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the bluelight preconception, pregnancy and parenting l337ness thread

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Perpetual Indulgence said:
MUST WE WATCH THE GIFT OPENING?
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At the particular baby shower I mentioned above, not only were there about 1,000 presents, which she opened painstakingly slowly and carefully while we all sat in a circle and watched....but her ridiculous mother-in-law brought each and every item around the circle as they were opened so we could all get a closer look and offer various generic remarks of how cute each thing was. It seriously took about 70-80 minutes to get through them all.

CRINGE!!! :|
 
Perpetual Indulgence said:
TINK
You do not have to go. Nor should you feel guilted into going.
Perhaps they invited you to be polite? Was every woman invited at work?
If you like this co-worker, buy a gift anyway and give her to her personally.
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Yep, that's how id do it.

We spend more time with our co-workers than our actual loved ones, as it is. So meh - if you don't wanna go then don't. If they have a problem with it, they will get over it. :)
 
voxmystic said:
This is my last pregnancy, and I keep telling myself that this is my last shot at the joys of pregnancy, but I'm just not feeling joyous much. I mean, I'm thrilled about the baby and all, but the physical condition of being pregnant is not fun this time. I've been moody, nauseous/heartburn-y, acne-afflicted, no energy, no sex drive, bulky, and anxious.
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Thanks Vox for being real about what it's like. I'm sorry you're not having a great time of it and hope it gets better for you soon. Your post also reminded me that the same woman can have a very different pregnancy experience each time - so just because I'm miserable this time around doesn't mean it would be the same 'next time' (if we ever contemplate a next time lol!). Good luck with the VBAC quest!
 
Samadhi, my husband has definitely taught me a lot regarding finances as well. He has been supporting himself since he was 15 so he definitely has more experience than I do! I admire him for his financial savvy very much =)

Voxy, thank you for sharing. What a beautiful story and what a happy ending! I wish you the best with this pregnancy!

Mariposa, thanks for the congratulations! It sounds like you know a lot about babies and will make a great mom one day. You know you're welcome to come and babysit for me anytime ;) Also, I definitely want one of those slings... They seem like something a baby would adore; being so close to the mother and all. It seems like a great way to stay bonded AND hands free.

N3, as always thanks for your input. You always know how to make a person feel better. The more people tell me I'll figure it out, the more I believe it and the better it makes me feel. Besides, I have a few friends who did NOT seem like they would be good mothers at all (I know that's mean to say but it's true) yet they turned out to be AMAZING. This too gives me hope :P

Lacey, thanks for sharing your experience too. Once again, it makes me feel better hearing that these motherly instincts will indeed come naturally. Also, I'm so glad to hear you are enjoying Malik so much! He is so adorable! I can't wait to hear about him as he gets older. He's going to be such a cutie (not that he isn't already!).

Drugfukkd, it sounds like you are definitely going to be having a baby in the near future! I have a feeling you'll be joining this thread soon if you guys are leaving everything to chance, especially now that you're actively starting to want a baby. I have this [somewhat random] theory that a woman's subconscious can actually physically prepare her body for conception, as in, if you really want a baby, you're more likely to conceive. Of course there's no proof to back this up and obviously a lot of babies (ahem, mine) weren't exactly wanted (I feel horrible saying that still :P) but still, it seems logical enough... I think... haha. Anyway, whatever happens it sounds like you guys are well prepared and I wish you the best!
 
User Name Here said:
The husband and I have officially set up a college fund and will be dropping $200 a month into it as of two days ago.
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Wow I just googled an interest calculator and apparently if you guys save $200 a month for 20 years and just get 5% interest per year, you will have $83 326 saved up! What a great idea, I will definitely have to do something like this %)
 
Conscious21 said:
Wow I just googled an interest calculator and apparently if you guys save $200 a month for 20 years and just get 5% interest per year, you will have $83 326 saved up! What a great idea, I will definitely have to do something like this %)
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Yah, I'm really excited about it in the way that it feels good to have this sort of thing taken care of (or at least we're starting to take care of it).
 
I think I'm starting to show! I have the slightest little bump at the moment. Normally there's a teensy bit of padding over my tummy but it goes away when I suck in. Now I can't suck in this little bump, it simply remains :P

I am approximately eight weeks pregnant so I've still got a good month before things really get going but I'm already so excited! I can't wait to have a cute pregnant belly (of course I can wait for the last few weeks though which I hear are almost unbearable!).

When did you guys start showing?? How much weight did you gain? I've read that you're supposed to gain a couple of pounds every month and although I think I'm starting to show, I have yet to gain any weight... probably because I can't keep any food down.
 
Eeeeep so exciting UNH!!! <3
Yeah I think it's reasonably common to not be gaining much weight the first 3 months of your pregnancy, because of the nausea factor (in fact, I believe some women actually lose weight?!). As long as you're getting enough nutrition every day, and keeping it down of course. All the more reason to make sure that the food you put in to your body is super dooper healthy and nutritious! :)
 
It really is exciting!

