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Room 101: what is , or was, your greatest fear.

I had a fear of pain and dismemberment. Then i got into car accidents and a few unfun social situations. I realized that your body has limitations on pain, after so much you just numb out. I know longer where my seatbelt in a car. I'd rather fly through the fucking dashboard and faceplant into the back of a station wagon for all to see, then to suffer the pain a seatbelt will cause you. The last car accident I had , the seatbelt slit my throat and and broke a bunch of my ribs.
 
panic in paradise said:
anyone conquer any fears or phobias?
i dont remember if i mentioned it or not, but when ever i would get into 1 on 1 social situations or conversations i would get tunnel vision and the persons voice would sound muttered. i was fine on a stage though DJing, or being in large crowds, im perfectly comfortable in those situations.

i later wound up in a customer service job for the first time and i thought i was going to pass out talking to customers, eventually though i became comfortable -found my knack, and excelled at chatting, greeting, selling and taking/resolving complaints. im still fine with 1on1 conversations.

if i wouldnt of been thrown out there i would still shut down most likely.
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I used to be VERY shy, and afraid of almost any social setting. I didn't have any certain situation aide my getting over it like your job did, but I've slowly gotten more confident with age. I guess that's the generic remedy, just grow out of it, but it's how I've become a lot more at ease. Well, I'll also make an attempt to strike up random conversations with strangers when before, I'd just avoid them at all costs.
 
^ That didn't work for me. It actually got worse with age, since I kept convincing myself that I had poor social skills, and over time the internal dialogue just took over. I still have to fight it, but since getting therapy I've been getting the upper hand more often. Still hate confrontation though.

I don't think that I've mentioned my fears. Losing control of my behaviour, and not being able to understand what's going on around me.

The latter came from a series of horrible nightmares that I had as a child, where all of a sudden everyone began speaking gibberish, and I noticed that text was gibberish (detailed text rarely resolves well in dreams-- too complex). When I learned about aphasias, I was horrified to learn that such things, and far worse, actually exist.

The former came from a very bad mushroom trip. I caught a glimpse of a very bad side of me, and due to luck more than anything else I was prevented from doing something horrible. To this day even the thought of taking mushrooms rings alarms in my head. Oddly enough though, other psychs are fine. Well, except 5-meo-dmt, but that's a whole other story.
 
Love the title for this thread!

For me personally I have never really had a greatest fear, for a few years now I guess I could honestly say sobriety if that counts. Luckily I have no plans to face this fear any time soon.
 
Right now my biggest fear is running out of clonazepam.

I've been using a lot of them lately, and I'm not due for another prescription till the end of the month. :(
 
RedLeader said:
^ Yes please be very careful with that. I trust you've heard the rumours about benzo WD :\
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Oh yes, I've already experienced the joys of benzo withdrawals. One time I woke up in the emergency room after collapsing from a seizure. :\
 
I believe someone in this thread mentioned that they were afraid of radiation. That is probably my most debilitating simple phobia and I believe I will never fully beat it. As a child I was horrendously afraid of nuclear war. I have learned everything I can about different types of radiation. And even though microwave ovens are not powered by ionizing radiation, I am scared to eat anything that comes out of them to the point where if something is microwaved, I will refuse to eat it and even be rude about it at other people's homes. Friends and family have tried to sneak me microwaved food which has caused me to not speak to people for several days. I ask at restaurants, too, usually.

I'm afraid of a violent and/or prolonged death, such as an accident or attack in an environment of mass panic in particular.

One phobia I have largely beaten is that of flying and by extension, heights. It used to take multiple milligrams of Xanax to get me on a plane, and then I'd have to chase it with a drink or two. That isn't so anymore. I am fine flying with or without it.

Another would be the fear of becoming schizophrenic, as my mother was. This passed when I was in my mid twenties and basically out of the woods statistically speaking.

I'm not scared of sobriety; it's been a welcome change.
 
not much, let it come, and I'll deal with it, defeat it, or it will kill me. Kind of emotionally flat, but "doesnt afraid of anything" sure beats "I'm a 23 year who does <blah blah blah cool stuff> and EEEEEEEK and millipede! kill it for me Sergeant!"
 
thought id drag this out again mwuahahaha.

im still not good with tarantulas, and deep water.

my agoraphobia is in check.


did you share in this thread before?any updates? have you gotten over any fears you had listed before? any method to your madness?
 
