the bluelight preconception, pregnancy and parenting l337ness thread

[L2R]

tbh, i'm jealous! we actually wanted twins, so that whole business can be done with at once!

 

[_a_A_C_c_]

congrats MDAO

 

[n3ophy7e]

tbh, i'm jealous! we actually wanted twins, so that whole business can be done with at once!

My sister-in-law's sister had twins, a girl and a boy, and they are indeed DONE with having kids! :D

 

[voxmystic]

Thanks for all the love, everyone! I'll try to post pics soon. It's a complicated mission out here in B.F. Alaska.

Stuff I wanted to pass on, before I forget:

Evening primrose oil was SOOO awesome! This was my first pregnancy using it. HUGE difference! It makes you very stretchy. No tearing. No "ring of fire". Healing time measured in hours, not weeks. I urge every woman preparing for a vaginal delivery to use this stuff. It is Da Shizzle!

Raspberry leaf tea made a big difference, too. It makes contractions more effective without being the punch in the gut that pitocin is supposed to be. I didn't find contractions to be any more painful this time, but they worked in less time. And only 2 or 3 pushes....those last 2 kinda ran together......but probably only about 5 minutes. Really smooth. Highly recommended.

Also gotta hand it to Daddy -- he is a fantastic birthing partner, reading my signals without being told -- knew right when to massage my back and when to quit touching me, helped me with my position, and caught baby just right, and gave him straight over to me to cuddle and nurse and admire. Then he cut the cord with a brand new Kershaw knife he bought specially. We put it back in the box, and will save it to give to our son when he is a young man. His Button-Maker.

My midwife did her part to make it special, too. She LISTENED to me, and stayed out of the way until she was called. She spent most of the time knitting in the sitting room. I called her in during my first push, when my water broke. She came in and watched the delivery, and helped fetch blankets and such, but left me and my son alone to bond. I appreciate her non-invasiveness.

We could have done it alone at home again; it went off, as I expeced, without a hitch. Would have been a lot more comfortable for the nearly four weeks leading up to the birth. But I did have some extra peace of mind knowing that I was close to medical help, if it was neccessary, especially after that ultrasound tech scared me about a possible abnormality with my baby's spine (which is NOT abnormal, btw). Besides, they cooked me an excellent midnight dinner afterwards (I ate like all three little pigs, AND the cow that jumped over the moon!), and did all the laundry. It was a decent trade.

 

[Mariposa]

Mrs. Doors walked in tonight with an ultrasound photograph. There are three heartbeats, two in one gestational sac, one in another. My life has changed forever. Never in a million years did I think I'd ever be the father of triplets. I'm a real mix of weird emotions right now.

WHOA!!!

Congratulations; this is the right kind of surprise!

 

[Samadhi]

That is simply brilliant, MDAO - your life is about to get a whole lot busier and filled with a WHOLE lotta love

 

[MyDoorsAreOpen]

Thanks for all the love, guys. I'm actually a lot less freaked out about parenthood than I anticipated. I think I've gained enough life experience for being captain of that sort of ship.

My wife and I definitely feel like the subjects of some sort of cosmic joke. We feel like legendary examples of what happens of when you try to cheat what fate has in store for you. We waited late. We prolonged our youths. We discussed the cons of adding more people to the world at great length. We marveled at my failure to get either of my long-term sex partners pregnant despite spotty condom use, and wondered about both of our fertility potentials. But in the end, we were destined to have 3 kids. Maktub.

 

[L2R]

mate with virility such as yours I'm afraid of becoming impregnated just by reading your post!

you're a monster! :D

 

[drugfukkdrockstar]

Woah MDAO! That's crazy shit! Congrats man :D

voxmystic - I am so pleased to hear it went so well for ya! Congrats once again to you and your family

A friend of mine is due on the 11th! Im so excited!! Fingers crossed it all goes well for them, she has had a lot of issues during her pregnancy. Plus she's naughty... has smoked and drank all the way through it she just hasn't been able to stop herself from drinking and all that. She has had to deal with a lot of stress throughout the whole pregnancy and i guess she couldn't deal with it I am pretty concerned about the baby and for her.... the baby is apparently fine so the doc's say so far.... but yeah, fingers crossed.

