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Should I tell my friend about his girlfriend and my brother??

UPDATE TIME FOLKS!....It went down ugly I ended up meeting up with my friend and got all of us together (my brother and the girlfriend). I simply turned to her and said "Ok this is your last chance tell him or I will" He didn't want to believe it at first. But when she admitted to it he took a while to respond. The girlfriend tried to say she was sorry and then my brother tried to say something to him but got beaten up..real bad I had to pull my friend off of him and almost got hit myself his girlfriend tried to blame me for everything and hates me now .... He is calling off the wedding and has informed his family about what has happened (this is gonna be an ugly month) it looks like my brother is going to need dental implants OUCH but oh well that's his problem, he and the girlfriend are not speaking to me either. The girlfriend called the police and my brother is going to charge him with assault and my friend got taken downtown SMH But my friend is sticking by me even closer than before:-) My parents and I don't think that my brother has any right to charge my friend with assault. Thank you everyone for the wonderful advice..I love this forum truly mature answers from everyone:-)
 
I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but out of all parties involved, I would say that you're the least affected by all this. The girl is complete scum, you're brother is an asshole, but not quite as bad. He pretty much got exactly what would be expected. Hope all goes well for you....Maybe I'm an asshole or have a vindictive spirit, but I really hope this girl suffers for this. I think she needs a little pain to effect some growth and maturity...
 
Your brother deserved his beating. He probably has claims of assault but if I was your friend I would argue that it is worth it.

I hope your brother and his new girlfriend make it though.
 
You did the right thing, man. Do not for one moment second-guess yourself or the decision you made; it was the right decision, and I think that, in your heart, you know that it's true...

I give you a lot of credit. It could not have been an easy decision to make, and I just hope that one day soon you'll be able to mend the relationship with your brother; he was acting like a real ass with that whole "if you're really my brother" nonsense. There was no reason for that, and, to be honest, he should have taken his medicine like a man. If I had been fucking around with my brother's best friend's girlfriend, and my brother walked in on me, I would just assume that he would go ahead and tell his best friend what went down, and I couldn't and wouldn't hold that against my brother.

But as for your best friend's girlfriend who now hates you and doesn't ever want to speak to you again or whatever lol well there's no loss there. I'm not sure that she sounded much like a prize exactly anyway, so pfft lol
 
BlueHues said:
I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but out of all parties involved, I would say that you're the least affected by all this. The girl is complete scum, you're brother is an asshole, but not quite as bad. He pretty much got exactly what would be expected. Hope all goes well for you....Maybe I'm an asshole or have a vindictive spirit, but I really hope this girl suffers for this. I think she needs a little pain to effect some growth and maturity...
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You are DEFINITELY NOT an asshole AT ALL I feel the same way as you do!!
 
BlueHues said:
I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but out of all parties involved, I would say that you're the least affected by all this. The girl is complete scum, you're brother is an asshole, but not quite as bad. He pretty much got exactly what would be expected. Hope all goes well for you....Maybe I'm an asshole or have a vindictive spirit, but I really hope this girl suffers for this. I think she needs a little pain to effect some growth and maturity...
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You are DEFINITELY NOT an asshole AT ALL I feel the same way as you do!!
 
verso said:
You did the right thing, man. Do not for one moment second-guess yourself or the decision you made; it was the right decision, and I think that, in your heart, you know that it's true...

I give you a lot of credit. It could not have been an easy decision to make, and I just hope that one day soon you'll be able to mend the relationship with your brother; he was acting like a real ass with that whole "if you're really my brother" nonsense. There was no reason for that, and, to be honest, he should have taken his medicine like a man. If I had been fucking around with my brother's best friend's girlfriend, and my brother walked in on me, I would just assume that he would go ahead and tell his best friend what went down, and I couldn't and wouldn't hold that against my brother.

But as for your best friend's girlfriend who now hates you and doesn't ever want to speak to you again or whatever lol well there's no loss there. I'm not sure that she sounded much like a prize exactly anyway, so pfft lol
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Excactly how I feel my brother will get bad karma for banging an engaged woman!
 
MrNoDramaMan101 said:
UPDATE TIME FOLKS!....It went down ugly I ended up meeting up with my friend and got all of us together (my brother and the girlfriend). I simply turned to her and said "Ok this is your last chance tell him or I will" He didn't want to believe it at first. But when she admitted to it he took a while to respond. The girlfriend tried to say she was sorry and then my brother tried to say something to him but got beaten up..real bad I had to pull my friend off of him and almost got hit myself his girlfriend tried to blame me for everything and hates me now .... He is calling off the wedding and has informed his family about what has happened (this is gonna be an ugly month) it looks like my brother is going to need dental implants OUCH but oh well that's his problem, he and the girlfriend are not speaking to me either. The girlfriend called the police and my brother is going to charge him with assault and my friend got taken downtown SMH But my friend is sticking by me even closer than before:-) My parents and I don't think that my brother has any right to charge my friend with assault. Thank you everyone for the wonderful advice..I love this forum truly mature answers from everyone:-)
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You obviously get the prize for standing on the side of right. But, wow ... that got uglier than I was thinking it might. I guess these situations take on lives of their own. Unpredictable.

