Xorkoth
Bluelight Crew
I think there's something to be said about having a connection to your home and building roots.
I just don't think staying in your hometown should be viewed as a bad thing.![]()
Yeah, I agree with that, and I don't mean to sound like I don't. I think I have a different view of my own hometown because I come from the suburbs of a really big city... and suburbs are so soulless. Nobody there seems very connected to anything but themselves, if even that. Well, not nobody of course. But it's a general trend. And everything looks the same as everything else.
Just a though; maybe you're wanting your brother to follow in your footsteps a bit too much?
Not everyone is a world traveller and I think people today put too much pressure on making people think that they have to leave their hometown to have a real life.
Maybe your brother is someone who is okay with staying in his hometown with his high school sweetheart. It seems like the modern world is so cold these days when it comes to love. People split when an inconvenience arises, infidelity seems very common, that kind of stuff. Maybe this girl is the right one for your brother but they've hit a snag in their relationship that seems to be based around an extremely simple thing; a 3 hour distance that is only temporary in the grand scheme of things.
Well, for sure my little brother wants to travel. He's always talking about how he hates living in Illinois where we're from, and about all the other places he wants to see and live.
But you're right in the larger sense, that I should let him do as he wants to. And I will. I just feel like he's been influenced by my dad and me in that both of us found the people who would end up being our wives as our second serious relationships, and here he is on his. Yet they seem to have very little in common at all. I just think he's trying to force it to happen, and their incompatibility is really coming out during the distance, and it's causing him a lot of stress and turmoil in his life. I guess I just don't see it working and I hope for him that he can get past it as quickly as possible so as to be fully open to enjoy college as much as possible. I broke up with my previous serious girlfriend from high school before college (actually she broke up with me), and I went to college with a clean slate, and met my wife half a year in. And I had the best time of my life by far all 4 years of college, instead of worrying away my days and traveling back home every other weekend.
I hope he can have the same.


