So... my mom just found out about my drug use...
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caff: keep your head up and please don't do what you said...its not the way to go.. 
it'll be ok dear...
it'll be ok dear...
SumHiFlyingFucka
Bluelighter
How did she find out?
If it makes ya feel any better I'll tell ya a lil story about me...
One night driving home I get pulled up and searched by the pigs... Busted! So they arrest me, take me to the station and charge me (posession of MDMA - 5 pills). After a few hours there they have managed to get a search warrant signed (At 5:30 in the morning no less).
This is how my olds found out. A knock on the door just before 6am. Me(Still off my head), 4 coppers and a search warrant. Very bad. Needless to say they were not impressed.
But they very quickly forgave me, payed for my lawyer and I got off without a criminal record. I fessed up to using(how could I not) but played it down as much as possible.
Now everything is peachy. They still do not like drugs, I still do not let them know about it. But I am much more sensible about it and will never put them or myself in that situation again. Another thing I NEVER EVER keep drugs in the house, they will respect you alot more if you keep it away from them and don't put them in a compromising situation.
Be sensible and they will be understanding even if they don't like it... It may take time but it will happen. Just keep it out of their face they will choose not to know about it.
And BTW I feel the pain for ya. But all will be good. Just take care of yourself and be sensible and all will work out for ya in the end.
If it makes ya feel any better I'll tell ya a lil story about me...
One night driving home I get pulled up and searched by the pigs... Busted! So they arrest me, take me to the station and charge me (posession of MDMA - 5 pills). After a few hours there they have managed to get a search warrant signed (At 5:30 in the morning no less).
This is how my olds found out. A knock on the door just before 6am. Me(Still off my head), 4 coppers and a search warrant. Very bad. Needless to say they were not impressed.
But they very quickly forgave me, payed for my lawyer and I got off without a criminal record. I fessed up to using(how could I not) but played it down as much as possible.
Now everything is peachy. They still do not like drugs, I still do not let them know about it. But I am much more sensible about it and will never put them or myself in that situation again. Another thing I NEVER EVER keep drugs in the house, they will respect you alot more if you keep it away from them and don't put them in a compromising situation.
Be sensible and they will be understanding even if they don't like it... It may take time but it will happen. Just keep it out of their face they will choose not to know about it.
And BTW I feel the pain for ya. But all will be good. Just take care of yourself and be sensible and all will work out for ya in the end.
^- No shit it's stupid, I don't even remember it happening. All I remember is waking is being in a room in the hospital fucked up off my ass making crack calls.
The only reason I know I ate 32 is because the kid I bought them from told me when I got out of the hospital that he sold me 32, and when I got back to my house the bottle they came in was empty
Definatley one of my fuck-up moments, shit, it got me sent to rehab.
You don't plan things like that.
The only reason I know I ate 32 is because the kid I bought them from told me when I got out of the hospital that he sold me 32, and when I got back to my house the bottle they came in was empty
Definatley one of my fuck-up moments, shit, it got me sent to rehab.
You don't plan things like that.
sXbomb
Bluelighter
It will blow over in a bit. My mom is PSYCHO about drug use when it comes to me and my friends even though she and dad were big hippies back in the day. If MY PSYCHO mom could get over it, yours will too. Don't feel shitty, everyone gets caught by someone (parents, cops, S/Os) at one time or another. Stop for a bit until things get back to normal. don't do anything you can't reverse!
tathra
bluelighter
my parents found out the hard way too.
lemme tell you a story about what happened to a guy i know. hopefully it'll make you realize how not-bad things are...
this guy failed a piss test for the military, while on probation, after his CO had already gone out on a limb to keep him in the army... he was lookin at a Dishonorable Discharge from the service, at least 6 months in a military prison, and another 4 1/2 years in jail. i cant even imagine suffering through that. that would be essentially the end of his life, if his CO wanted. now that is somethin to contemplate suicide over... thankfully everything is peachykeen with him now
lemme tell you a story about what happened to a guy i know. hopefully it'll make you realize how not-bad things are...
this guy failed a piss test for the military, while on probation, after his CO had already gone out on a limb to keep him in the army... he was lookin at a Dishonorable Discharge from the service, at least 6 months in a military prison, and another 4 1/2 years in jail. i cant even imagine suffering through that. that would be essentially the end of his life, if his CO wanted. now that is somethin to contemplate suicide over... thankfully everything is peachykeen with him now
wodsoa
Bluelighter
I have also had a simular experience where my parents have found out about my drug use.
I guess I had it coming when I started dealing drugs out of the Dairy Queen I worked at. They kicked me out of the house and I had to move down to Gainesville to live with my dad. It sucked for a while, but things REALLY do get better. You're a grown man; experimenting with drugs is a part of life. The majority of people who live on this Earth cannot say that they haven't found enlightenment through chemical substances or plants. :D
Live life. Learn from your mistakes. Move on.
I guess I had it coming when I started dealing drugs out of the Dairy Queen I worked at.