It's unfortunate that your friend is now in legal trouble. The girlfriend called the police, and this is assault. Just understand that charging decisions are made by prosecutors -- not by victims. If it's clear to a prosecutor that your brother and your friend's ex-fiancee might not cooperate, then s/he may decide to drop the case. But, how to get there? At least for now, it sounds like your brother wants to proceed. He may change his mind, though, when he calms down and considers how uncomfortable his trial testimony is going to be. Yikes! And maybe a civil suit brought (or just threatened) by your friend against his ex-fiancee under Section 1590 of your state's civil code would make the whole situation go away? Who knows. Not legal advice ... just some food for thought.
 
It's pretty cool that your parents are smart enough to realize that, if you bang someone's fiancé for 8 months and end up having a few teeth knocked out, well that's just the way it goes!
 
The guy deserved it, you did the right thing, you have nothing to feel bad about. He put himself in that situation and got his just desserts, feeding you a bunch of emotional 'oh we're brothers' garbage to try and get you to be dishonest with your friend so he can weasel his way out of the situation, well that's just more good reason for you to feel good about breaking the news. Your bro sounds like he'd do nothing of the sort for you and fuck you over in a heartbeat if it was to his advantage, however minor the advantage. Sucks that you can't choose family. Good on you
 
why would you feel bad? your bro did a horrible thing and he deserves a punishment. to be honest the few seconds of pain dont compare to what your best friend is feeling
 
MrNoDramaMan101 said:
My parents and I don't think that my brother has any right to charge my friend with assault. Thank you everyone for the wonderful advice..I love this forum truly mature answers from everyone:-)
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well he did assault him so its gonna happen moral high ground or not.

beating people up is never the answer but everyone in this situation has to deal with the consequences.

the girlfriend is horrible. she is what caused this situation, not you. dont accept any blame whatsoever from this amoral selfish individual
 
if you bang someone's girl and then get the shit beat out of you for it, you would have to be some kind of epic super-douche to press assault charges. what did he think was gonna happen? its analogous to driving straight into a brick wall and then suing the person who put the wall there.

sometimes getting the shit kicked out of you is a good thing, keeps your mind on your business.

god, what an epic douche
 
You definitely did the right thing. You deserve a lot of respect for standing up and doing a huge favor for your friend. Their selfishness impacted a lot of people but it's better to do it now than later when they are married and go through the horrible experience of divorce.

Pat yourself on the back dude, it's easier to turn a blind eye and you didn't.
 
Man. Do NOT feel bad. What were you supposed to do, keep letting it go on, let your best friend marry this cheating bitch, and let your brother continue to bang your best friend's wife? Please. That's just not on. That would have made YOU a piece of shit, which you totally are NOT.

I'd like to hope that my friends are like you, dude. I'd like to hope that my little brothers are like you. What you did was commendable, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Yeah, it got ugly, but I think you handled things as well as could be expected. You gave her the option of being a woman and breaking it to her fiance herself, and did she do it? Hell no. If anything, she has culpability in the fact that your brother got his ass beat, as she could have prevented that by being a decent person and doing it herself! I can't believe your brother tried to make up some fucking excuse, gods, he's also responsible for the fact he got beat the fuck down on top of the fact that he was fucking her!

If anything, I would have been tempted to let it go on. I'm sure you did the right thing, pulling your best friend off him before something really bad happened, like his death, or cracking his skull or winding up paralyzed or something. There's a good chance I would have just sat there...you're a better man than I! Or perhaps just less vindictive lol. I've been cheated on before by someone I had plans to marry, so maybe I'm a bit biased by that fact.

Your brother CONTINUES to be an utter bitch by the fact that he's trying to press charges. Can't take responsibility for the fact he was fucking an engaged woman for eight goddamn months, can't man up to the fact that you had to be a human being with an actual heart by not being able to stand for what was going on, can't be a man and take a beating he WELL deserved, and runs to the cops like a cunt when he can't defend himself from the guy whose lady he was fucking. I mean, come the fuck on, he expected to not get hit for fucking someone's goddamn FIANCE, or all things? They say some guys think with their dicks but that takes the cake. I cannot.

Shit, I'd go make a deposition to the police about what went down, and if they try to pull you into court, go and testify! Make for damn sure your best friend asks for a jury trial, if it comes to that..no jury in their right minds would convict your friend with what happened to him!

Stick by your best friend, but your brother needs to man the fuck up, and someone should still kick that bitch in the pussy. I swear....
 
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