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Stretched earlobes on chicks: what's your take?

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Cyc said:
Body modification is a thing like washing your hair or eliminating trans fats from your diet. It's not a subculture and I really wish people wouldn't make it into one.
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I agree with this wholeheartedly.

And as to what l2r said its completey aesthetic what piercings one has or chooses to have in the Western World. It's a fairly new crop up of an old tradition no one really even has the patience to read up on let alone venerate.

Hanging from hooks can be an interesting experience, but it's certainly nothing to run home about. No more than any other kick like sex, or drugs, or gambling or witchcraft or whatever your fancy.
 
disfigurement is an absurd price to pay for a "kick". do you call that "having a life" or "being interesting"? ummm...8)
 
Yeah its a kick.

To me.

Certainly not 'having a life or being interesting.'

It was fun at the time, and in retrospect is fun now. You've got tattoos and a strange obsession with sweatshop shoes - or those more coherant or valid as things others choose?

Disfigurement? Yeah. What price am I paying btw? That I'm curious about.

Please go on in vivid detail about all the prices I pay. No one knows more than you about my prices.

It's completely objective, you don't like it obv. that's cool. I respect that. But don't get on this holier than thou shtick about "having a life." I'm not getting into an existential debate about what constitutes a life with you, like I said. I respect flat ubiased opinions but don't get personal. Or i'll get personal, which is the last thing I want to do get emotionally involved in defending an action that was mine to make. It's just not interesting conversation in my eyes.
 
yes i get my kicks from my kicks, but i can always take them off. disfiguring your ears, which you can't even cover, is a huge price for a cheap thrill. this is clearly what i was saying, ignore it all you want if you wish to remain in denial.

just having a choice to do something stupid does not validate the action of making it. the reason "i like it" goes only so far for some of us. if it is enough for you to go on, more power to you, then.
 
Been there. Done that. Had my fill, just thankful my lobes were able to return back to normal (I was at a 1/2 size). I say explore the idea, but don't take it so far if the doubts are already bubbling up AS your stretching sizes.

Personally, now that Ive somewhat partaken, I look back and I say, "Ah, wasn't worth the maintenance." Just like body piercings, been there, done that, but i realized early on that I just did not have the patience for the up-keep of these things. Not that I don't pay attention to personal hygiene, but it causes you to add additional maintenance to your body. I say no thank you anymore.

Just gotta think ahead in the future, ESPECIALLY with body modification. That shit will stick.
 
I'm of two schools of thought when it comes to body modification. There are those who do it for themselves, because they find it pleasing, aesthetically, masochistically, or for whatever reason (which is their own, and doesn't really concern anyone else). I'm fine with that and see it no differently than I would see any leisure or pleasure activity.

Then there are those who do it in hopes of changing other peoples perception of them. That I have to say is fairly lame. Then their primary concern becomes if other people will understand, or find it good looking on them. It implies self doubt about what they did, and so why then do it in the first place?
 
L2R said:
yes i get my kicks from my kicks, but i can always take them off. disfiguring your ears, which you can't even cover, is a huge price for a cheap thrill. this is clearly what i was saying, ignore it all you want if you wish to remain in denial.

just having a choice to do something stupid does not validate the action of making it. the reason "i like it" goes only so far for some of us. if it is enough for you to go on, more power to you, then.
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How do you know anything about anyone's validation other than yours?

That's what I'm curious about.

Life is transient. Get used to it. Ask Van Gogh why he cut his ear off.

Whatever the hearsay you'll get on the subject, the choice was his and his alone; and his own reasons you can never say are anything but subjectively stupid to you. You're not him.
 
dude, i said that if the kick is enough for you, then go for it. 8)

and, did you just compare yourself with van gogh?? okay master artist, what is your art?
 
Artistry wasn't relative to the man mutilating himself.

Comparing actions, not selves. Obviously.

No, you said go for it with a lot of loaded snobbish language. I don't even have anything in the holes anymore.

I'll stitch them up, shit. This isn't personal. I'm speaking for the act, not the asshole who does the act.
 
junglejuice said:
I like them

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As do I. :)

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Thou said:
...a lot of loaded snobbish language.
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Funnily enough, that's one of the things that I noticed in this thread.

xstayfadedx said:
However I hate anyone who calls them gauges, its so annoying.
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Thou said:
A woman after my own heart.

They're streched lobes. I hate that term. 'plugs' here in NY is also inferior.
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xstayfadedx said:
^yup, I use to work at a place that sold fake jewelry that made it look as if you had stretched ears.... It was the most stupid thing I ever saw and they even sold fake tapers. The worst thing is so many teenagers would buy them but wait, wait... ADULTS WOULD TOO. It was so sad. Oh how no fucks or regrets were given when I quit that job. Selling body jewelry to naive people was never fun. "What do you mean by 14 or 16 gauge?" Questions like those always made me want to just walk out and say peace.
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Goes both ways. I agree that body modification may not define a subculture, but the creation of acceptable terminology amongst 'those in the know' is often considered a pre-requisite for a sub-culture's existence.

This turned out to be more interesting than a 'tell me what to do' thread.
 
i never got my "correct body mod terminology" badge in the scouts. :(
 
I used to be one of those guys who would correct peoppe when they used terms like gauges to describe stretched ears

Then i realized its dumb to correct, we use slang for a ton of other stuff thats technically incorrect english so why not have a technically gramatically incorrect term for piercings youbknow?
 
Cause it's annoying to hear it and most of the people who use the term "gauges" are the type of kids who stretch their ears to look cool. Then they're going to be the kids who cry to mommy and daddy when the fad is over and they regret getting them. Yet I barely correct anyone, I let it slide but it does make me cringe.
 
I got a bare paw on mine instead of going up in gauge size... it was a much better option, and my tats are only visible in bl too ha,
 
that's as pathetic as when people argue over shoe nicknames in niketalk. derps with nothing of substance to be upset about.
 
L2R said:
that's as pathetic as when people argue over shoe nicknames in niketalk. derps with nothing of substance to be upset about.
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I just cringe at the thought of how stupid kids my age are and that most are stupid hipsters.... like all they want to be is different but then they're all the same. So a lot of kids get body modifications and over half of the time can't take care off them. I had so many people around my age or younger come up to where I worked with infected piercings and blownout ears..... "are my gauges okay?" Even though their ear is crusted with blood because they jusy had to go up another size w/o waiting. Or "I just pierced myself and I keep taking my lip ring out around my parents...do you think it will heal okay?" Well your lip is red and irritated as fuck. Looks swollen as well.... ah are you really this stupid? But in the end I don't need to deal with shit like that anymore so I guess I can be more calm about things.
 
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