 

[MyDoorsAreOpen]

DFRS, maternal stress alone puts a growing fetus at risk for lifelong health problems, before you even throw alcohol and nicotine into the mix, good god. Shake that friend of your up a little, willya?

These are stressful times. It appears my wife's pregnancy is an extremely rare and complicated sort: two identical triplets that come from one egg and share a placenta and an amniotic sac, and one fraternal triplet from its own separate egg and sperm, with its own placenta and amnion. The problem is the identical ones. If they don't have a membrane separating them, their cords have about a 50% chance of becoming entangled, killing them both, and as a result aborting the third triplet prematurely and fatally as well. Meaning, we electively terminate at least one, if not two, is we want any live births out of this at all. Two ultrasound technicians have seen a membrane. Two have not.

I was let off rotation for two hours to accompany my wife to her 5th ultrasound exam, done by an MD himself. I practically cried for joy when I spotted a thin wisp of what just might be membrane. Never did I imagine I would ever want a membrane so badly. My kingdom for a membrane.

The doc conceded he did see evidence for a membrane. But he was referring my wife to the Children's Hospital of Philly (CHOP), which he called the best Obstetrics department in the world. He said this was warranted because of the unusual natural multiple birth anyway, but assured us they'd settle the membrane matter pretty quick. We have 5 more weeks to decide about any elective terminations.

 

[ocean]

Oh wow.
I hope for the best for you guys!
Please keep us posted.
I'll sending you nothing but the most positive vibes

 

[voxmystic]

I practically cried for joy when I spotted a thin wisp of what just might be membrane. Never did I imagine I would ever want a membrane so badly. My kingdom for a membrane.

How striking and fierce our need to protect our unborn babies! It's amazing that those little globs of tissue would evoke such gut-wrenching love.

I can't imagine the pressure! Wow! All that heavy shit to absorb in less than a week! I pray all is well for your family, MDAO. Health and peace to you.

 

[Samadhi]

MDAO! I can't begin to imagine the rollercoaster of emotions you must be on right now *hug*

It's amazing what perspective does Please please keep us updated as to your babies development, there are many bluelight "aunties and uncles" very keen to know how they are

 

[drugfukkdrockstar]

DFRS, maternal stress alone puts a growing fetus at risk for lifelong health problems, before you even throw alcohol and nicotine into the mix, good god. Shake that friend of your up a little, willya?

Yeah tell me about it ... it's all pretty concerning. And yeah she knows how i feel about it and i have gone over the dangers with her, she has slowed down a lot, but not enough if she wont listen to the doctor i doubt she'll listen to me. All i know is that when im pregnant ill be a lot different.

And the hubby has stated to me that he wants to start trying for a baby! Im scared! lol... we have been preventing pretty much because i keep wanting to put it off, but after spending some time with friends who have adorable little kids it has turned my hubby into dad mode. He is threatening me that if we don't start trying for a baby now, he's gonna arrive home with a new puppy! We already have 2 dogs!! So looks like it's time. I don't wanna 'try' as such though, but yeah i guess what can come with the trying is for us to stop trying to dodge it. Im just worried ill get too crook and wont be able to work! Bah we'll see.

 

[n3ophy7e]

dfrs I know she is your friend and I'm sorry if I'm out of line by saying this, but I have to say, it really really upsets me when expecting mothers do that She is possibly (more than likely) damaging her babies health, and potentially causing health problems that will plague it for the rest of its life!! It is just so selfish What upsets me more is when I think about all the thousands of wonderful couples who dearly and desperately want a baby, and would be so caring and responsible, but cannot conceive, then there are mothers like your friend who is being so wreckless and irresponsible

I sincerely hope that the baby is okay when it is born

 

[L2R]

felix was christened today. small, nice ceremony with my family and the godparents only. it was a very good day.

