bet my daughter would love for us to do that to her but she's almost 30lbs now so f that!!! I think doing whatever it is that you were doing does something good to their vestibular system and thats what "makes them smarter" Our PT told us to put my daughter in a blanket and swing her around we also put her on an exercise ball and pretend to throw her and stuff like that...
 
I have yet to go next door and see Kaden who is almost a month old. My husband asked me to today to make an effort to go visit as it is the right thing to do. I get that but I feel forced to something I don't have a desire to do. The kid is not going anywhere for the next 18 years. I am not a children person. I work pediatrics...that is enough for me. She knows that.

The mother and I are friendly. I like her. We used work-out together occasionally and see each other more when it is BBQ/beer season. She is not someone I call otherwise.

I figure if it is important to her to visit, she could text me and say come on over.
If she offended, then fuck her. We are adults, convey your feelings. I am not going to assume to know what you want.

What do you think?
 
^ She's busy. Probably doesn't even notice you haven't visited.

If you're not a "children person", why would you choose to work in pediatrics?

I already distrust the medical profession -- this makes me uncomfortable. If I decide to let medical people be a part of my baby's birth, I want to KNOW that they care about babies and that they have the babies' best interests at heart.

I'm already agonizing over whether or not to have another unassisted birth at the advanced age of 40 years. Kinda wish I hadn't read that....
 
I enjoy watching the progression of a human being that I have no responsibility of...except for keeping them from going blind. I enjoy interacting with children just not on my personal time. I can see how I may have come across callous in my initial post.
 
S'okay. I'm pregnant and hormonal and probably being melodramatic.

I really am stressing the whole delivery thing, though. I did it unassisted last time, and it was fine. Wonderful, even. But I've had 2 miscarriages since then, and I'd never had any pregnancy complications before. And I'm 40. It's just a number, but so are the statistics.

I have a friend with a one-year-old that was in surgery for 15 hours to fix (as well a possible) the tendons in her arm that the docs completely ripped out during delivery. She'll never have the full use of that arm. Scares the crap outta me.

I just plain don't want anyone except me and my husband to touch our baby during and immediately after its birth unless there is a complication. I don't need help with a regular, uncomplicated birth. But I'm not too hopeful about finding a doctor that will leave me alone and stfu unless s/he's needed.

I delivered in hospital 20 years ago, and while it was not as disastrous as some stories I've heard, that doctor tried to arrange the birth for his convenience, and because he was such an ass, I ended up having a very painful 5 day labor. Arrogant prick.
 
^ I really hope you can find a solution that is suitable for you and your husband. Is the option of a birthing centre something you can think of? Having a midwife present, with the option of going to hospital if need be? I'm no doctor, but unless there are any major factors effecting you (i can't see your age being a huge issue - a good friend of mine had a midwife birth at the age of 41), i can't see you opting for something unassisted being a problem. Just be prepared for a majority of doctors not being so supportive :\

As for me, i've been supplementing my usual multivitamin regime with folic acid for the past 3 months, i've stopped drinking, haven't smoked cigarettes for ages and am back into exercise again (after being unable to for 6 weeks). I've been eating healthily for a really long time, so am only adding in more specific foods recommended for preconception. Now all we do is practice :D I've booked in with a doctor we think will be suitable to take me/us through a potential pregnancy, i'm now looking into birthing options. My husband is really excited too - he's researching and being really present - It's all a bit exciting! <3
 
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