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Room 101: what is , or was, your greatest fear.

social situations social situations social situations social situations and social situations .......I'm 21 now and still fear them. Not as bad, and I can handle them decent but still scares the shit out of me.

Never finding that woman to spend my life with, never overcoming my social phobia, drug addiction, abuse. Scared rehab wont work for me.
 
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paralysis, esp. still having the same congnition/intelligence
drowning/suffocating
my parents or sister dying/getting really sick
never getting well enough to hold a job etc.
getting stabbed (this has happened to me)
getting kidnapped/forced imprisonment (has happened to me also)
being conscious of growing old (periodic reminders)
being trapped physically
 
white_magic said:
Nowadays I have a strange paranoia. I'm afraid of talking to people when other people are around. So I'm with a person or two who I'm familiar with (or if I'm just speaking on the phone with someone), it will often feel like others are listening to me and judging me.
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Same here. I hear "quit fucking mumbling" quite often from my friends. When I'm on the phone, I like to be alone, away from other people(strangers especially)

I don't know if I have one greatest fear. Probably death, and what happens afterwards. Unlike some, I am scared of dying, and not very comfortable with the subject.
 
Mine would have to be dying without expressing how I feel towards my loved ones.

Such as my kids. I dont always show my love and I made the decision to let them know how much I love them from now on. So hopefully down the road I wont have to fear this
 
KStoner6tb said:
I am scared of dying, and not very comfortable with the subject.
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You know long ago I learned to deal with this. But after the advent of finding a woman I loved and having kids; Im terrified that I will lose them. Coming to grips with others mortality has been very tough for me. I still very much love my wife (seperated) and kids, and Im afraid I will have to see one pass on. I only hope that it works out that we live long and Im the first to go. Anyway else is just terrifying to me.

Lately Ive had some emotional breakdowns at night. Ive gone so far as two write both of my sons and wife letters, just incase somthing happens to me. The boys wont be able to open them until they are 18, my wife incase somthing happens to me. I hope and pray, yes I pray, that they will never have to be opened
 
KStoner-- Try this: remember what it was like before you were born? That's what it will be like after you die. No pain, no consciousness, no anything. Nothing to fear, but at the same time, nothing really to look forward to either. All the more reason to live life!
 
Well I quoted some philosopher long ago, with the help of Pill_Thrill. I wish I could explain it. But the point is that church is a waste of time if there is no afterlife. Thus life means nothing
But not going and there is an after life is good. It pays to believe kinda thing.

It probably doesnt help you man, but Im just saying.
 
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I need that as a poster, as a constant reminder of what I don't want to be at the end of my life.
 
My 'everyday fear' is social situations. That is, speaking to people, let it be one on one or with a group, etc. Due to a speech impediment I had when I was younger (which I luckily fixed), I grew to be ultra-aware of my speaking which, though it doesn't make sense when I attempt to explain to others, makes for extreme anxiety. Combine that with my rejection sensitivity, and I have quite the phobia indeed! :(

On a macro scale, death. I mean, whose to say 'God' doesn't just send everyone to a proverbial hell-hole with infinitely-repeating torture loops?

Pharcyde said:
Yeah thats it! Im interested in the debunking though. Links perhaps?
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Maybe not what you're quite looking for, but logically speaking, an omnipotent 'God' should know if faith is genuine or a product of Pascal's Wager. Why would he reward the latter?
 
I wouldnt say Im afraid of social situations. I dont not enjoy them, the amount of people doesnt bother me or not knowing alot of people. I just get really defensive. Im sure its from being locked up and always have to be looking. Im not very recptive to small talk with strangers. Im always hawkeyeing and mean mugging. Not alot of people can really relate to being locked up repeatedly. And I dont think it a bad trait, not that you have to be on guard the whole time, just knowing whats going on around you.

Have you guysheard the USO commercial on the radio about the guy coming back from war and everybody is going "whats up killer or theres the terminator". Well its like that, not many understand but some do and know firsthand about your experience.

Moredopamine said:
Maybe not what you're quite looking for, but logically speaking, an omnipotent 'God' should know if faith is genuine or a product of Pascal's Wager. Why would he reward the latter?
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For the same reason that the "deathbed repentance" may work. :\
 
Phar-- The wiki covers a few points at the end of the article, and are summed up nicely here. Personally I'm fond of the many gods rebuttal. Using the logic of Pascal's Wager, one would have to believe and actively worship every single god ever worshipped, or else you're leaving yourself just as open as you would claim that a non-christian would be, since each god has the same likelihood of being proven as the one true god.
 
anyone conquer any fears or phobias?

i dont remember if i mentioned it or not, but when ever i would get into 1 on 1 social situations or conversations i would get tunnel vision and the persons voice would sound muttered. i was fine on a stage though DJing, or being in large crowds, im perfectly comfortable in those situations.

i later wound up in a customer service job for the first time and i thought i was going to pass out talking to customers, eventually though i became comfortable -found my knack, and excelled at chatting, greeting, selling and taking/resolving complaints. im still fine with 1on1 conversations.

if i wouldnt of been thrown out there i would still shut down most likely.
 
Dave said:
Phar-- The wiki covers a few points at the end of the article, and are summed up nicely here. Personally I'm fond of the many gods rebuttal. Using the logic of Pascal's Wager, one would have to believe and actively worship every single god ever worshipped, or else you're leaving yourself just as open as you would claim that a non-christian would be, since each god has the same likelihood of being proven as the one true god.
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I see
 
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