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Relationships

Still in the process of having an extended break from soul connection relationships.
Not going that great, to tell you the truth. :\
How is it possible, for one person to *keep finding* people that take her breath away with their beauty and divine natures?
 
my longest relationship was for 7 months, then a couple of years later 3 months with the same girl..... im only just 19 tho, plenty of time for serious stuff later...... unless a mad chick came along that was just too good to be true.... but im not holding my breath
 
After 8 months of brooding, someone has gotten past my emotional defences. Did I let them? Or did they just do it? Either way. She and I are in agreement that we dont want anything exclusive, just someone to hug, be nice to and sleep with.

Sleep as in sleep, not "sleep". :D
 
Ugh
I have strong feelings towards this:
I fucking loathe the idea of casual sex.

It shits me. Sex for sex's sake just doesn't happen. Eventually something else will come along (this is aaaaalll imho, btw) and fucks up the effortless ideal, leaving you with a mess. Or maybe this is because I get attached to people.

And on that note, a relationship is the way to go.

Although at the moment, I don't think I'd be able to tolerate anyone. Better sort myself out first methinks.
 
I NEED SEX NOW
Not really appropriate seein' as i'm sitting in the labs at uni but that's beside the point.
My god my life is sad.
:)
PEACE
 
heh ^^ I like your posts, they make me laugh.

I hear you - b/f is away in Sydney at the moment. But I am at home studying, can always surf for porn I guess.
 
Sunflower your almost always on the same page as me when it comes to the way we percieve other people (or at least their online personas!) I was thinking the exact same thing about K_T. haha...

ANyway.

ive come to the conclusion im destined to be alone forever and i should value my time with my cat considering shes the only one capable of giving me lovin' and gettin' my lovin' back.

!!!

hehe

No. Im not really *that* cynical. Better off this way.

Gahhhhhhh.
 
awww you are a pretty, cool chickie - you will meet an amazing guy! I have felt that way often though, am single more than in a relationship, don't understand people who jump from person to person without any singleton time - weird.

Am just crap with guys I think - am going out with a boy for a change (lately!). Yay for me.

:D
 
can i just say that after being single for over a year, it's really hard to get myself back into relationship mode..

i've been seeing a couple of girls, one more serious than the others, and it's really hard trying to commit back to just one... :(

any ideas on ways to commit??
 
Becoming a gimp comes to mind, but I don't think that would really appeal to you (unless you're more twisted than I thought)

marriage maybe?
move in with her? She can keep tabs on you then :)

[edit:] Spelling nazi Number 546357 fucks it up again!
 
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Am totally on the realtionship deal. After every one nighter, not that there's been many, i'm always left so fucked up wondering who was using who. Even though there was something attracting me to that person in the first place.
It's almost becomes like some stupid test, if you can get them home and they won't "sleep" with you, it's like they suddenly become the most desirable women in the world. And you get the chance to actaully have a meaningful converstaion. If they do ,your just left wondering where do you go from here, the mystery is lost, and it's like your moving forward but it's all out of sync.
Am trying to start a realionship at the moment after four weeks, which started out on one night stand, and wish it hadn't. I just feel like you don't know which way to move when youv'e gone so far forward in one night. Should have listened to my own advice.:(
 
Moebro: You sound like a bitter, bitter old man. ;)

Taliana: You're an awesome/ attractive/ intelligent/ fun chick who just needs to find someone who can match you on all levels! That's the only reason you're single.

I've compiled a list of traits off the top of my head that I want in my next man:

- emotionally stable
- doesn't spend more on clothes than I do
- knows the difference between loving his car and being in love with his car
- like clumsy chicks who dribble when drunk [very important]
- appreciates the value of sleeping in whenever possible
- likes watching sport [and he can play sport as long as he doesn't expect me to watch if it's early in the morning =D]
- can laugh at himself, at me and at the rest of the world
- has to be able to tolerate laziness, smoking, bad singing/dancing
- respects me and my friends
- is passionate about something [I don't care what]
- can make me laugh [and laugh and laugh and laugh]

Okay I think I probably cut out 99.9% of the male population there.
 