DFRS, maternal stress alone puts a growing fetus at risk for lifelong health problems, before you even throw alcohol and nicotine into the mix, good god. Shake that friend of your up a little, willya?

These are stressful times. It appears my wife's pregnancy is an extremely rare and complicated sort: two identical triplets that come from one egg and share a placenta and an amniotic sac, and one fraternal triplet from its own separate egg and sperm, with its own placenta and amnion. The problem is the identical ones. If they don't have a membrane separating them, their cords have about a 50% chance of becoming entangled, killing them both, and as a result aborting the third triplet prematurely and fatally as well. Meaning, we electively terminate at least one, if not two, is we want any live births out of this at all. Two ultrasound technicians have seen a membrane. Two have not.

I was let off rotation for two hours to accompany my wife to her 5th ultrasound exam, done by an MD himself. I practically cried for joy when I spotted a thin wisp of what just might be membrane. Never did I imagine I would ever want a membrane so badly. My kingdom for a membrane.

The doc conceded he did see evidence for a membrane. But he was referring my wife to the Children's Hospital of Philly (CHOP), which he called the best Obstetrics department in the world. He said this was warranted because of the unusual natural multiple birth anyway, but assured us they'd settle the membrane matter pretty quick. We have 5 more weeks to decide about any elective terminations.

you five are in my thoughts and prayers, d.

 

[drugfukkdrockstar]

N3o - I know man i totally agree. To be honest i am actually her hubby's friend, and i have only hung out with her about 3 times... but i am close with her husband and have been for a few years and yeah i have been there for him a lot with him coming to me expressing his deep concerns for their bub.

To be perfectly honest i wouldn't actually choose to be friends with someone so selfish... My husband hasn't even met her yet, and he doesn't want to!

I have no idea how i am going to react if their kid gets born with health issues. You will be amazed how many mums actually do this during their pregnancy!

I know of another couple though that did the same thing, and amazingly so far their baby is very healthy. But as i have mentioned to them also, it can catch up with the baby later on in life too. Im sure the doc has warned them of that also... So yeah. A few women do it and it pisses me off like there's NOOOO tomorrow.

 

[Samadhi]

L2R, I bet today was just wonderful with little felix. He really is such an adorable child... all babies are cute, but he really is such a beautiful baby boy

I'm so excited to know that i'll be having a baby in Brisbane now. Where we'll be moving to is really close to the ocean and has really easy access to lovely swimming beaches. I'm craving that lifestyle so much- to be able to work in the city and then be in a completely different, laid-back environment within 35-40 mins makes me happy

A further word on the pre-pregnancy multis i'm on - i can't recommend the Swisse brand highly enough! The positive effects they have had on my wellbeing (physically and mentally) is wonderful. I can't believe how healthy my nails and hair are! I'm on a specific medication now to combat GORD (reflux disease), so have completely stopped the smallish amount of grog i have as it exacerbates the problem; i'm feeling the healthiest i've felt in such a long time. I'm being really careful with what i do with myself now, as even though we're not really trying (after the decision to move interstate was made, we both thought it would be best to not focus on baby-making so much), if something does happen, I still want to make sure i'm in good physical condition.

Vox - how are you feeling now? How is the little one?

 

[drugfukkdrockstar]

My hubby made me breakfast this morning and this is how the conversation went ~

Husband: Hey babe how do you want your eggs?

Me: Umm......

Husband: Fertilized?

Cheeky!!

 

[badandwicked]

Channel 4's been running a series here in the UK called Extraordinary Families and a few of them have featured multiple births. You can catch them on 4OD I think. The one I saw was a couple that had quads and showed the early stages, with all the soul searching some of the questions the medical profession put to them caused. They were offered elective terminations but they felt they couldn't 'play God'. Such a personal decision & I wouldn't dream of commenting. Even though all 4 girls were grown & strong the mum still got emotional remembering this very difficult part of the pregnancy. It also showed the first 6 years of their lives with all the happiness, trials and tribulations a muliple birth can bring . Good luck MDAO & family.