Probably dying with a needle in my arm

or

Turning into a evil person, god that would be horrible

peace.
seedless
 
Kerrigan said:
Losing my mind. It's happened before, and I'd literally do anything to prevent it from happening again.
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Same here Kerrigan. It snuck up on me and the next thing I knew it was sheer panic, afraid of everything, like neurons were lighting up everywhere in my mind and I had no way to control them. Fortunately for me when this happens (it's occured many times) I realize what is happening and I just manage to get a grip. This happened to me when tripping a few times too. That was a lot harder to gain control back. I think that is the biggest part of this = losing control and being in fear of it. It makes no sense to try to explain how it starts to someone because there is usually no reason why it starts. You just feel it coming and the sheer panic sets in. Again, I regain control by letting it run it's course and thanking god when it's over. It's called a panic attack and Xanax works wonders. I take (3) 1 mg. Xanax's per day as prescribed my my shrink. I have not had a panic attack like this in months since I started taking the Xanax. It seems to keep my mind in balance. I still have fears and whatnot like everyone else but it never blows into a full force panic attack such as you described. Talk to your shrink about it and if you haven't got one get one. BTW: I'm afraid of heights too but they thrill me.
 
Vicodin isn't safe.....

I've been noticing a lot of people are taking large doses of Vicodin (>15mg.) I hope you realize that the 7.5/500 (that's 7.5 mg of Vicodin plus 500 mg of Acetominophen) is fine if you take 2. but any more than 2 at a time gives you an overdose that can screw up you liver in a very short amount of time. A friend took 30 5/500 vicodins and was on dialysis for 2 months. Her kidneys just shut down and she has permanent liver damage. She was fortunate to walk out of the hospital alive. Now she has liver ailments she's getting treated for but they tell her over time the liver will heal itself.
 
my biggest fear is being homeless i was homeless from age 16-18 i dont ever want to return to the streets worse place ever
 
I am afraid of bears. Don't laugh too hard but I am scared shitle#$ of the things. I am a backpacker and I have to go through a lot of rituals to make sure the bears aren't going to eat me at night. I don't understand the phobia. When I was a kid we used to practically toast marshmallows for them. Now I put anything that food or personal productts into a bear proof container and haul it up into a tree before bed. I can't even eat a Snickers bar before I go off to bed cause I'm scared the bear will smell the wrapper and come in my tent to find it. I am a single long distance hiker and you have no idea what a pain in the ass this is. I used to live in Maine but now I'm in Arizona. They have hungry bears here too, and here in the Senoran Desert I have no place to put my food. I end up burying it and covering it with rocks every night. It sounds stupid but have you ever met anyone who messed with a bear in the middle of the night? It's a pretty good bet that half their face is gone from one swipe of a bear paw.
Snakes, tarantuala's, spiders, who cares but them bears scare the bejesus out of me. I'd rather take on a pissed off mountain lion. Anybody else scared of bears????
 
Lights0ut said:
my biggest fear is being homeless i was homeless from age 16-18 i dont ever want to return to the streets worse place ever
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Hi - how did you become homeless in the first place. I came pretty close to it when I go out of high school. I lived in a friends cellar but his mother kicked me out and I had no where to live except for my girlfriends dorm room. Sounds like fun but it definiteely wasnt. I lost all my connectionswith the outside world and became an alcoholic. This went on for about 2 years on and off. I feel for you. Having no place to sleep is a shitty thing. I finally got a job through a friend and got my shit together. I rented a cheap room and then things started going ok for me,As long as I worked I ws ok. I hd friends again, parties to go to and life was good. You just do what you gotta do man. On the job mostly. That's what straightened my life out. I made some close friends back then who I still keep in touch with - that was 30 years ago. I was a beatnik man.
 
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Prof Kayyos said:
Hi - how did you become homeless in the first place. I came pretty close to it when I go out of high school. I lived in a friends cellar but his mother kicked me out and I had no where to live except for my girlfriends dorm room. Sounds like fun but it definiteely wasnt. I lost all my connectionswith the outside world and became an alcoholic. This went on for about 2 years on and off. I feel for you. Having no place to sleep is a shitty thing.
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every time i here i feel for you a tear comes to my eye. Its so sad that these kind of things have to happen but hey it makes the beautiful flower we are today. I became homeless when my step father kicked me out he was a super religious freak and because i smoked and drank i was a demon. my dad lived far away so i could go live there and keep going to school, i felt school was the best thing for me. I slept at bus stops and a little fort me and my buddy's made near my old house. I thought living with my dad now would be fun since hes just like be... terns out hes a bigger alcoholic than i remembered and now is spending all his money on booz i think il be homeless soon since i don't have a job praise the lord if i get the job at cornerstone this coming monday! I got a interview and i believe that;s all i need to make them like me i'm a very likable person lol then i can get out of this hole hopefully with no drug addictions "cross finger"
 
My fear is basically the same as it always was. But i think ive found the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with though the situation is somewhat complicated. That would take up a whole damn thread of it's own :\ .

So yeah dying alone as a alcoholic, junkie, waster is still my overall fear. I also fear myself sometimes as strange as it sounds. Ultimately it comes down to the fact that unless some weird accident occurs me and my fucked up head are going to be the ones that decide how my life goes. Now thats a scary thought 8o

Sorry bout the ramble but i have insomnia :|
 
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