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^^good fuckin deal man. you're on the right track. keep doing what you're doing. no matter what, don't use. keep going to meetings and get that sponsor :D build you're network as well. you got us here in SL, but you're gonna need a network locally. I'm thinking about getting a burn phone when money permits and posting the number up in SL for those who need someone to talk/text.
 
I'm not sure I'm even ready to talk sponsor yet, but maybe I should. I guess I'm not the most trusting person which makes me hesitate.

But that's just another excuse. I think I'll open myself up Friday at my AA meeting and see how things turn out.

Question, can I have a sponser in NA at the same time as AA?
 
if you wanna be technical you can have as many sponsors as you want. my sponsor works both NA/AA so maybe you can find someone who does both. then you don't gotta worry. but yes you can have one in both. I'd recommend only one sponsor though, otherwise you get in the predicament we all had as kids where one parents to talk to the other but they each tell you something different so you're left wondering what to do.
 
aliencowstorm said:
Another day of sobriety under the belt. I was having a hard time figuring out how I was feeling. It's been so long without some sort of drug in my body that its just odd...a wonderful odd.

Today I read from a 12 and 12 and worked my butt off. Hopefully I'll be able to get some sleep. That's the one thing that hasn't come easily. I'm sure it will and until then I've got plenty of books and plenty of movies I can watch with my wife. Life is good at 6 days.
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Try doing some push-ups or something for a little exercise. Hot shower and lots of water.

Reading can make you sleepy too.
 
The trouble with most people is that they think with their hopes or fears or wishes rather than with their minds ~Will Durant

Thta not directed at anyone btw I just thought you might like it. My friend texts me quotes everyday.
 
^ I find that confronting my fears and recognizing how often I say no to myself based on fear (fear of failure, fear of others' opinions, fear of the unfamiliar, fear of risk) is the most powerful way to move forward and grow as a person. I have this super-woman mom. She is an off-the-charts optimist, fearless, and the kind of person that genuinely enjoys life even in the worst of circumstances. She didn't pass on any of that genetic material to me but she did give me a model to aim towards. One of the things that I can always hear in my head when I start to let self-doubting fear dominate my thoughts is my mother's voice saying, "Oh what the hell? What's the worst that can happen? So you fail. That's called free education.":)
 
"The best thing about the future is that it comes one day at a time" - Abraham Lincoln

Was at the vape store today. The guy that owns it is in recovery. Well we got to talking today and he is going to start taking me to his home group. I've been going to the same spot for meetings for a while and I'm ready to check out some new ones.

Got his number and we are going to start chillin.
 
I love checking out new meetings, any time I'm in a different town I try and check one out. I just went to one at my parents retirement community which was kind of interesting. I was kind of a stranger in a strange land there, but there were still so many things people said that hit home.

I think that thinking with your fears is totally different than confronting fears or working through them, though it's hard for me to pinpoint exactly the difference. Thinking with fear seems like inertia, where working through a fear is proactive.

Fear is a big one for me. I need to start doing the Eleanor Roosevelt "do one thing every day that scares you" thing. Baby steps. I've been getting better at reaching out to people, which is one of my big fears, and I talked to my boss about needing more hours and asked if I could pick up any extra, which is something I never would have done before. Usually I'd just suffer in silence, too afraid they would say "no" (someone saying "no" is one of my biggest fears).

Does anyone have any recommendations for any good 12 step books (other than the big book obvs :) I really like women's daily meditation book we use at my women's meeting, but I'd like to read more. I'm gonna be working the steps for the rest of my life (and hopefully someday helping others with them) so I like to get as much perspective as possible.
 
soundsystem00 said:
The trouble with most people is that they think with their hopes or fears or wishes rather than with their minds ~Will Durant

Thta not directed at anyone btw I just thought you might like it. My friend texts me quotes everyday.
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I'm liking it. A lot of my thoughts certainly didn't come from anywhere, but my fears, hopes and fantasies and never any actual logic.
 
Fear permeates our modern society, and this really is too bad. Turn on the news, listen to the intimidating music, hear about the latest threat to the community, and so on. Capitalism banks on people's fears of inadequacy to keep money flowing through materialist markets. Our governments use a fear of punishment to keep us from acting up, and also use a fear of threats to our society to take away our freedoms. Our fears of rejection limit our ability to achieve success. The goal is to take a step back and realise what is going on, process it, and no longer let yourself be victim to it.

Once fear is eliminated, happiness naturally comes and one can take pride in how one lives one's life. The key here is humility, because as long as the masses fear what they don't understand, they will fear the person who is too vocal about no longer being afraid. In the light, we benefit from each other's strengths, and never benefit from another's fear.

Aside from spiders. Fear of spiders is completely understandable, and anyone not afraid of them is not right in the head ;)
 
Really well said, I totally agree re: capitalism exploiting fear/creating insecurity.

Spiders are kind of cool though.
 
So so unhappy with my job. When am I going to just bite the bullet and look for a new one?

I live in a central location so I could find another one. There are just so many factors though.

1. Criminal background
2. Will I make less money?
3. Can I keep my peircing?
4. Will they work with all my probation appointments?
 
^^^sometimes I wonder which is worse: being unemployed or having a job you despise. I'm unemployed currently and hate being broke. got a short trip to fund this Saturday and I gotta get loaned the money from my dad :/

I'm doing alright today though. went to an out of town meeting with my sponsor, saw my sister for a bit, now relaxing at home waiting to see this cute girl tomorrow in class. gonna try to nab her digits.
 
I was sick all night bowing to the porcelain god. At least I wasn't spinning. I can't believe I used to do this to my self on purpose!
 
I chickened out on asking for her number. ah well. will see her Thursday. I'm alright today though. got homegroup meeting after class. a bit tired but alright.
 
^ask her if she's ever interested in meeting outside of class to talk about whatever the class is. You'll need a phone number to make arrangements.

@SS--You can keep your job while you are looking for another. You've got to pay the bills but at some point you have to make peace with what you do--either by getting something that you like better or finding ways to make this job more tolerable. Good luck. Hating work is no fun.
 
Ask her if you can see her boobies! Ok, that's really uncalled for, and may get you slapped. And getting advice from the mental patient probably isn't the best idea right now.
 
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