They kicked me out of the house and I had to move down to Gainesville to live with my dad. It sucked for a while, but things REALLY do get better. You're a grown man; experimenting with drugs is a part of life. The majority of people who live on this Earth cannot say that they haven't found enlightenment through chemical substances or plants. :D Live life. Learn from your mistakes. Move on.
starlightgemini
Bluelighter
damn that sux hope it works out as best as possible.
it could be worse. my friend just had to tell her parents that the police just siezed her car b/c she unknowingly set up and sold to an undercover cop. they already knew she used drugs but umm..this is obviously way worse. and she's not getting her precious car back, that THEY paid for
hope it works out as best as possible.it could be worse. my friend just had to tell her parents that the police just siezed her car b/c she unknowingly set up and sold to an undercover cop. they already knew she used drugs but umm..this is obviously way worse. and she's not getting her precious car back, that THEY paid for
Why not just come clean and try to educate them regarding their drug use? Them being mad and disappointed and stuff is just natural, since they probably have the picture of drugs=heroin addict on the street.
If you're lucky it'll be like smoking, ie they'll accept it eventually. Granted, my parents don't know about my very sporadical drug use, but if they caught me I think I'd try to be honest with them.
Lies usually lead to more lies and more disappointment.
It does depend on the person though. My mom would much rather that I'd tell her what drugs I've done than having me lie all the time. She haste lies.
Anyways, the best of luck to you and I hope the situation resolves.
If you're lucky it'll be like smoking, ie they'll accept it eventually. Granted, my parents don't know about my very sporadical drug use, but if they caught me I think I'd try to be honest with them.
Lies usually lead to more lies and more disappointment.
It does depend on the person though. My mom would much rather that I'd tell her what drugs I've done than having me lie all the time. She haste lies.
Anyways, the best of luck to you and I hope the situation resolves.
my mum found out by reading my diary...then asking me questions and getting into a discussion about it and after finding out that i was knowlegeable on how the chemical effected me and everything she addmited to me that she knew, but "had seen how much i had looked into it and how safe i was trying to be" and although she didnt approve and if i got caught it was my ass and let it go.
it was a weird night.
anyways, keep your head up, downplay it and maybe try and explain to her how the chemicals effect you and how much knowlege you have on the subject (moderation and intelligent drug use stance) it may help a bit.
it was a weird night.
anyways, keep your head up, downplay it and maybe try and explain to her how the chemicals effect you and how much knowlege you have on the subject (moderation and intelligent drug use stance) it may help a bit.
BaiBee_Guhl
Bluelighter
My parents still don't know yet...but boy will that be a night! Anywayz, like every1 said just downplay everything and hopefully it'll all work out. Good luck!
CBRworm
Bluelighter
My parents found out.
I thought about suicide, more because I was such a dissapointment to them than the fear of punishment.
We lived through it.
That was 10 years ago, the last 6 of which have been the best years of my life, and they keep getting better.
The beautiful, smart 17 year old girl across the street shot herself in the head with her dad's .357 when her parents found out. That was also 10 years ago - her family has never recovered. That is much worse for everyone involved. It solved nothing.
I thought about suicide, more because I was such a dissapointment to them than the fear of punishment.
We lived through it.
That was 10 years ago, the last 6 of which have been the best years of my life, and they keep getting better.
The beautiful, smart 17 year old girl across the street shot herself in the head with her dad's .357 when her parents found out. That was also 10 years ago - her family has never recovered. That is much worse for everyone involved. It solved nothing.
fizzygirl
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I agree with the sentiment of the above...no matter how bad you think you may have bothered your parents, it is minute compared to how much they care about you...things pass with time.
I had a friend that, instead of getting arrested for a dui, made a move that became some odd strange of events that left him trying to hitch a ride on a passing train after the cops towed his vehicle. Regretably he didn't make the jump. Hindsight is 20/20, and we know that his parent's wouldve gotten over *whatever* might have seemed so bad at the time.
I had a friend that, instead of getting arrested for a dui, made a move that became some odd strange of events that left him trying to hitch a ride on a passing train after the cops towed his vehicle. Regretably he didn't make the jump. Hindsight is 20/20, and we know that his parent's wouldve gotten over *whatever* might have seemed so bad at the time.
CoOljAy420
Bluelighter
man those are some f*cked up stories. but here's a funny one about how my mom found out about my drug usage. well im just walking in from a party and my mom was sitting in the kitchen and was watching tv. turns out there was a news report about a afterhours club being busted. so she looked at me and asked you do drugs i said yeah. so she goes in a long rant about how im not supposed to blah blah blah. then here's the kicker."i better not catch you doing that ballons in my house" um ballons? after a night of weed, pills and k and she says im addicted to ballons? um ok mom no problem. goes to bed. hey just sit down and talk to your parents and have a frank disscussion about it. u can at least promise no to do drugs, they might be pissed but they are looking out for you in the long run.
nitrous oxide ballons thats my anti drug.........
nitrous oxide ballons thats my anti drug.........
caffeine_voices
Bluelight Crew
Sorry for the delay...
Anyways, About 10 mins before I posted this, I was just going about my normal day BLing-in' around and my mom walks up to me and asks me what it is i'm lookin at "Is that Kmart or something." I was just looking at some lounge posts, so I tell her it's just a forum where people post about random topics.
