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Oooh have fun RD =D

If I were you I'd make it really informal...I feel like taking someone out to dinner or a film or whatever is way too cliché and stressed out. Ask her what kinda stuff she loves doing and do that instead. I used to go rollerblading with my ex and it was much nicer than any kind of expensive restaurant :)
 
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I have a date next weekend %) What the hell am I going to do? I've never been on a proper date before :\
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Take her to some place with a lot of different activities, and figure out what you guys want to do from there.


For example, I would take girls out to either Coconut Grove or South Beach (the places to go close to me), and if she felt like eating, we would eat. If she felt like a movie, we would see a movie. Romantic walk on the beach/docks? Available. Window shopping (really not my thing)? There's a fuckload of that. And of course, plenty of places to get a drink.


Basically, take her to a place that has a lot of little places inside of it. You can't go wrong.
 
^ agreed.

the best dates are those that arent planned out too much, but where you roam together and find where it leads you. the spontaneity will keep the night fun and interesting for you both.

have fun re-distributed.

...kytnism..:|
 
Pagey said:
Oooh have fun RD =D

If I were you I'd make it really informal...I feel like taking someone out to dinner or a film or whatever is way too cliché and stressed out. Ask her what kinda stuff she loves doing and do that instead. I used to go rollerblading with my ex and it was much nicer than any kind of expensive restaurant :)
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Haha, she suggested that we do dinner and a movie with a couple that we're friends with and seeing as I hate going to restaurants if I don't have to work I suggested that I'd cook and we could have a movie night and drinks at home which she seemed to like the idea of.

dihydroxyphen - I'm picking her up from the coast around lunch so we'll have plenty of time to wander around and look at all the things.

Thanks for the advice guys.
 
Whoop hell yeah lustmord!

I went out with a friend from work dancing and ran into some girls I work with, they loved our dancing and this fine half black girl said " Jordan your a black man" cause I'm always playing rap at work and I can dance lol, Which is funny cause I know what she means. Then I grabbed her and hugged her and we talked a bit and we danced, later in the night she gave me this flirty look and I shot an aggressive smile back at her, to my surprise neither if us backed down and it was pretty intense until finally she snapped out if it and giggled saying "you're gone"
Well I just saw her at work yesterday and she said how much fun it was. I said I wanted to go out again this friday. and she got this excited look and said "yeah?! Lets do it, we should all go out together!

So now I'm all excited for the weekend, I always kinda wonder if my ego is leading me to read too much into things but who fuckin cares its fun!
So glad to have bluelight to come get things off my mind!
 
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Yep have fun Redistributed :)

Supersmoker... that sounds fun ;) don't worry about reading too much into things - just have fun and flirt and you'll have a good time I'm sure!
 
For the first time ever, to someone I know in real life, I said I'd never dated, and admitted when asked that I was a virgin.

"Really, your to old to never have gotten laid."
 
I know it's not much of a consolation but anyone who would laugh at you for that really isn't worth caring about. Of course that's much easier said than done, but it really is true...would be nothing short of pathetically immature to judge you for that in any way.
I've also noticed that with that kinda stuff, I (well, you here) tend to exaggerate people's reactions in my head. Like I'll obsess over the conversation and be absolutely convinced that they're having a ton of thoughts about it, that it's immediately gonna get out etc...and it never does. It's normal to over-analyse things after such discussions but it's rarely productive or useful IME. I know it's difficult but really - try to just ignore all those thoughts until you actually hear of any rumours or whatever, IF you ever hear of any rumours, which isn't a certainty at all. Chin up :)
 
Just means you ain't riddled with STDs and she can break you in. All pros in my book.
 
Pagey said:
I know it's not much of a consolation but anyone who would laugh at you for that really isn't worth caring about. Of course that's much easier said than done, but it really is true...would be nothing short of pathetically immature to judge you for that in any way.
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Exactly :)

It is hard to overlook what people think of you, even if their opinion doesn't really matter. But it is true... anyone who would judge you is not worth it.

On a side note, my boyfriend came back home (he was away at some work thing for almost a week). Sometimes you don't realize how much you appreciate having someone around until they are actually gone for a little while, I got a bit lonely in our apartment with him gone. And we got to have some fun last night :). It was nice thought, it had been a while :p lol.
 
So I met this chick on OKCupid. We talked for a bit, then began txting each other. After about a month of this I took her on a date. I bought her lunch & then we went to a cafė & each bought desert. I thought it went well, and she txted me afterwards saying, "Thanks for lunch. I had a nice time."
To which I replied, "Yeah, me too. Maybe we can do it again sometime." And she said, "Yeah, maybe so :)."
A few days later I txted her "Hey" a few times, and got ignored every time. After the 3rd diss I quit. I feel like after that I was entitled to something along the lines of, "I don't think this is going to work out." But I never got anything.

What do you guise think? Was she just being a bitch?
 
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So I met this chick on OKCupid. We talked for a bit, then began txting each other. After about a month of this I took her on a date. I bought her lunch & then we went to a cafė & each bought desert. I thought it went well, and she txted me afterwards saying, "Thanks for lunch. I had a nice time."
To which I replied, "Yeah, me too. Maybe we can do it again sometime." And she said, "Yeah, maybe so :)."
A few days later I txted her "Hey" a few times, and got ignored every time. After the 3rd diss I quit. I feel like after that I was entitled to something along the lines of, "I don't think this is going to work out." But I never got anything.

What do you guise think? Was she just being a bitch?
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I don't know what she's thinking, but I would cease texting her immediately until she speaks up. Don't seem desperate, or she won't come back around.

Why did you wait a few days to text her if the date went so well?
 
Bob Loblaw said:
So I met this chick on OKCupid. We talked for a bit, then began txting each other. After about a month of this I took her on a date. I bought her lunch & then we went to a cafė & each bought desert. I thought it went well, and she txted me afterwards saying, "Thanks for lunch. I had a nice time."
To which I replied, "Yeah, me too. Maybe we can do it again sometime." And she said, "Yeah, maybe so :)."
A few days later I txted her "Hey" a few times, and got ignored every time. After the 3rd diss I quit. I feel like after that I was entitled to something along the lines of, "I don't think this is going to work out." But I never got anything.

What do you guise think? Was she just being a bitch?
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That's the worst feeling. It's one of those things that's upsetting even if you don't like the girl very much.


Some people are so afraid of basic confrontation that they would rather pretend to be enjoying themselves, and proceed to say all the right things, than to have to deal with simply rejecting someone. The thing is, a simple rejection really isn't that bad. But having it dragged out, wondering whether or not a particular person likes you or not, regardless of whether you really like them back, can drive you crazy.
 
Bob - it could be something like she lost her phone. That happens often.
It could also be that she's simply not interested in you. She didn't deal with it the right way, I'm sorry about that.
Yeah, it would be nice for her to just say that she's not interested in you but not everyone has the guts to do that :(
 
Sooo I kissed the 42 yr old I've been crushing on for months. She told me how she's been crushing on me for months too. She kept telling me how awesome I am. It's funny how people love verification. Noone wants to admit it but its true. Sure, I love myself and think I'm "awesome" but god, it helps when a beautiful women tells you that. And means it.

We were standing outside and she was smoking a cigarette. The wind started blowing and her sun dress was blowing and she was having a hard time keeping it down. An army of cars came out of nowhere and drove by. She was embarassed but found it humorous. She said "you know what's funny? All of those people came out of a uterus. They were all conceived from a sexual encounter."

Then we started making out
 
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