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Serotonin101 said:
^^^dont you hate hearing shit and knowing they're right. Lol. I told my sponsor of my problem with women and he said "maybe you need to be single for a bit" and I was like "fuuuuck he's right, but I don't wanna hear it."
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Oh don't get me started on the women thing. He doesn't even like hearing my women problems anymore. He says "treat them like a little sister, he there friend and help them anyway you can." ..
 
And I do my service by helping them sexually (note: the comments I express are of my personal views and do not express what the fellowships supports) that disclaimer is for those not familiar with the fellowships lol
 
Do any of yall have friends that you hang out that still use your DOC?

Seems like all my friends are strung out on opiates or trying to get sober and constantly relapsing. It can be quite aggravating, I think I'm going to stop trying to help them get sober when they relapse every week for 6 months straight.

I don't have a problem being around opiates or being around people using them asides from being annoyed if they are just nodding out and then I will just leave.

I'm actually thinking about hitting up a NA meeting down here or maybe an AA group and lie and say that I am an alcoholic, although I still drink.
 
Just saying hi, almost clean six months now and it's been a while since I've posted here.

I did 8 weeks in treatment at the end of last year where I did steps 1-4, but haven't found a sponsor or done any step work since getting out. Been slacking off on the meetings too, although I did do a whole day's service at the weekend cooking for our local NA convention.

Definite self-seeking activity going on surrounding women, but not to an unhealthy degree I don't think. Seeing a nice girl who I really like this weekend so should stop obsessing really!

All in all everything is going ok really, finding life drug free pretty enjoyable and manageable drug free.
 
^That's good to hear, man; keep doing good!
wiggi said:
Do any of yall have friends that you hang out that still use your DOC?

Seems like all my friends are strung out on opiates or trying to get sober and constantly relapsing. It can be quite aggravating, I think I'm going to stop trying to help them get sober when they relapse every week for 6 months straight.

I don't have a problem being around opiates or being around people using them asides from being annoyed if they are just nodding out and then I will just leave.

I'm actually thinking about hitting up a NA meeting down here or maybe an AA group and lie and say that I am an alcoholic, although I still drink.
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I have a few, but usually I end up getting fucked up or at least getting really jealous of what they're on. Letting go of old friends is hard as fuck for me, especially when I don't have many left.
 
I have one friend I see regularly that only smokes weed and drinks. No friends who use heroin, I don't wanna deal with that shit or the life style
 
Wiggi: Even if alcohol isn't your DOC, AA is still gonna welcome you. Just be honest and say that you are a recovering drug addict who can't shake drinking completely, and you still think the fellowship could help improve your life. Trust me, if you try and lie, you will just feel like a POS and it will limit the help you get. If any old-timers make a fuss, don't let it get to ya. When I was doing meetings, I would say about 30% of the folks also had drug problems. If still in doubt, find a meeting on a college campus. It should be a bit more progressive.

I always said "RL and I am an addict" at the meetings and just talked in general about "my addiction this" or "my addiction that". The only time I got in trouble at a meeting was when I got too political.
 
RedLeader said:
Even if alcohol isn't your DOC, AA is still gonna welcome you.
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That really depends on the meeting IME. I've been in a few where they say, 'If you come to AA, respect us & say you're an alcoholic,' and another where someone introduced themselves as an addict & was straight-up told to leave.
 
^^if ANYONE told me to leave, I would tell then to shut the fuck up and read the 3rd tradition and 5th tradition.
 
Asked to leave? Must be a geographical thing. I have literally had my head go SMACK against the table in a meeting because I was nodding so hard and some dude offered me his coat as a pillow (not condoning that, just saying people usually were quite tolerant). But if your region is a bit more old-fashioned, I would look for young people, beginner or campus meetings.

"Alcoholic" is also very subjective, so it's really not a huge lie. I have used "RL, addict and alcoholic" before too. A quick way to get turned away from the program is by getting frustrated by the details. Go, have a coffee, just listen your first time to get a feel for it. I have probably been to 100 meetings in my life and have only met two judgemental assholes.
 
One of the reasons I dislike AA so is because of the old-timers. Those meetings were in bumfuck Louisiana too, so it makes sense.
 
The AA meetings I've been to have accepted both addict and alcoholic. That's scary to think people have been turned out of places because they said they were addicts.
 
wiggi said:
Do any of yall have friends that you hang out that still use your DOC?
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I was always "alone" in my addiction. The friends I did have, and ended up losing due to how I isolated myself with my addiction, never knew the full story. The same goes for my family. I don't think I'd have the self control or willpower to hang out with people using my DOC just yet.
 
RedLeader said:
Wiggi: Even if alcohol isn't your DOC, AA is still gonna welcome you. Just be honest and say that you are a recovering drug addict who can't shake drinking completely, and you still think the fellowship could help improve your life. Trust me, if you try and lie, you will just feel like a POS and it will limit the help you get. If any old-timers make a fuss, don't let it get to ya. When I was doing meetings, I would say about 30% of the folks also had drug problems. If still in doubt, find a meeting on a college campus. It should be a bit more progressive.

I always said "RL and I am an addict" at the meetings and just talked in general about "my addiction this" or "my addiction that". The only time I got in trouble at a meeting was when I got too political.
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We have one AA group in a thirty mile radius. I was straight up told not to come to a meeting if I didn't have a drinking problem and I was only an addict. I'm not sure if it help my life. I merely said that I wanted to go and see what it's like now, 5 years after I was told not to attend.

I've been to a good 50 meetings in my life, just several hours away from here.
 
Wiggi, there can be some very misguided people in the rooms. Please don't let that once experience d dissuade you from finding a sponsor that works for you.
 
^^^ thanks for the quote SS. I'm doing alright today. Hope all is well with you my friend.
 
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