Little did I know she already knew what it was... somehow she found out about me posting on this board. I probably left the url in the pull-down address bar. I usually delete this stuff, and all other traces of things because I hate the buildup, but occasionally I forget.
So... then she asks if there was anything I wanted to tell her, and I said "umm, probably not." At this point I already knew that she had found out about something that I didn't want her knowing. "Do you do drugs?," she asks. "Maybe," I said. [Etc. Etc. more dead end questions.]
Then she brings out this bag of goodies that she had found in my room the other day after doing a search because of whatever she found out on here.
There wasn't really a lot of "drugs" in the bag but more paraphernalia than anything. Some random goodies included:
The E I tried to explain to her that that I'm very safe when using it, i take all pre- & post- measures possible. I also informed her about what I do for bluelight, and pillreports. And tried informing her a little bit more about the drug. She really didn't wanna hear it.
She never wants to hear anything I have to say, my way is always wrong. And of course I knew this was what she would think, so there was no use in me argueing or trying to inform her anymore.
She hasn't told my dad, because she thinks he has a lot on his mind right now and doesn't need to know i'm a fuck-up (in her opinion this is what he'll think, she's prolly right about that too).
But basically, It's never to be in my house, my car. If she ever finds anything again, i'll be kicked out. If I get locked up for anything, i'll stay locked up. She asked if i wanted to see a psychiatrist, and I told her there was no reason. I apply moderation to anything and everything I do, i'm not depressed as I once was, I only do the things I do for a little entertainment every now and then.
She walks off, and we don't speak for 20-30 minutes, and I make this post. She comes back gives me a hug and sais she loves me, etc. and she just wants me to be safe... and I tell her that's all i'll ever be.
Haven't said a word on the subject since...
Anyways, About 10 mins before I posted this, I was just going about my normal day BLing-in' around and my mom walks up to me and asks me what it is i'm lookin at "Is that Kmart or something." I was just looking at some lounge posts, so I tell her it's just a forum where people post about random topics.
Little did I know she already knew what it was... somehow she found out about me posting on this board. I probably left the url in the pull-down address bar. I usually delete this stuff, and all other traces of things because I hate the buildup, but occasionally I forget.
So... then she asks if there was anything I wanted to tell her, and I said "umm, probably not." At this point I already knew that she had found out about something that I didn't want her knowing. "Do you do drugs?," she asks. "Maybe," I said. [Etc. Etc. more dead end questions.]
Then she brings out this bag of goodies that she had found in my room the other day after doing a search because of whatever she found out on here.
There wasn't really a lot of "drugs" in the bag but more paraphernalia than anything. Some random goodies included:
- 1 broken e pill
- 1 small baggie of some flour or some other bunk stuff sold to me as k from the other night
- numerous other empty baggies i had on hand
- 2 rigs that i had taken off of someone's hands so they didn't have to take em into a party
- 1 empty vial of K that i had kept for a while
- prolly some other stuff, but i didn't get to see, she threw it all away
The E I tried to explain to her that that I'm very safe when using it, i take all pre- & post- measures possible. I also informed her about what I do for bluelight, and pillreports. And tried informing her a little bit more about the drug. She really didn't wanna hear it.
She never wants to hear anything I have to say, my way is always wrong. And of course I knew this was what she would think, so there was no use in me argueing or trying to inform her anymore.
She hasn't told my dad, because she thinks he has a lot on his mind right now and doesn't need to know i'm a fuck-up (in her opinion this is what he'll think, she's prolly right about that too).
But basically, It's never to be in my house, my car. If she ever finds anything again, i'll be kicked out. If I get locked up for anything, i'll stay locked up. She asked if i wanted to see a psychiatrist, and I told her there was no reason. I apply moderation to anything and everything I do, i'm not depressed as I once was, I only do the things I do for a little entertainment every now and then.
She walks off, and we don't speak for 20-30 minutes, and I make this post. She comes back gives me a hug and sais she loves me, etc. and she just wants me to be safe... and I tell her that's all i'll ever be.
Haven't said a word on the subject since...
DazedAndConfused
Bluelighter
*hugs* I'm glad it worked out for you...
At least now you won't feel so deceitful knowing that she DOES know. It probably won't make you feel any better to know this, but my mum found out about me taking drugs about a year ago. She and I communicate very openly about things like that, and while she was surprised, very upset and afraid, I sat her down and informed her a little bit more about E, which set her mind at ease a little.
It's nice to know your Mum gives a shit enough to be angry and disappointed with you, because how much worse would you feel if she was just like 'Oh that's nice dear'?!
Like I said, glad to hear it worked out for you :D
At least now you won't feel so deceitful knowing that she DOES know. It probably won't make you feel any better to know this, but my mum found out about me taking drugs about a year ago. She and I communicate very openly about things like that, and while she was surprised, very upset and afraid, I sat her down and informed her a little bit more about E, which set her mind at ease a little.
It's nice to know your Mum gives a shit enough to be angry and disappointed with you, because how much worse would you feel if she was just like 'Oh that's nice dear'?!
Like I said, glad to hear it worked out for you :D