u just described me..... except i dont have a car...... or my learners.... and im 19, hows that for laziness :p
 
muzby said:
can i just say that after being single for over a year, it's really hard to get myself back into relationship mode..

i've been seeing a couple of girls, one more serious than the others, and it's really hard trying to commit back to just one... :(

any ideas on ways to commit??
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Muzby: I don't think you will have any trouble commiting when you find the right one, because you will just really want to commit, even if you try not to. If you've only been single for a year, maybe thats not long enough and you should keep playing that field.

and (a more serious) answer to your question "any ideas on ways to commit??"
all u can do is be open and receptive to love, think about the qualities you want in a relationship, like up_all_nights list. develop these things in your life/ yourself and you will more likely attract a person who has them. but all in all these relationship things just happen you don't really have *much* of a say in timing or anything, they just come when they want to.

- *o holy one*
 
I've come to realise that the secret to a good, equal relationship is when you want to be with someone, but know you don't need to.

You should always feel that you can *leave at any time*. That you will be okay. From that comes TRUE commitment, because your choice to stay comes from free will, not dependence.

When you know you can leave, it brings a whole new level to your communication. You keep your personal integrity intact - for example you're not afraid to say "No, I won't do that", or "I won't allow you to speak to me that way", because hey - you have options. You have the balls to set boundaries with each other, and nip manipulation and stupid games in the bud.

You can stand up for yourself, are free to be who you are, because you have options. You know you won't emotionally distintegrate if the relationship fails. That's the best position to be in... and believe me I've been in both. :)
 
belisimo said:
[all u can do is be open and receptive to love, think about the qualities you want in a relationship, like up_all_nights list. develop these things in your life/ yourself and you will more likely attract a person who has them. but all in all these relationship things just happen you don't really have *much* of a say in timing or anything, they just come when they want to.
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i know exactly wot i want, and thats the trouble... each of the girls has these features, but not one has ALL of em....

if only there was a way to combine the three of em... then i'd have the perfect girl.... :)

plus, she'd have three sets of tits! =D =D =D ;)
 
Ha. You people who think you know exactly what you want are going about it all wrong...

What you need to do is compile a list of everything you don't want. Eventually, your list will get so long (if nothing else, bitter experience will do that) that there's only one obvious candidate. Then you have a relationship with that person.

Desirable qualities are great for getting attention, but they wear off as the relationship progresses. No matter how hot the body or witty the conversation, you will get to the point where you take it for granted. What you want is a lack of stuff that will piss you off, horrify you, or otherwise drive you away ;)
 
Joellercoaster said:
No matter how hot the body or witty the conversation, you will get to the point where you take it for granted. What you want is a lack of stuff that will piss you off, horrify you, or otherwise drive you away ;)
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That's so true. Let's face it, we're all horribly flawed and I believe that the trick to a successful relationship is finding the person whose flaws are compatible with your flaws.

Another thing I find interesting [and I can't remember who I talked about this with] are those people who have never been in a relationship because they're waiting for 'that perfect person'. Personally, I'd have no idea about what sort of person I'd work best with if I hadn't had the [sometimes] bitter experience of past relationships. Despite what people say about discovering who you are when you're single, I've learnt the most about myself through different relationships.
 
eze451 said:
u just described me..... except i dont have a car...... or my learners.... and im 19, hows that for laziness :p
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Well i'm 26 and my L's have expired on me 4 times now and i still haven't renewed them so i think i beat you :p lol

and i'm over this whole relationship thing i've decided. Don't care anymore.

*stamp feet*

*crosses arms*

*stands in the corner*

:p :| 8)
 
I'm currently trying a internet dating site. I've done a few dates...and they arent turning out what I thought they would. Honestly I dont consider myself ugly or stupid desperate etc.....but some of these people just seem a little wierd.

Which ok I'm making this whole bunch of new friends......
but I dont know...It's difficulte trying to create a romantic relationship from scratch on the spot. Especially when there is no chemistry. In a sense, I think that I almost insist on the friendship side of things, because I hate the concept of ''romantic dating''...so to speak.

anyway..its great meeting new people and learning about them, although im becoming increasingly convinced that I will remain single because my standards are too high.
 
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