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the bluelight preconception, pregnancy and parenting l337ness thread

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L2R, I bet today was just wonderful with little felix. He really is such an adorable child... all babies are cute, but he really is such a beautiful baby boy <3
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piktors to follow. he wore the same dress i did when i was a baby. yes a dress, all white and frilly and shit, looking just like a little bride. he didn't cry once. for about a third, he paid close attention to the priest and at oe stage grabbed his thumb.
 
L2R that is so special and lovely that he wore the same christening dress as you did! :)
Congratulations, and well done to little Felix for being so calm and relaxed! <3
 
I think that with parents like L2R & FF, he'd be hard-pressed not to be a little chillmeister <3

As for christening gowns - that is so precious! Pop and all of his siblings were christened in the dress that his dad and grandfather wore. I still have my christening gown (and my communion dress). My grandmother made both of them <3

I love Christenings - be it a religious ceremony or a naming day, they are such a happy occasion :D
 
i was expecting the godparents to be holding him for this part, but we followed the priests direction. this priest did my first communion and confirmation ceremonies.

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also another milestone was last night, felix discovered himself in the mirror. he fully scopes himself out and smiles.
 
Oh, what a precious little guy, L2R!

My tiny Axe-man and I are both doing just great! Two weeks old tomorrow, and it's just flown by! He's such a good baby, just like his big sis was. Hardly ever cries. Just hangs out in his Baby Bundler and sleeps like .....a baby, of course!. No sleep deprivation, either. He sleeps beside me, and when he wakes up squirmy at night, I just plug him in and fall right back asleep. I'd breastfeed for this reason alone, even if I didn't love the intimacy.

Like all post-partum women, I was advised not to have intercourse for 6 weeks, but honestly, I don't feel I need to wait any longer. I feel like I did before I got pregnant. Birth did no damage down there at all! I think the evening primrose oil and raspberry leaf tea made snapping back such a snap. These will be my gift to my pregnant friends from now on.
 
vox, I know he's only 2 weeks old, but I have to advise against having him sleep next to you once he's able to lift his head off the table (~2 months). Otherwise, he won't learn to self-soothe and won't be able to fall asleep without you there, and as a result, you won't get much sleep either. This is all well and good if you live in a culture or ethnic group where kids sleep in a bed with their mother well into childhood, because the culture accommodates this, but if this doesn't apply to you, watch out.

My wife and I just got back from our appointment with the high-risk pregnancy doctor. There is a membrane separating the two identical triplets. Woot!
However, even though they have two separate amnia, they share one placenta (chorion), so one triplet hogging the blood supply and stunting the growth of the other is still about an 8-10% risk, as is small stature for all three, due to intrauterine growth restriction.

So far though, it's 11 weeks and smooth sailing.

The high risk doc would like us to switch to him. He's got better ultrasound equipment, does multiple births for his job, and has privileges at a hospital that's got a state of the art neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), since triplets are pretty much always premies. At the same time, he was rather businesslike (not quite cold), and not as comfortable as the other doc with the fact that I'm a medical student. He just doesn't exude the warm, bohemian vibe that made my wife choose the original doc and his midwives. Not that a natural birth is even on the table anymore -- all triplets are delivered by C-section in this country. So we're a bit torn on this.
 
^Well, it's great news that things look good now!! :D
I'm so excited for you!!! Triplets is like a dream come true! And natural is just amazing!
Even though you aren't as comfortable with the new Dr. , I would think having someone who is really experienced and trusted in the medical community would be soothing for me.
I don't like cold Dr.'s but I like Dr.'s who know what they're doing :D
Good Luck with your decision on which Dr. to go with- and please continue to keep us updated! I can't wait to hear the sexes of the babies!! :)
(You two will make beautiful babies too btw ;)) <3
 
All three of them will be reincarnations of pre-socratic philosophers, MDAO.
 
awesome news mdao <3 thank heavens.

as for your decision, can you do a "shared care" kind of deal involving some supportive midwife as well as the specialist?
 
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Fantastic, MDAO! You, your partner and your little trio will definitely be in my thoughts - please update us regularly! I agree with L2R - shared care may be up your alley - perhaps a doula? :)
 
That's awesome to hear MDAO! And yeah that's a tough one as far as the docs go.. just go with what feels right! How is your wife doing? Is she rather scared of the idea of carrying 3 babies?? So exciting though!
 
I can't believe its been a whole year already since my little man was born. Me with my birthday boy <3 <3 <3
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Oh, LA, he looks like such a big boy! Wow! And a year goes by in such a whoosh...between heartbeats they grow up! You look lovely...and happy :) <3

I'm so ordering that book, Busty! A is for Angus!!

MDAO -- Yay for membrane!!! That's awesome! What a ride you are on! And your wife...just WOW! She's got a LOT on her plate! Betcha never found any drugs take you on a trip like this, boyeeee!

That doc, though....ugh! He sounds like the kind of doctor that made me not like doctors much. Like he would resent being questioned, or doesn't think his patients should be involved in their own health care. Maybe not the case at all, but it's the impression I get when you say he's not so comfortable with you being a med student. Still, if he's the best....well, I guess it's worth putting up with to insure the highest level of care for such a delicate pregnancy.

You are absolutely correct, of course, about co-sleeping being a hard habit to break. Fortunately, I don't really want to. I lost my first baby girl to SIDS twenty-two years ago. I've never gotten completely over it. I need to be able to feel my babies breathe all the time. I wear them during the day and sleep with them at night. I'd freak if I couldn't touch them. If 6 or 7 years of bedtimes snuggles with my sweeties is the price for my peace of mind, so be it. It's not really the cultural norm here, but fortunately, I'm something of a free spirit. I don't have much use for anyone's approval, and I don't mind being weird.

I love watching the expressions that cross my baby's face. I love looking into his fascinating blue eyes, and letting him look right back into mine. It occurs to me that I never make such intimate eye contact with anyone else.

It's really easy to live precisely in the moment right now. I want to savor them all. I wish I could save them. This is such a good time!
 
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