And I actually did lose a little weight during the third week I knew I was pregnant. I think that was a combination of several things though, like no longer stuffing my face with holiday food and feeling nauseas all of the time. Thank god for prenatal vitamins because I wouldn't be getting the nutrition I need otherwise =/ This makes me feel kinda guilty but at the same time I can't keep anything down, let alone the good stuff.
 
Oh hun, I really feel for you <3 My sister (the one who most recently had a baby) was the same. She couldn't keep anything down, and could hardly stand up and walk around for about 2 months because of the nausea. She really struggled through the first bit of her pregnancy because of it. But once her morning (all-day) sickness subsided, she was in the clear and felt like magic from all the hormones. Hang in there love :)
 
See, this really worries me because i plan to work full time up until i have the baby - i'll have as much time as i need off (I have maternity leave up my sleeve so ill just see how i go) and then commence work when im ready to work part time till the baby is at school. But im worried ill be too crook to work while preggers! At the moment with both of our wages we live very comfortably, and im scared of not being well enough to be able to keep up with that! But then again if i manage to put off the pregnancy ill have more sick days up my sleeve :) The hubby has a very bright future with his career so im feeling good about our future.
User Name Here said:
Drugfukkd, it sounds like you are definitely going to be having a baby in the near future! I have a feeling you'll be joining this thread soon if you guys are leaving everything to chance, especially now that you're actively starting to want a baby. I have this [somewhat random] theory that a woman's subconscious can actually physically prepare her body for conception, as in, if you really want a baby, you're more likely to conceive. Of course there's no proof to back this up and obviously a lot of babies (ahem, mine) weren't exactly wanted (I feel horrible saying that still :P) but still, it seems logical enough... I think... haha. Anyway, whatever happens it sounds like you guys are well prepared and I wish you the best!
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Naww thanks hun! Yeah i guess we're at the stage where were more ready now than we ever have been. We have been together for a few years now (this year being our 6th) but we're both still young, only approaching 30 this year - so no real rush. But yeah you're right that if i did fall preggers, it will definitely be a wanted baby. :) It wont be an accident, the only thing ill be afraid of is the morning sickness and the childbirth =D

Im so looking forward to hearing all about your journey into motherhood :D <3
 
drugfukkdrockstar said:
See, this really worries me because i plan to work full time up until i have the baby
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FWIW I haven't found work too difficult so far, even with the morning sickness. The big thing for me over summer has been that work is air conditioned, and I've definitely felt much better keeping cool. Not sure how we'll go later in the pregnancy though as I have a 90 minute commute each way, I suspect that will be a bit towards the end! We're talking about using one day of annual leave each week (so I still get paid full time but effectively I'm only working 4 days) to make it a little easier.

Drugfukkdrockstar you're in Australia too, so you would know about the new paid parental leave provisions. The new 16 weeks from the government is on top of any entitlement you get from your employer. It's also an option with my job to take the 14 weeks at half pay, not sure if that would be true for everyone though? Anyway best of luck thinking it through :)
 
Busty St Clare said:
We had a potty but he just plain refused to sit on it. I got a cheap mini toilet seat that fits on the regualr one, and whacked a Lightening McQueen sticker on it. I pretty much did the same thing as you, get him to come in every time I take a pee. The problem is he lives most of the time with his mum, and she gets him to dab his willy with toilet paper after he pees. I try to take him to "big boys urinals" and show him that there are no toilet paper holders there but he resists the shake. Could be worse, he could sit down to wee like his mum's father. :\
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does anyone else just read this for the lulz? because it's hilarious. =D
 
Drugfukkd, it definitely sounds like you guys will make great parents!

Anyway, I will definitely keep BL updated as I venture deeper into pregnancy. I have even started a Wordpress account so I can document every little thing and be able to look back on it one day. I have always kept journals and I love looking through them years after the fact because you can learn more about yourself than you ever thought possible.

I feel kinda odd about starting a "blog" because I seriously doubt anyone cares. My journal entries have always been private but this Wordpress account is definitely being written for an audience (as well as myself, of course). One of the main reasons I hope people read it is because I know how much I enjoy reading other women's journals they wrote during their pregnancy. I can never read enough about it because I learn so much from every different woman and her own personal experience.
 
^ I just read the intro to your blog UNH and it reminded me of this from the 'how open are you on the internet' thread lol

User Name Here said:
I am only 22 (turning 23 in three weeks) but I am marrying this man within the next two years and we have already started planning every facet of our lives out accordingly. We are literally discussing our possible future together twenty years from now in an effort to make everything as stable and enjoyable as possible, right down to putting away 1/4 of every paycheck into a savings account and establishing credit through buying property and such.
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badandwicked said:
lol l’homme propose et Dieu dispose... or in other words, if you want to make God laugh tell him your plans...
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What a difference a couple of months can make. Good luck with your pregnancy :)
 
Haha man, when you become a dad, you'll be just as intrigued with all the birth/nursing/diaper discussion as well ;)

drugfukkdrockstar said:
See, this really worries me because i plan to work full time up until i have the baby
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Hun, chances are you'll be able to work just fine, despite the morning sickness (that's if you even have any, some women don't really get it!). Plus for the majority of women it really only lasts for the second and third months while your body is adjusting to the hormone changes :)
 
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