Tali said - "But IMHO, generally, you can feel if theres chemistry. Although when emotions are involved, what you think might be attraction on there part might simply be them just being them and you creating this mega image and fantasy of you to together that you start believing it could happen. Gah. Stupid fantasies. Drive ya a bit nutty..."
^^ Now YOU hit the nail on the head
I can relate to that for sure.
I do feel that you can transcend the friend to relationship barrier and I have experienced that 1st hand (though it was never an 'official relationship'). It was amazingly close n was such a great connection but in general, it fucked me round something hardcore. Emotions cloud logic and lets just say that during that period it was like a goddamn thunderstorm in my mind. However, that was individual to my situation, not saying everyones sitch is going to be like this.
The friend/relationship thing CAN work, but its a bad approach to take if u want more than friendship. Why wait around letting all the thoughts and feelings within bubble and boil until they finally erupt in some emotionally driven confession of feelings to the friend... if they don't feel the same way then its a fucking hard thing to respond to. Emotions can do very strange things to our logic and often cause us to act in irrational and ineffective ways. To parallel the concept, good fighters stay composed and relaxed, if they get angry they will make mistakes as they begin to act on emotion. How often have you done something when your in a hopelessly emotional state of mind only to really regret it later?
It's exciting to be driven by emotions, but it does not always eventuate in the best result.
Adikkal